my youngest daughter aged 30,has been dropping gentle hints that she prefers female company to men.?

Question

How should I react.

Answer 1

love and accept her

Answer 2

It sounds like she is dropping hints because she is scared to fully come out and say that she might be gay/bi-sexual. Just give her time and, without putting the issue on spot light, let it be known that no matter what she does in her free time you will always be there for her and love her unconditionally. I am sure you can think of ways to throw that into the conversation without referencing sexuality.... whether it be an outfit she's wearing, her hair color, a funky person walking down the street "I'd still love you even if you looked like that" there are many different ways to hint at acceptance. Just let it be known that however she comes to you, she will always be your daughter and you will always love her!
Good luck, be strong, be open.

Answer 3

As long as she's happy be happy for her. And unless she flat out tells you she's a lesbian don't make assumptions - maybe she hasn't found the right guy yet or one worth talking about. If she is a lesbian and is trying to feel out your response by dropping gentle hints then just give her your support as a loving parent.

Answer 4

Reactions are natural. You can't really fake it. Your face may be saying one thing but your eyes will be showing your true reaction to her preferences. Just reassure her that you love her. She's not sure how you will react herself which is why she's 'dropping subtle hints' instead of just telling you. You could sit her down and tell her that you know and you're ok with it.

Answer 5

Don't react much at all - just nod wisely as if you have always known. If you have strong objections, let her know you love her but that there will be limits to your endurance ie her bringing gfs home and kissing and what not. If you don't mind then thats okay.

Answer 6

I think that you should be open minded to her feelings. When you are closed minded you can make your daughter feel distance and that is not what you want. She at least feels close enough to you that she feels she can tell you anything. My mom is one who is closed minded and we don't have a relationship. I love my mom to death but she don't except me for who I am and it really hurts. There is a distance that can't be over come.

Answer 7

Is it really that big a deal?
Just act naturally, don't give any hint that you find it odd or disguisting and if she does eventually tell you then don't seem at all suprised.
Just act like you saw it coming and reassure her you don't care.

Answer 8

how do you think you should react? do you really need to guage public opinion here before you can make a decision about your emotions towards your daughter?

i didnt think so.

if it bothers you it bothers you but chances are, if she is gay, it bothering you won't make that much difference. she's free to live her own life regardless and she will whether you support it or not.

Answer 9

Maybe you should ask her? You could do it a round-a-bout way, just to make it easier for her to come out and tell you.

You need to accept it, remember she's still your daughter. It's part of who she is.

Answer 10

as a parents you should happy for ur children what ever their gender either male, female, gay or lesbian becoz this is where they r happy and all the parents in the world even animals wiahes happiness to their children, just be there whatever happens and help and support her if she needed.

gudluck!

Answer 11

Whats wrong with that ? I am Bi, and my mum accepts it.

I still have loving relationships with men, but also like certain women. It is not wrong.

She will need your support not anger or exclusion.