I have two best friends, one being male and one female. We decided to have a sleepover to celebrate my 16th birthday, however when i was getting dressed in the morning, my male friend walked in on me in my bra and pants! I was mortified!
He ended up not knowing what to do and remained still staring at me while i was in shock ... and now everytime i see him, he seems to think its funny to ping my bra strap. I've explained to him that just because he has seen me semi-naked doesn't mean i want anything to occur out of it. We are still really good friends, but there is always a bit of tension between us. Is there any way i can get through to him without hurting his feelings?
2007-08-03 10:10:44 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He is just covering up his embarassment. I would give it time. It will be okay.
2007-08-03 10:13:31 · answer #1 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie in 15 years time you will both laugh about it trust me
Boys have been pinging bra straps since bras where invented
Tell him that yes hes seen you in your underwear and the fairest thing would be to see him in his underwear - if he agrees tell him that youd rather he stopped pinging your bra strap and if he says no way tell him well it makes me feel like uneasy when you ping my bra strap and you want him to stop
Humour really is the key here my love - good luck
2007-08-03 17:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by Mama8 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, bikinis show more these days. The embarassment will fade. He is a teen with hormones surging. He obviously saw hat he liked. Take it as a compliment. He may have felt unccomfortable and pinging your bra strap is his way of dealing with it. Or he could now just have this giant lovesick crush on you. Tell him not to mess with your bra because it makes you uncomfortable. A pop on his hand may be in order!
2007-08-03 17:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by zen 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty hard for me to believe your parents let a boy sleep over your house, best friend or not.
BUT if you already tried talking to him rationally and he's still messing with your bra strap and whatnot, you might have to be more stern to get your point across. You're not interested in him like that and it was an accident he has to understand that. It may hurt him at first if he was hoping to go further with you, but if you're that good of friends he'll get over it in time.
2007-08-03 17:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by Queen of Spades 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, what he saw is the equivalent to you wearing a bikini. So it shouldn't change that much between you. But it sounds like he liked what he saw, but doesn't know what to do from this point. Make it clear to him you don't appreciate his new favorite joke. And if he snaps your bra one more time freak on him. Then don't talk to him and don't return his calls for a few days. Hopefully that will make it clear that he needs to stop.
2007-08-03 17:23:46 · answer #5 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quick rule of blokes is were all kids inside, i ping my missus' bra strap in public!. in asda i'll sneak up behind her and grab her **** crack making her squeal. the big difference is were both over 30 you two are just kids starting out on life. tell him to stop! no means no!. but remember this there are scumbags who would gladly do more than ping your bra strap aged over 40 years of age. he seems a good mate tell him to stop! but dont giggle when you tell him. have your most seriousest face on so he knows it.
2007-08-03 17:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you dont appreciate him messing with your bra, and to stop. Don't worry about hurting his feelings, he isn't worrying about yours now is he? Besides seeing a girl in a bra is not like being naked, you see just as much on the beach, or swimming.
2007-08-03 17:15:48 · answer #7 · answered by grouch2111 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
what a nerd he is or may be just immature
if he did not pluck your bra strap before tell him straight to stop it as its not funny .
i personally cant see the problem as i have slept with a few of my female Friends with out any thing other than shared bed space .
2007-08-03 17:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by mark the spark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's embarrassed by it and trying to cover it up by making itout as "No big deal" by pinging your bra strap just laugh with him.
2007-08-03 17:15:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I assume that you two being friends and nothing more he should understand that nothing's gonna happen. What you should do is ease the tension and make jokes about it as well, but don't call him a pervert or anything.
Yeah, make jokes just not at his expense.
2007-08-03 17:17:06 · answer #10 · answered by buddingcaptaincrunch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you like him as a friend, but you don't want anything to occur from is. Probably best to do it when you have your arm around him.
2007-08-03 17:16:27 · answer #11 · answered by Olly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋