homosexuality a transition to bisexuality?

Question

I hear a lot that bisexuality is often regarded as a transitional stage towards homosexuality... but I read part of that Klein book (the part that was allowed to be read in Google)... and it offered the scenario that sometimes homosexuality is a transitional stage towards bisexuality, which as I see it makes sense... (in learning to accept feelings contrary to the norm, you might be more apt to accept all feelings, blurring the gender lines)

I mean regardless of sexual orientation, I don't think anyone could completely rule out the possibility of falling in love with someone of the gender contrary to their sexual orientation..

My question is.. are there any bisexuals who experienced this?.. or generally, what are your takes on this?

Answer 1

it's just another form of social deviant behavior

Answer 2

This is how I see it:

First, think of sexual orientation as a spectrum with only having the capability to love and be attracted to males at one end and females at the other. Most all of us fall somewhere in the middle – normal – and those of us that fall closest to the middle can label themselves “bi,” if they wish. If we just took out the bi section of the spectrum, imagine all bis landing somewhere on it with some being more attracted to and able to love women more often, and some are more attracted to and able to love to men more often. Few bis feel 100% equal. Second, many bis, after dating both sexes for a while, often end up developing a preference for one sex over the other, and I do not see this any different than developing a preference for redheads, etc. Third, most bis I have discussed similar subjects with will say that it was very confusing growing up because they had crushes and had been in love with both sexes at some point. Therefore, I strongly feel that being bi is more a matter of the heart, and either your heart has the ability to love both sexes or it does not.

I do not think there is a much movement for anyone along the spectrum. Sure, all people develop certain preferences, as I stated above with hair color, but, overall, you are who you are from birth, and despite what you do, you cannot change that.

Answer 3

My take is that in this day and age everything is so blurred and confused that pretty well anything is possible.

Reality is that each person is somewhere between 99% straight and 1% gay to 1% straight and 99% gay by nature. But their environment causes them to be reluctant to face their gay side; the more hostile the environment, the harder it is to be yourself. So, guys, once freed of the bad environment (eg when they go away to college), will possibly flip from appearing straight to appearing gay as a reaction to the previous restrictive life. However, after they gain the freedom and realize it is okay to be yoruself, they well may find their orientation lies more to the middle and thus drift that direction.

But as puberty and sexuality make for one wild ride, it wouldn't surprise me if guys flip back and forth almost every time they change their underwear. After all, those are the prime years for heightened sex drive, lots of questions and confusion, lots of fears of allowing their sexuality to show, etc. So, who really knows if a guy in that age is gay or straight even if he's seen kissing someone of one gender or the other.

Answer 4

In my opinion homosexuality or bisexuality is not a transition of any kind. A person is either one way or the other. There may be a few exceptions since nothing is written in stone. In my life's experience all of the homosexual people I know have remained homosexual and the same goes for bisexual people. And yes, there are people who can rule out falling in love with the opposite sex if they are homosexual.

Answer 5

not exactly but it can look that way. it just means you have urges toward both sexes. it could just as easily happen in the opposite way when a man who has only ever tried gay sex tries it with a woman and prefers it. you can never convince me it doesnt happen because it happenned to a close friend of mine.

I know I was his his first and between girlfriends we would play, but then he got married to a lovely woman and is very happy.

but yes it mostly works in the other direction where guys who were playing straight were really having it both ways until one day they found a guy they liked enough and settled down. thats why my dads advice to me was the best .

if you think there is a chance that you could be happy with a woman, keep all the other options to yourself and stay in the closet till you know for sure. theres no point in telling everyone you are gay if you arent really sure because they will never beleive it if you try to convince them of the opposite later

Answer 6

i've got continually believed that approximately bisexuality. i think of that's an extra handy way for many to start coming to words with their homosexuality. that's lots extra handy to assert "properly i'm going to like boys, yet a minimum of I nonetheless like women too". Sorta retains one foot in straightsville, which makes it somewhat extra handy for one to settle for. although, I def think of there are actual bisexuals, only not as many as you could still think of.

Answer 7

Makes sense in theory, I'm not sure how it measures up in actuality. I never had a Bisexual stage, I just knew when I was gay.

Answer 8

yes, it could go either way as humans explore their sexual orientations.
don't try to make definite rules or anything.
just accept people as they are and realize that anyone has the right and capability to change their ideas as their life progresses.