Me and My boyfriend have been dating for 5years. He had a child when I met him. I was not allowed to date and see him and we were 16 1/2 years old. He cheated on me with in the Second year and we broke up and got back together. Ever since he has not cheated. The girl called him a year later after the incident and said that she was pregnant. but recently we (yes it took that long).. found out the baby is his. The reality has hit me that he has 2 kids and we are 21 now... I dont know what to do because I am ashamed and I know how my family will take to this... not good! We are both down and sad, but I know he has change yet TWO kids! Wow! thats alot to deal with and I dont have any! I am hurt all over again and dont know if I'm wrong for wanting to leave!... I broke up with him two days ago because it was too much for me... but he still calls..Whats your advice, what should I do?
2007-08-03 10:01:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who cheated on you and who has two kids by two different mothers? It isn't going to get any better honey - and he isn't going to change. Does he pay child support? If he doesn't then he's a cheater and a deadbeat!
2007-08-10 16:15:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are to young for that type of baggage.
Not to sound blunt..... but if you really loved him you wouldn't of broke up with him because of something that happened so long ago (and you were aware of) if you loved him you would of stood by him without question. If I am wrong and you do love him, and maybe just made a hasty decision because you were overwhelmed, it's not fair to leave him because his discretions (that you knew about and took him back after) produced a child.
However, I do think you are doing the right thing. I am sure there is more to this story but from the details you sound like you'd be better off without him.
In the end only you can tell yourself what to do..... but I think you already know.
Best of luck.
2007-08-03 17:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by Marilyn M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should forget the past and move on to built good future since you are very young. If you have not done good education then first enrolled in school and take good career courses. So that you can earn and leave self sufficient life and do not depend on some one and spoil you life.
Once you start earning and good job then think of relationship and go for good choice of character who respect you, love you and ready to share your happiness and worries in life. It is equally important to get support from family members like mother and father who have given birth and took care of you till this age. They are the people who know you from childhood and your nature and your potential what you can do. They will be at your side when you need them once you are lonely and need advice.
Keep good friends who are source for inspiration and give good advice when needed.
good luck !
2007-08-03 17:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by john12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cannot afford to cheat anymore two children resulted in this .Ask yourself do you want to be a parent of his cheating.Start your life in a new direction and start fresh with your own kids and you will feel a lot better and that baggage you will not have to feel bad about anything.Count your blessing that you will be blessed with a fresh new start.Good Luck.
2007-08-11 12:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by girlygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you really need to think about this,he has 2 kids,and only 21,he cheated,and did not even use a condom,and you must realize,these other women are always going to have some part in his life,then there is child support,that he will have to pay,i think you deserve a hell of a lot better then that,don't you?
2007-08-08 16:38:18 · answer #5 · answered by tnsupermomwhit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young and I know it is hard but move on for your own sake .
You would be weighed down with major problems financially as well as emotionally before you even start .
Wish you every happiness in your journey its a big world out there .
2007-08-11 02:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by dishwashingqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live and feel this way the rest of your life or move on.Those are you choices.the longer you put it off the more oppurtunities for a fun and happy relationship are passing you by every day.Many times per day.Good luck.
2007-08-03 17:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP making excuses for him. He is simply not mature and really doesn't know what he wants in his life. What about using comdoms while having sex?
we can't make the choice for you only you know what is in your own best interrest. Good luck
2007-08-10 23:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone with out so much baggage to drag you down. he is like a toxin that makes you feel bad and you owe him nothing it is his problems and you are not responisble that he can keep his thing in his pants!!! move on and find someone who will appriciate your loyalty and make sure he doenst have such big issues
2007-08-10 12:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by aleka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him and get moving hes seeing this woman when he sees you and this isn't lie.hes got kids and you don't you dn't need the baggage so find somone with no one and that is what is good take care
2007-08-08 21:21:37 · answer #10 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋