I have a friend that is whipped beyond belief. We just graduated in June and he has spent from the minute he is awake to the minute he falls asleep with his girlfriend. Then, when all the guys want to do something, he either just leaves or brings her along to wreck the day. So we haven't talked to him for like three weeks, and we go talk to him last night and he didn't even seem excited to see us. It pisses me off cuz we are all leaving on missions soon and he doesn't even want to spend time with us, even though he doesn't leave for another year so he has all that time to be with her. I'm just ready to say screw it and just not try anymore. What should I do?
2007-08-03 09:54:37 · 10 answers · asked by jhs_hj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's a lost cause. Go to Damons, order an onion loaf and watch MLB on the big screen without him.
2007-08-03 09:57:38 · answer #1 · answered by steven_p_ohio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever straight up told your love-happy buddy how he's totally ditched you guys and how you all feel? I mean, if you don't speak up, you'll all run out of time, and then be off and in different directions in life. If you are friends...you should be able to talk. Save anything even remotely negative about his girl to yourself. How you feel about his girl seemingly stealing time away is not going to go over well if you blame her. The truth is, it takes two to tango, and he has opted to stay primarily with her for whatever reasons. Just keep the focus on him, and the fact that...well hell, you'd like to see him more often than once every blue moon.
The fact that you are all about to go out on missions compounds this. Time is of the essence! And I would be crushed if I was about to leave, and my best friend didn't come to see me before I left. You can offer the invitation, and if he doesn't make it a point to show, I would let him know how you feel.
If you've already talked to him, and he's still making the same decision, then I think he's made his choice. The best advice I can give you there? Wish him the best, and be on your way. You don't necessarily need to end the friendship, or stop associating with him...he's just lovesick. It'll cool over time, believe me. You'll meet up again in a few years and by then, he'll WISH you guys would invite him along to boys-night-out.
I truly believe that he can sacrifice a few hours of fun with his bros - without his girl - so you guys can hang out again before you're all shipped out.
Give him a call.
Good luck!!
2007-08-03 10:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by kadara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, don't be judgemental on your friend because he is "whipped". Once you fall in love you don't want people judging you because you want to love this one person to the fullest.
But, if this is interfering with your "boy" time and he is so called "wrecking" the nights by bringing her or cancelling then let him know how you feel. Don't give him an ultimatum, don't desert him, and don't criticize him. You are suppose to be his friend and you should show it by sticking around through thick and thin. I am sure he was excited to see you..you know yourself that guys do not show much reaction to anything. Don't take it personal and just talk it over. Tell him to maybe set aside a few minutes of his time to talk to you and if he values you as a friend then he will.
Goodluck!!
2007-08-03 10:25:22 · answer #3 · answered by Oops, did I say that? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him be. He is making this choice with regards to how he spends his time, and obviously you and the rest of the boys do not care very much for your buddy's girlfriend.
You should just back off, go out with the rest the group, and let him initiate any get together or join you when he can make the time. Tell him that it is boys night out, and no one is bringing any lady friends, so if he wants to spend time with you she should stay at home. If he does not go along with that, then you have done all you can, and you have to accept that sometimes friends, even the best of them, might drift apart in the course of life.
2007-08-03 10:00:01 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay I hate it when people get all bitter on here with there answers, but I can't help it. Why not either be happy for your friend, or get a girl yourself.
2007-08-03 09:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by Brandi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just keep not talking to him until he finally realizes that he needs u guys as friends. he is eventually going to come crawling back to u probally becuz he screwed up. hope i helped.
2007-08-03 10:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by OC girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though he is already screwing it. Leave it be.Incidentally when you said whipped you meant p-----whipped. Right?
2007-08-03 09:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get as far away from him and the mormon church as you can as quick as you can, You'll feel better about yourself.
2007-08-03 09:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by Grumpyoldfart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
CTR afterall it is fool proof....lol yeah right
2007-08-03 11:04:48 · answer #9 · answered by yahoochick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he isn't interested in you anymore.
his life has changed.
let it go. basically you are just bugging him.
wait for him to call you.
2007-08-03 09:56:46 · answer #10 · answered by Sufi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋