My dad caught me and my boyfriend!!!!! What to do???? PLEASE, PLEASE!?

Question

My boyfriend and I (he is 17, I am 14) were @ my house while my dad went out shopping, he said she would be about 4 hrs.
We were just watching a movie, then we started making out, then before we knew it I was on top of him, both of us were in our underwear on the floor.
I was humping him, we were both moaning, he got erect, and told me to do him harder. Just as he said that my dad walked in the front door and saw us, he came home earlier then he said he would. What should I do??
He has not talked to me scince that happened, and he would not even look at me all through dinner. I am REALLY afriad he is going to tell my mom, what should I do? What should I say to him?
I promised her that he could trust me before he left, I had not planned on doing that with him, it was spur of the moment. We did not really have sex, we both had our underwear on.
Is he mad at me? What should I tell him? What if he tells my mom?
I am really nervous.
What do I say?
what about my boyfriend?

Answer 1

wait your dating a 17 year old guy when your only 14

Answer 2

There's really not a whole lot you can do at this point but wait for him to calm down and process what he witnessed.
All parents tend to have this problem of forgetting what it was like when THEY were kids (I am a parent, I have parents, it wasn't THAT long ago for me, and I have to remind myself of the things I did when I was a kid, I haven't reached the teenage stress yet with mine, but it's coming)
Now, a four hour shopping spree for a man sounds a bit shady, I can't help but wonder if he said that to see if he could catch you doing something wrong, I'm a shopping fanatic, and even I don't stay gone 4 hours. You should always assume that you're going to get caught, and be ALOT more careful. Fact is, you're going to do it eventually, and maybe it's time you have the "TALK" with your parents. I say, 14 is a bit too young. Seriously, what if the condomn brakes, the birth control fails. Here is my 2 cents, I am 28, I have three children. My first was conceived when I was 20, I was on depo prevera, my 2nd was conceived on an IUD, and my third was with a condomn, so do I think birth control is a joke, you bet your @$$ I do, and if I had lost my virginity at 14 and ended up pregnant my mother would have done alot more than ignore me through dinner. I probably would've ended up in a convent. Give your Dad some time to vent and think about the situation. You weren't actually having sex, but foreplay isn't far from it. If he does tell your mom, you have to face her as well, and now is the time to be brutally honest. You're nearing promiscuity, you know the facts, you need birth control, you love your boyfriend, you're not dumb enough to be unprotected etc. Just remember what I said, in my opinion, there's no such thing as birth control, so take it slow, if your boyfriend loves you he will wait.

Answer 3

Your father trusted you with a guy (a much older guy, at that) in your house. You completely blew your trust with him.
YOU need to be the one to say something. Apologize and say something like,
"Dad, I know you trusted me, and I messed up. I understand that you're probably mad at me. But please understand, I'm upset that I did that too. It was a spur of the moment. It will never happen again, and if there's anything I could do to gain your trust back, just tell me. I'm sorry, Dad."
If your mother finds out, oh well. It happened and you can't take it back. You'll just have to gain their trust back.
ANOTHER THING. You should know better to do that with a guy, but your BF was the older one here. He should know better, and maybe more than you. He's responsible if he'd do something like that with you. Now you know, but be careful. That is something you'll always regret if you go any further next time.
I've been there, I'm not just saying this. BE CAREFUL.

Answer 4

There are few options open to you. You are 14, your are living at home and will continue to do so, you will either be told to LOSE the bf or you will come to your senses and break up with him. Either way he is taking advantage of a minor and will find himself in jail if your parents decide to get tough. Don't even start about humping with your underwear on......you could still have become pregnant had to ejaculated, panties are NOT birth control! As for your father, you have no idea what you have done to him, this is a man who created you, saw you born, has LOVED you from day one, has protected you and wanted his princess to remain pure until marriage, the hardest part of being a father is knowing the girl he loves as much as life itself is no longer innocent, you literally broke his heart. He will of course come to terms with this, he will most likely punish you (as well he should), there is little doubt he has spoken to your mother about what he witnessed. YOU chose to indulge in an adult behavior, now you will have to face the consequences. He will never stop loving you, he will eventually forgive you, he will never fully trust you again though, you betrayed a sacred trust. You are not the first to get caught in a compromising position and I guarantee you won't be the last, now you need to TALK to both your mom and you dad and accept the punishment.

Answer 5

Well sweetie u made ur bed and know u have to sleep in it. 1st off u r to young to date an 17 yrs.old and to be having sex anyways. There's not really much that u can say to ur father right now b/c he caught u n da act. He's hurt & disappointed in u. He trusted u and u betraded that trust & trust is a hard thing to get back once it is lost. It will take him a long time to trust u again & ur boyfriend if u still have one after all this blows over.And then u disrespected his home. Even though u r growing up but in ur father's eyes u r still his little girl, his baby. U have done a number sister girl.Give him sometime don't try to force urself on him.

Answer 6

Look at it from your Dad's point of view. He is really disappointed in both your lack of judgement and his lack of judgement. and probably figures he was stupid to leave you alone in the house with the BF. You and the BF are kids with raging hormones. You shouldn't be left alone with BF until you're in college and your parents can't see what you're doing. Your parents are way too young to be grandparents. You are too young to have a sexual relationship. Talk to your dad and apologise, remind him that he was your age once too. MEanwhile cool it down with BF and wait until marriage or at least till you're 16 before going all the way. Remember you only get ONE first time make sure it is really special and if BF won't wear a rubber he doesn't really care about you. Maybe you should read up about teen pregnancy and HPV.(can cause cervical cancer) Get a job as a mother's helper or something working with little kids. you will see what a tough job it is.
Good Luck you got in a little trouble but you have plenty of time to try to regain your folk's trust. It ain't gonna be easy/

Answer 7

Wow! Im not going to tell you what you should have done because thats not going to help anymore. WEll first of all you have to realize that your dad is more hurt than angry, you hurt his feelings with your actions. You are 14 years old and he sees you as a young child who should not be concentrating on those things yet; in his eyes you are innocent. I think you need to try to talk with your dad and really apologize because honestly it just wasnt right, you disrespected his house in so many ways. I think your boyfriend needs to apologize too if he really cares about you. If your dad tells your mom you should be ready for the consequences. Unfortunately there isnt much to do in this situation but be honest with your parents.

Answer 8

it sounds like he is hurt and disappointed in you at this moment. He is probably also very embarassed. Give him time and then try to talk to him and apologize. This is just my opinion, but I really think you are too young to date. I also think you are too young to be with a 17 year old. You need to calm down and not rush into anything because one day you could take things too far and have sex. Then you could possibly end up pregnant, or have an STD, or even worse have AIDS. You are only 14, you are just a child. Slow down you have your whole life ahead of you.

Answer 9

This is your own fault, your dad should tell your mom btw. He’s lucky he came home when he did, otherwise you’d be on here eventually saying “I’m pregnant, how do I tell my parents?” Lets face it had daddy not come home when he did, it would have likely gone all the way. If you weren’t planning for this then you probably had no protection on you. Unless your guy carries some in his wallet which at his age wouldn’t surprise me.

I’m not sure why he’d [your dad] allow his 14 year old daughters boyfriend whose 3 years older then her to stay over when no one else is home, unless you invited him over with out your parents knowledge. You’ve probably blown your parents trust, your fathers probably in a state of shock or denial on what he walked in on but eventfully that will pass. You just have to face the music.

Answer 10

First, you are dating a 17 year old guy and your 14. That is just the recipe for hooker or sexual confusion later on. You need to be with someone closer to your age when you are under 20. Later on in life its not a big deal to date older people, but right now you are young and inexperienced. This guy you are dating is 50 times more experienced than you, and that is just from the 3 years he has on you.

Second, if you Dad asked if he could trust you alone, and came home to that then Ya he is probably pretty pissed. You are too young to get into that stuff just yet. You need to use that awesome power women have and just wait to have sex. That stuff you were doing with him turns into intercourse really quickly. Trust me I know. It usually starts with him being like, "Hey what if I put it in, and then take it out immediately." Next thing you know you guys are bumping ugly's like you've been doing it all your life.

You need to talk to your dad alone. He might even be a enlightened father. He probably knows what you are going through, and how hard it is to keep out of that trouble. Just stress to him that he can trust you, but you will learn when you cannot trust yourself. You need to know when you cannot trust yourself, and be the mature one. That will regain confidence in you.

If he is one of those uptight dads that know nothing about women, and young women then you might have a hard time talking to him. However, the stuff I said above will work for that situation too. A father needs to realize that you are human, and you are having the same urges he had. Sometimes its just really hard for a father to see his daughter grow up and get into sex because they still think of you as that little girl they used to spoil all the time.

So long story short, you did mess up, but you can rectify it. If your dad has issues that he cannot get over then you will just have to let him think what he is gonna think. Just see if you can appeal to the side of him that remembers when girls started growing boobs. Once you get him to understand that its natural and you are going to be smart about it you will get through his worried state.

Answer 11

Thank GOD he came home when he did or you might be pregnant right now-doesn't seem like there was ANY THINKING GOING ON here. You are one of two things:

1. Not ready to have sex. (legally you are not)

2. Ready to GO GET BIRTH CONTROL and PLAN your LIFE, including sex. That's what MATURE people do.

This spur of the moment , romantic s**t has LIFETIME IMPLICATIONS. WAKE UP!

You could (not likely, but possible), even get pregnant from what you were doing.

As to your mom, well, don't do the crime if you can't do the time.