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so i dont know what to do. i am depressed all the time. i try to be happy but i am not. see growing up. my mother would tell me things like my dad hates me, i have mental problems and things like i am a liar even when i am telling the truth. and to top it off she would check with me every week to make sure some of her friends had not "touched me"

and i wasnt popular in school so i had kids being mean and just no escape.

even though she knows she is wrong she refuses to talk about it with me. she is over it so i should be to she says...to this day it bugs me. it depresses me. i dont know how to get through it. people around me are tired of me being down about it. i am trying to get over it. i thought if me and her talked it out i would be better. but she wont.

what should i do. its just a night mare i cant escape even years later.....

Answer 1

You could try to work it out on your own and try understand why she did it and where she was coming from....then let it go....

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Maybe you should let it go....you should not let events or people, even your mother stop you from living your life and being happy....

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Try to build a relationship with your mother where you can talk about almost anything and then bring it up....

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Corner her and make her speak to you about it....if you think that that is the only way for you to overcome the depression....you could also try seeing someone and/or taking antidepressants.

Answer 2

Try to get some professional counseling to turn your head around. Not a prescription drug, but some real life coaching.

Just because someone can reproduce does not mean they should. A lot of kids have been abused and neglected because of this. Your mom was/is a mental case, and unfortunately the stress made you so sad that you were attracting more abuse at school. You should have been removed from her "care" early on.

Most school kids look for something to flog a classmate about... if you are not baseline "normal" and they latch onto it, the abuse and bullying can be relentless. Your sadness made you a target. The really sad thing is that you didn't or couldn't reach out to some adult at school for assistance.

You gotta turn this around. You are a good person, a worthwhile person, and you do have intelligence and talents that you need to develop. Make a list of all the things you can do and that you know. You will discover you are better than you imagined.

When you finally overcome this abuse you have taken you will emerge so much stronger and smarter... and probably able to help someone else recover from the same type of situation.
See if there is some place for abused women and children, like the Houston Area Women's Center. Such an organization will be able to refer you for counseling assistance.

Have you talked to your dad about any of this? Are there any grandparents or aunts you can talk to? You didn't mention your age. If you are still in school or in college, please visit the school nurse.

Answer 3

i'm sorry :(, its sad that a mother wouldnt wanna talk things about. maybe shes afraid of bringing it up and afraid of talking about it. i'm not gonna say don't be depressed but talk to someone else you can rely on, maybe see a psychologist? try to put everything in your past behind you and think, life is too short, is it worth being upst all the time? go out and live. if you cant have that mind set then you do need to see a pyschologist.