2007-08-03 09:27:50 · 53 answers · asked by Ronnie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whats the deal with all "Why get married?" answers! Its not easy to pick up women every night when you're 46. Its better to have one at home all the time!
2007-08-03 09:41:46 · update #1
You should have told her a long time ago.
2007-08-03 09:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by JB 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You mean to tell me that you reached 46 years old, and
you haven't learned to be honest yet?
You should know by that age, supposedly of adulthood,
that getting married is a serious Affair, and you don't Play
with Anyone's Emotions...
I'd be more than a little angry if I were in her shoes, and
we got married, and then you'd tell me, something so
heavy as that...
ALL ASPECTS OF A PERSON'S LIFE, All cards should
be put upon the table, and let them fall where they may...
for Eternity of the Marriage is based upon the Ace in that
Deck...Otherwise the last card dealt, Might Be A Joker...
and it could have your name on it...and you be out-in-the
cold...so to speak...
You're probably a good guy, I'll give you the benefit of doubt
and if she's lucky the right decision can be made, but I
wouldn't put it past her, to ditch you...if you're that insincere
about marriage and all it envelopes.....
How can you even think about ''becoming a Head of House-
hold" with the attitude you have? It takes someone Willing
to Accept Responsibility...to be a true "Head of Household"
and "Lead the Family down the Right Road of Life".
Don't sound to me like you're ready for that journey...
Anyway...don't let that situation get...Too Funny....
for there are emotions to consider...YES, BE HONEST...
2007-08-03 09:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by Too Funny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could not telling her possibly be a good idea? If this came up as a surprise later, say when she caught you cheating, it could lead to an expensive, bitter divorce.
And I hate to be mean, but if you actually have to ask this question, you shouldn't be getting married. Love is about understanding, openness, and honesty. Marrying someone to tell them later that you're "not real big on monogamy" would be similar to getting married and then telling them you're really a woman.
2007-08-03 09:37:40 · answer #3 · answered by aschrisman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - don't spoil the surprise!
What a fab gift on your honeymoon night - she will be overjoyed! I know that every girl dreams of marrying a lying pathetic, ageing, probably gross looking, bad breath smelling, non-funny **** like you.
If I believed you for one moment I wouldn't be answering this - but I just really think this sort of antagonistic posting is a very immature attention seeking.
Just how sad are you dear? Have you ever had a girlfriend or just the occasional fumble with one of your more retarted mates at the school you either dropped out of early or were thrown out of.
Mind you - the fact that you are on this site and not one of the more exploitive of young folk impresses me.
More so than you intellect.
Idiot.
2007-08-03 09:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you getting married then? No one says you have to get married, so if you're not "real big on monogamy", why waste your (and her) time?
Yes, tell her. She deserves to make an educated choice. Of course if she was observant at all I'm sure she has had plenty of clues telling her you're not truly committed all along.
2007-08-03 09:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by Courtney 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you really need to discuss this with her before getting married or you could end up in divorce court real quick when she discovers your beliefs l;ater by catching you with someone or smelling someother womans perfume on you..
you may even be able to find a woman to marry who has the same beliefs and you could each be together and have your own side thing each too.
2007-08-03 10:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by silkbutterfly1973 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest, it's not much fun to find out that your spouse thinks it is Okay to sleep around and then you end up with a disease...what a nice gift to give a loved one! Tell her now, and don't get married until you are ready to be in a monogamis relationship.
2007-08-03 09:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes!! Tell her now!!
Along with anything else that you may be wondering about. One shouldn't lie, hide things or have secrets in a relationship/marriage.
One of two things can happen: she'll be totally cool with it (maybe ask to join, maybe say "me too") or she'll move on and look for someone that can meet her needs more appropriately.
If you are marrying her, you must love her. If you love her you want to make sure she is/will be happy...
If it gets to this point:
Remember equality! I'm not saying she must take over your role as man/husband or you hers as woman/wife, but standards and expectations shall be balanced.
If you expect something from her (complete understanding and tolerance that you must see other women[or men]) you must be prepared to deliver equally on your part. (If she sees other men [or women] you must provide the same for her, complete understanding and tolerance. Keep your mouth shut and attitude in check, Boy!)
Don't ever ask for or expect something you cannot provide, perform or meet yourself!
ALWAYS KEEP IN YOUR MIND THAT ANYTHING YOU DO, SHE CAN BE DOING TOO!!
2007-08-03 09:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by astryd13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess would be yes, and she probably won't marry you. There are a lot of things in marriage that spouses don't necessarily have to agree on, like how to make eggs in the morning. Or things that are easily compromised, like who does what chores. Monogomy, however, is a biggie to most people. That's one that people that are getting married should agree on. That issue is too emotionally charged for anyone to have to compromise on. Not saying that either of you is a bad person, but that one shouldn't have to be debated after the vows.
2007-08-03 09:32:35 · answer #9 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why get married? Your soon to be spouse probably believes in monogamy. Tell her your beliefs so she can have a choice on what she must do. You aren't laying your cards on the table if you don't.
2007-08-03 09:30:54 · answer #10 · answered by anaise 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My guess is this is a troll post but on the off chance it's legit, you should've told her back when you first began dating...because chances are, due to your feelings, you've likely been unfaithful all along.
Why get married if you don't intend to be faithful and so put the marriage at high risk of ending? That's a waste of a lot of money and emotion...
2007-08-03 09:35:19 · answer #11 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋