I am bi.How do I tell my parents?

Question

I figured out I am bisexual.I need to tell my mom and my sister.How do I bring it up,what will happen?

Answer 1

Move out of the house first. If you're old enough to enter into an adult relationship, your old enough to be living on your own as an adult.

Answer 2

You DON'T need to tell them anything untill you have decided finally, which way you are going to settle down. you may find a guy who totally does it for you and then you have put your poor mum through all that turmoil for nothing.

that is the luxury of being bi which makes gays jealous and that is why they always say its a copout but its not. You are just in the middle ground between straight and gay so you can have the best (hopefully not the worst) of both

SEX is a private matter. Your parents do not have a right to know whom you have sex with once you turn 16. Nor do they need or probably even want to know.

They only want to know that you are happy and that is all. there may be pressure for grandkids but being bi certainly does not rule that out.

AS one human being to another all that I would ask is that you are honest with your lovers about it. don't get married just to have a kid and then dump the guy. that is so cruel and could end up costing you so much.

find some gay guy who wants no emotional commitment to you but wants to be a dad. (BTW on that note my boyfriend wants an heir so if it ever comes up and you need some good genes email me)


We all have occasion to look at others whether gay or straight. being with one person means just that. being bi is not a license to keep one of each. it doesnt work that way. you still ultimately have to be faithfull to one person whatever their gender.

Answer 3

There's no way to know what will happen because we don't know your mom or your sister.

If your family has an issue with gay people, chances are they won't be too happy about it.

I'm not sure how old you are but if you're relatively young, I'd hold off making any kind of announcement like that until I had time to figure out exactly what my attractions truly are. Things change so much when you're young so what you feel today may be completely different in a year.

Just give yourself some time.

Good luck to you!

Answer 4

Why do you need to tell them? Are you entering a serious relationship with a same sex partner. If not. Just let it be your business. They'll probably figure it for themselves. Also not to judge you are anything, but are you maybe 18-21, because you also might want to make sure your not just going through an experimental phase. Seriously like every girls I've gone out with had some lesbian experiences in their late teens or early twenties. I'm just saying that's been my experience. So evaluate how deep your own desires are before you make admissions of anything.

Answer 5

How is the simple part. Sit them down and say, "I'm bisexual." The hard part is *when* to tell them. Are you ready to face what their reaction might be? If so, then just go ahead and tell them anytime. If not, then you might want to wait until you're more certain you can tell them and make it out of the conversation in decent shape.

Answer 6

u shouldn't tell unless your in the clearing
which is your old enough to tell and live on your own
(presonal experience)
and u should wait at least a week b4 u tell them
do something good for them in that week
then tell them
explain that it makes u happy
or that its your own life
they should be shocked at first
but if their good parents they will accept it
once they see you gf/bf and see your totally serious

Answer 7

before doing anything else, stop think and meditate on this matter.......because is a serious thing to say to a parent. Make sure that you are sure of what you want out of life.
So Stop, think, and meditate on what you life is going to be like, if you turn into this bi thing. write back if you want.

Answer 8

I'm bisexual also.
I haven't came out completely to my family.
My sister was really easy to tell, but we've always had a close relationship. I guess I'm really no help on how to tell your parents, but I came out to all of my friends. They're all really accepting. I'm planning on telling my mom before my dad. All I can say is the reaction won't be as bad as you expect it to be.

Answer 9

Is there a reason to tell them? If you are bi, then you might end up with the opposite gender one day, or you might be with the same gender. If you end up with the opposite gender, there's really going to be nothing to tell, is there? If you end up with the same gender you are, then it'll be time to tell them, I think.

If you really want this out in the open, then just sit them down and tell them straight out and then tell them that you just wanted them to know. Keep it simple.

Answer 10

i totally know what you're going through.
However, it kinda depends.

first of all, how old are you? many people wait to tell their families until they have their own home, and can financially support themselves, just in case.

do you know how your family will react? you don't "need" to tell them. i know, you feel like you're bearing this huge secret, but maybe you should talk to them and learn their opinions about the gay community before telling them.