Oh My God. I'm Pregnant. I'm only 13.?

Question

Help me please. I'm only 13 and I had sex with this really cute 16 year old I met at this party. We had a few drinks and I thought he was so cute so he led me into the hosts' parents' bedroom and we did it in their bed. There is no way I can tell my parents. I am a straight A student and I was supposed to make them proud. This just wasn't in my plans. I was supposed to go to school to become a nurse. My life is ruined. There is no way I am getting an abortion either. I am already 4 months pregnant and starting to show. I just have been trying to stay away from my parents so they don't notice the "bump". What should I do? I think I need to see I doctor. But I can't without a parent. I'm only 13!!!! Help.

Answer 1

thats why kids should stay home and play with their barbies instead of going to parties and making dumb choices.

if youre "only 13!!!!" then you shouldnt have had sex in the first place.


If you just met that guy at a party, and had sex with him because you thought he was cute, dont expect him to be much help. He was looking for a quick lay ...and he got one. Youre gonna have to tell your parents. you can wear baggy clothes to hide your stomach for a while but its *kind* of hard to hide a baby.


Sorry if thats harsh but its the truth. maybe you're just a kid but youre a kid who went to a party, drank, had sex and got pregnant .. Im pretty sure you're past the point of needing things sugar coated for you.

Answer 2

You do have options.

First you need to tell the guy you are pregnant by. He has a right to know, no matter if he wants anything to do with you and the baby. He and his parents both should be told.

Second you should tell your parents before they notice something is different. They are going to be mad, sad and have all these overflowing emotions, but they will come around. Once the dust has settled, you must go to a doctor. You need to ensure proper prenatal care for this baby.
Now you have the tough decision of deciding if you should keep the baby or give it up for adoption. This is something that talking with your parents can help you decide. They may say that they would have it no other way than to keep this baby and help you raise it. Just know that this is a lifeling decision and not just playing house. There are alot of options out there and I do respect you for not wanting an abortion.

Lastly, just keep a positive attitude and believe me, you may think that you will not survive, but you will. You are not the first girls to ever get pregnant and I promise you will not be the last.

Good luck sweetie!!

Answer 3

I work in the medical community and I can understand your panic. Firstly, don't panic. You must remain calm because your decision making will be key from the start. If you are 13 and now 4 months pregnant, your next few months will really have you showing so you might want to consider telling your parents now rather than later. Second, be prepared (if you are not planning to abort the child) to take off from school because for at least 6 weeks, you will need to bond with the child and also recouperate if you have to have a C-section. Thirdly, if you are afraid of seeing a doctor, see the school nurse. It is a long shot, but she may be able to help you and keep it confidential given the medical laws present today. As someone who works in medical confidentiality and also collaborates with OB/GYNs, perhaps I can give you more detailed advice if you so need it. Feel free to email me, and know that regardless of what happens, don't freak out. You are not the first and certainly not the last person that this has happened to.

Answer 4

You have to tell them eventually anyway, so you might as well do it and get it over with to get the proper care you and your baby need. Besides, the baby will be here before you know it. The first three months is the most critical during pregnancy and you really need to see a obgyn and get on prenatal vitamins if not already. Your parents will be upset, I'm sure, but life is not over. Once they hold their grandbaby for the first time any anger they may have will fade. Yes, your life will change because everything is about the baby now, but you can still finish school and go on to be a nurse. Babies are a big responsibility so you will need all the love, support, and help you can get. Stick with you dreams and goals. Just think, now you have someone to share it with. And make sure that "cute boy" takes responsibility as well. Good luck with everything and TELL YOUR PARENTS, for yours and the baby's sake!

Answer 5

Well, you can't exactly hide it for 9 months, so you have to tell your parents. Your parents may be mad, but your life isn't automatically ruined. You can give the baby up for adoption or maybe your parents will help you and the baby can be more like a little sister or brother. You can stop drinking at parties and having unprotected sex so this won't happen again, and you can keep those grades up and go to nursing school just like you've been planning to.

My advice is to talk to a school nurse about it and see if (s)he can hook you up with the help you need right now to get counseling and figure out how to tell your parents.

Answer 6

you will need to bond with the child and also recouperate if you have to have a C-section. Thirdly, if you are afraid of seeing a doctor, see the school nurse. It is a long shot, but she may be able to help you and keep it confidential given the medical laws present today. As someone who works in medical confidentiality and also collaborates with OB/GYNs, perhaps I can give you more detailed advice if you so need it. Feel free to email me, and know that regardless of what happens, don't freak out. You are not the first and certainly not the last person that this has happened to.

Answer 7

I know it's hard and scary, but you need to tell your parents. Yes, they'll be worried about you, but they won't hate you. You need to get to a doctor as soon as possible to make sure everything is going okay with you and the baby. Now after you do all that, you need to tell the father. I don't know what he's going to say, but no matter what, I believe your parents will be there for you. Also, just because you got pregnant at 13, doesn't mean your life is over, you can still be a nurse, you just need to have perseverance and dedication, and decide that you're going to do this for you and your baby. I hope I've helped and I hope everything goes okay with your situation. :)

Answer 8

Ok things are going to be ok....this will not ruin your life just make it a little bit more difficult. You need to tell your parents tonight. Tell your mom first if that would make it easier. Just sit her down and tell her. She will be mad and upset and maybe say some cruel things but give her a few days and your parents will be there to help support you and come to a good decision of what to do. There are options out there and everything will work out fine.

There is no "you think you need to see a doctor" you NEED to see a doctor very soon. If you are going to carry this child full term you will need to be on pre-natal vitamins and be taking good care of your body so your baby will be healthy. Best of luck to you and no matter how scared you are to tell your parents you do have any choice...you need to tell them. So do it tonight and you will feel better about everything.

Answer 9

Well, the best thing you could do for yourself and your parents is tell them. Don't hide because you can't. They are going to see you if you like it or not. You're going to go to school like a big balloon soon. So suck it up and do it. You shouldn't have done it if you weren't going to be an adult and deal with the consequences. You wanted to be a big girl and do it. Its time to own up to what you did. Its in the best of you and your baby to tell your parents. Its alright. I rather be upset then not know my own daughter can't come to me about something this big. They would understand after a few days. I would be upset but I would be upsetter if you wouldn't tell me the truth. I know what you're going through. Its hard, but its easier to tell someone then not know what to do. You are making your parents proud, but only if they can see that you made an accident and you can come to them. Your child is a miracle baby. I hope it comes out healthy. You have plenty of years to think about what you did in that bedroom irresponsibly. No time to fool around. Tell an adult. You need to get some help. You can get that boy charged with rape too. You aren't responsible enough to take this on by yourself.

Answer 10

Oh, wow...you should talk to a school counselor or call a hotline. You can't hide it forever from your parents and you will have to decide if you want to keep the baby or give it up for adoption.

Planned parenthood's phone number is 1-800-230-PLAN. They can discuss your options with you.

A counseling hotline you could try is 1-888-4-OPTIONS.

You can always look up more hotlines on the internet--get someone you really feel comfortable talking to.

I know you must be going through an excruciatingly difficult time right now, but you will get through it eventually. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 11

hey, I can imagine the worry and stress that you are going through. I think you should wave out all of your options, including abortion but know that any decision is one that you are going to carry for the rest of your life. I think you should get support from your friends and I DEFINATELY think you should tell your parents, they are more experience and ultimately noone loves you more than your parents. Think about it like this: what is the worse than can happen by telling your parents? Nothing is worse than loosing your life or the baby's, since by this time you are most likely going to keep it as you are 4 months pregnant. It is the upmost importance that you seek a doctor for your health and the baby. Hope everything works out, by time life always seem to put everything in place. I hope this experience has taught you to be more responsible, less impulsive and mature, good luck!