I propose to him?and if you say yes how do i do it?
2007-08-03 08:57:05 · 21 answers · asked by Mellisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK I ASKED HIM AND HE SAID HE IS WAITING FOR ME TO BE PREGNANT I THOUGHT THAT WAS KIND OF WIERD BUT STILL HE SAID I THINK ITS NOW BECUASE YOU LOOK PREGNANT AND SO I WENT TO GET A PREGNANCY TEST AND HE IS RIGHT I'M PREGNANT SO THANKS TO EVERYONE WHO HELPED ME WE ARE GONNA GET MARRIED AFTER THE BABY IS BORN.
2007-08-03 10:32:12 · update #1
THAT IS A MONTH AFTER THE BABY IS BORN.
2007-08-03 10:32:39 · update #2
Don't listen to some of these negative people on here. I read your profile and it says that you are only twenty-three years old which means that you have been with him since you were 14, which is probably the reason why you've waited so long---Who really wants to get married in their teens?!
I was in a similar situation but we both were waiting until we finished college an now we are married. The reason we waited so long had nothing to do with committment, it was because of our age and the fact that we were not established financially.
You should think long and hard before you consider marriage and please don't do it simply because of the length of time you've been with him.
I don't think you should propose to him but IF this is what you really want, you should let him know. If he proposed, go from there. If not, he probably doesn't want to marry you and you should move on.
2007-08-03 14:03:04 · answer #1 · answered by ilovequestions1234 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The situation you are going through is tough. It may be tempting to propose, but, have you thought about other details (mainly financial), for when he says "yes"?.
One thing is the commitment, another the practicalities of life if you both decide to marry.
You are 23. Do you have a job? study?. Do you realize finishing your studies and getting yourself "together" as an individual could be in fact more difficult if you are married so young?
Who will pay for the wedding?, where will you live?, how you will handle the rent?.. why not living together first, see how you work things out, who cooks, how do you deal with the every day living, before taking such a big decision?
And think about something else... if he says "yes"... HOW do you know he REALLY wanted to?. It was you who asked him anyway.
Better opt for talking about marriage first, try talking to him without pressure, like make it a "light" subject, maybe little hints, and then the issue of "when" will appear by itself.
2007-08-03 16:32:37 · answer #2 · answered by Red&White 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 23?? You are too young to get married. You may have been together for 9 years but the middle school and high school years don't even count - you were just kids then! Sounds like he is waiting for a reasonable age to get married. Give it 3 years. If he doesn't come around by then, move on.
2007-08-03 16:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by TeddyBear121 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In every relationship both partners should work at progressing to move forward, it appears as if you and your boyfriend did not do this. He either is comfortable the way things are and feels no need to get married or he is not interested in marriage. It sounds odd that you both have not talked over these issues much long ago. I see no harm in you asking him about how he would feel about you and him getting married, at least you will get an answer as to where the relationship will go.
2007-08-03 17:07:26 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been waiting 9 years, maybe he just doesn't want to get married. Don't propose to him, because if he wanted to get married, HE should have done it a while ago. If you are looking for something more, and to get married, my advice is... as hard as it may be, let him go. If you want to get married that bad, you'll see my point. No use wasting many more years of your life, when you could be happily married.
2007-08-03 16:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by hjt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to marry you. He's made that very clear. He's had nine years to ask you!
Please don't waste another minute on this man. He is not in love with you.
Here are a couple of books that can help you: The Rules and He's Just Not That Into You (there's a chapter for long-time girlfriends/fiancees.)
2007-08-03 16:01:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
after 9 yrs i dont think he is interested in marriage and why would you stay with someone for 9 yrs without being married ? no dont propose to him cause he will most likely say no . If i were you I would move on down the road and forget him cause he will never marry you especially after 9 yrs he has his cake and can eat it too why would he want to change that ? good luck .
2007-08-03 16:01:21 · answer #7 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would, nothing wrong with the girl proposing; just make sure you wont miss out on the whole proposal thing first though. AND be sure it is what he wants, after 9 years he should know by now.
2007-08-03 16:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The saying goes why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free. Don't take it the wrong way, but you have made him think it is ok, that he doesn't make you his wife. It's been nine years. Give his but an ultimatum, the truth will really come out then. Trust me!
2007-08-03 16:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by passionate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you and your b/f even talked about marriage? If not, then don't propose to him until you've at least discussed the topic.
If this is something that you guys talk about all the time, and he's not picking up on the clues, then yes - you propose to him.
And as for 'how'.... think about how you would want it done, and switch it around.
2007-08-03 16:02:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋