what can you do if you fear your badly ageing, dark lines forming, lines, and you worry you dont look the part

Question

anymore? im a 30 year old guy whos had a very traumatic life, and it worries me to death because i can see myself ageing before my very eyes...plus living with my imperfections to.:
two missing lower teeth at the front of my mouth : torn ankle ligaments in my left ankle: injured knuckle from hitting an inanimate object years ago:
honestly if i didnt dye my hair regularly i fear i would look terrible.
in my mind i have alot of vanity and im a perfectionist....but my heart sinks when i look in the mirror and the physicall image doesnt match the mental one....the dark lines under eyes....not circles yet, but distinct dark lines from the corner of my eyes, running towards my cheek bones.
i have very low self esteem, plus when people use words like '' again'' and ''its unbelievable'' and '' your not there''....i feel there trying to wind me up and i get angry..i really cant handle the way im starting to look.
can anyone relate to this or no any solutions?i feel like ripping my face off

Answer 1

I know this feeling all too well.

I'm 35. The person looking back at me in the mirror is not the person I perceive myself to be.

I don't see myself as large as I am. I'm a perfectionist about my skin, haircolor, hairstyle. (I brighten my pictures so my skin imperfections don't show) I have Adult Cystic Acne... I never had acne as a teen. (frustrating)

I don't leave the house without any kind of makeup on at all. My hair has to be brushed... My daughter is georgeous... I tell my kids I won't leave the house with 'em looking like "ragamuffins"... with hair all ratty, unbrushed teeth, etc... lol. (They don't get it yet, but in time they will... I'm sure...)

I have dark circles under my eyes... I bought a product that seems to be helping to brighten that... I'm sure the pharmacy would have something. (in the lotions and potions section... I know they may seem like products for women, but I can't imagine they wouldn't work on men. Olay regenerist and some others. They make products specifically for under eyes, and eye brightening.)

Answer 2

I can completely relate with it. I too suffer from low self esteem. Not knowing you it's hard to know the right words. But know this, especially if you are a perfectionist, others don't see the flaws that you do. It does sound like you've been beat up a bit, but that's a sign of living. Treat it that way. You could sit in a recliner all day and have no injuries, but who would want that? And what you are going through right now isn't exclusive. Injuries aside, it has less to do with your hard life than it does 30. We all go downhill when we reach that age, or we think we do. When we're 70 we'll look back and laugh at ourselves and say what wouldn't I do to look like that now.

Answer 3

I wish all I had was your problems! I have looked 60 since I was 35, and I have broken every bone in my body at least once, my neck is broken right now and has been for 10 years, and not one doctor in this country will fix it because I won't let them experiment on me with potentially deadly tests that are supposed to determine if my heart can take the stress of being unconscious for the surgery. I might have 2 hairs that aren't silver, including the hair on my face, and I don't go around complaining about vanity, things could be a lot worse, you could be me!

Answer 4

Why worry, it only adds more lines. Work on being the best person you can be. My youngest nephew is only twenty-five and is almost totally bald, it bothers him not. Now you say you feel like ripping your face off, than you will truly be the monster you think you are. The more you dwell on your imperfections the more they will stand out, not to others but in your eyes.

Answer 5

Sure!
I found out that it is best for me to let the me that best represents me shine through.
When you are dealing in a world that compares who you are by how you look,it's easy to become vain and egotistical.
But if you come to realize that you have lived a life that would have killed most of the people that are judging you ,you realize that you have a story to tell.
And believe me there are some people who need to hear you.
Don't trip on how other people may see you.That will certainly drive you crazy and old before your time.

Answer 6

wow it does not sound like you are having a good day, or time in your life. your looks aren’t everything. I mean the guy I’m with now is like the best ever, but I dated guys in the past that were not that good looking I mean really girls don't care as much as guys do.
I mean to guys looks are everything, to girls they are a good thing to have.
If your wanting people to like you you don't need to look great, humans are attracted to those that are in love with life. it sounds like you are not.
You know what you need to do? it worked for me and my problems, you need to get a pen and paper and start writing down all the things your thankful for get as many as possible. than maybe watch a Disney movie, eat some ice cream, than go work out like a run or something that gets you heart racing. It is scientifically proven that staying physically healthy will also help your minds health, and right now it sound like you are depress.

So Here are the doctors orders and you write back to me and tell me how it worked out.
1. Make list of blessings, (things to be grateful for)
2. Find a hobby ( enjoyable activity) to do with yourself that makes you “happy” try something that gets your heart racing like dancing, sports, running, swimming, heck take up boxing! For all I care just do it with a mind sat that you can.
3. Every time you get mad at somebody put yourself in their place, in their shoes.
4. Do something daring that you can tell youR kids some day l8er on in life. Ask the girl out that you don’t think would, be sweeter, try harder.
5. Find something you can do to help some one that needs it.
6. Find a belief if you haven’t already. Read the Holy Bible, than read a different book on something different compare them. Study it than ask.
7. Ask God what ever one it might be for you (Pray)

After all that you’ll find out that your looks aren’t that bad.
~Good luck, God Bless~

Answer 7

I does not matter how you look, but how you feel. Try to keep your body clean, do some exercises to keep in good condition (not form!!!) and be gentle to your skin. Some baby oil on feet can make miracle. Avoid mirror. I do...

Answer 8

you are seeing what is going on in your spirit and i am not sure how to help you... iam recovering from the same thing and i look 2 years younger than i did at 35. i have finally learned that i have to live up to my own standards of inner beauty to appear the way i feel i am inside. please try to kill or shut down everything you find ugly inside yourself, it will show on the outside, i promise

Answer 9

worry can and does age you...sometimes...I have a lot of worries right now, and it hasn't gotten to me, because I have faith in God and Jesus,...who have told me to give my worries to Them...and I don't sit in front of the mirror and stare at myself day and night...worrying about what others will think...this is all a part of how people have made you feel...like you are under a magnifying glass,...being scrutinized daily because they never made you feel worth anything...so now, you just pick yourself apart...almost as a way to validate what they said...stop worring about it...stop listening to others when it comes to yourself...LOVE yourself boy...you have so much to give