How do you over come not being able to have what you want?

Question

I am dating this guy and I talked to him once about only talking to me once a week, and so what he does now is call me on his days off. He's off Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, and what he will do is call me on Friday to make plans for that Friday night or to make plans for Saturday. I really enjoy him, and then Monday thru Thursday comes, and I don't really hear from him. My gf said I told him to not only call me once a week and he listened. She said he talks to me, see me, and call me during the weekend so in his mind he is doing what I asked. My take on it is, he should know that I would like to hear from him during the week even if it's to talk about our day. Am I asking to much from him because I would like to talk to him at least once or twice before the weekend come every week even if we do end up spending a Friday or a Saturday together? Also there is about a 10 age difference between us (I'm 28, and he is 38), and he really does not see a need for a cell phone so that's out.

Answer 1

ladies..why do we like to confuse men..You asked him to call you once...what else do you expect..he is just respecting your wishes..

Why don't you tell him exactly what you want..I have done that before and hoping the Guy will know i wanted more but told him to do less...does not work...Mean what you say and say what you mean

Answer 2

I would make a plan, written out, to display my actual needs and wants from this guy. For example, my plan would say:
1. I would appreciate a phone call daily, at the end of the day to go over our day, maybe not more than a minute or two. If it carries over, it is up to you to say "I have to go now".
2. I would like to go out on Friday nights. I will make the arrangements and tell you what time to pick me up.
3. I would appreciate a phone call on Saturday, say 9:00 am. or so, to make plans to go play tennis, or another activity.
4. On Sunday, I would like to go to church, or an acitivity we both decide on.

Then you can come up with a plan together by modifying this original plan.

Answer 3

Just accept him the way he is if you are happy when you are with him. Girls sometimes get so "clingy" and make so many demands on a guy they end up running him off. He is trying to do what you asked, but you didn't really tell him what you wanted, did you? So, now you can't blame him for not reading your mind and figuring out what you REALLY meant. Say what you mean in the future. Guys are not that good at reading between the lines!

Answer 4

Did you listen to whatyou just wrote? He is doing what you asked, and you are mad...He should run, cuz until you make up you mind he doesnt stand a chance. Also, he cannot just assume that you have changed your mind about the once a week thing, you have to tell him. Start thinking instead of just reacting. This sounds more like a dumb blond joke than a relationship.

Answer 5

You asked, and you shall recieve. You want him to call you durring the week, ask him to call you on tuesday. We do what you ask us to.

I hate when women do this. Just come out and ask us, tell us what you want. the little hints...we don't want that. When I aks a girl "are you Ok" and she says's "nothing." Ok I know that there is nothing wrong or that she doesn't want to talk about it. But then we get yelled at later for not talking to her about why she's being pouty. You said nothing was wrong!

And everyone says men are difficult.

Answer 6

He cannot read your mind - tell him you would like to hear from him during the week. The biggest mistake couples make is believing that the other person SHOULD KNOW what they want or need. They don't. Speak up.

Answer 7

Are you asking him to read your mind? or to do something like calling during the week even though you already implied you did not want this? For goodness sake, stop playing games and let him know what you really want. Please don't expect him to "just know," because real relationships don't work that way.

Answer 8

how about you call him? Honestly, this sounds pretty petty. you DID tell him he only has to call once a week; and he's a man so he took it litterally. Call him a few times at work or ask him to call you for a few minutes each day if you cant call him.

Answer 9

well so you want to talk all the time ? that has being established. get a talking parrot woman before you drive the dude away cuz he is obviously going against what he is used to and it will get old with him further down the line and he will start to resent you

Answer 10

"How do you over come not being able to have what you want?" You act like a grown up rather than a child and accept that he has the right to do as he feels and doesn't have to cater to YOUR needs.