my dad is always wanting to know what I am doing. Like when I'm online he'll try to read my e-mail and stuff. He won't let me go anywhere or have anybody over. He grounds me for no reason. He also yells at me non-stop too. What makes it even more confusing is that I haven't done anything wrong to lose his trust.
2007-08-03 08:00:50 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm 15 and my dad is 59. I live with both of my parents, My mom doesn't do anything to stop it she just agrees with my dad.
2007-08-03 08:12:17 · update #1
He probably sees all the "am I pregnant" questions here. Id keep you in also after reading all these!
2007-08-03 08:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by lillilou 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He wants to be a good father and for you to grow up to be a good person, and it seems like he is being too controlling about it. Maybe there is something going on in his mind, or in his life (at work?) that is stressing him out, and he feels like he's losing control of you, so he's desperately trying to gain it back. Maybe he just sees that you're becoming an independent person and is afraid of losing you.
It might be very hard, but you should talk to him. You seem very calm about the situation and I bet if you sat down with him and told him how his behavior makes you feel, you would be able to communicate a lot to him and possibly come to a compromise with him. It might even be good for him to get those emotions out of his system in a more positive way.
2007-08-03 08:07:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad was the same way towards me. Back then I didn't understand why. I did good in school, I graduated, went to college, didn't go out because he didn't like. I did have a boyfriend who I am married to now. But now when I look back I think of why he was like, he had no right. I remember my mom telling him often you must have a sick mind to think of others doing bad. And now I somewhat understand why he was probably like, not to long ago we found out he betrayed us in the worstest way possible. Maybe he was trying to keep me away from people like him.
I'm in no way suggesting your father is a bad person, he just wants the best for you. Yeah sometimes they exagerate, I wish my father had just exagerated. Stay strong and one day it will be over. That's what kept me going.
2007-08-03 12:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by Princesa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad was like that too..Chances are, he is scared of what you COULD or WILL do than what you are actually doing... If you are a girl, its probably what his fear was the day you were born...boys....
he doesnt trust em at all...
just give it some time, he will trust you, dont worry..just dont give him reason NOT to...plant some emails saying stuff like "I love how protective my dad is, it shows he cares, but I wish he would let me do X, just so i can prove to him how trustworthy i am"--you never know, it might work!
2007-08-03 08:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by MeL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he loves you but wants to protect you- from this crazy world. Maybe you need to try and open up to him and little by little he'll feel more secure--and I don't think it's "you"...it's the crazy world getting to you maybe that he's worried about- since you hear so much about online child things out there- for example--it's not safe- and kids getting caught up in too much "bad" the world offers. Good luck, honey- try giving him a card when you are not with him telling him how you feel.
2007-08-03 08:06:08 · answer #5 · answered by USA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be because your dad is from a different time. and he believes in different ways of parenting. my dad was pretty much the same except i wasnt allowed to have the internet. lol. i think he is just worried especially with everything that goes on in the world today and on the internet. youngs girls meeting guys and getting raped and stuff. he is just over protective. you only have a few more years to go dont worry. good luck.hope this kind of helps.
2007-08-03 08:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by liljess69692004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My step-dad does this to ... If you haven't done anything wrong then it might be the way your father was raised . Like if his parents kept him in the house all day then a bit of that would rub off on him and effect the way he parents his own children .My advice would be to try to talk to him about it and if that doesn't work talk to your mother and have her talk to him .
2007-08-03 08:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easier said then done, but you will need to talk to your dad and ask him why is he acting like this. sit down and tell him how you feel and why he acts like that. come to an agreement or middle man to where he can still be the dad he wants to be but you will still have the privacy you need.
hahah i know cheezy but it can work. just rememeber the way that your approach him, talk dont yell cause then it might end up in a fight
2007-08-03 08:21:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell someone or ask your dad and mom what u have done to get yelled at or just show them what u do on-line all the time and then maby they`ll see that every thing is ok and trust u more hope this works bye :)
2007-08-03 08:25:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK TO YOUR DAD THIS GUY IS A FREAK Be like "dad I know this is hard to hear but when we [ u and your sis ] were little ____ would make us show him our underwear for candy. When he offered to ride me to gymnastics ___________ happened and you need to call the cops on him and quit hanging out with him" Tell your dad!!!! It's only a matter of time before this creep does something to you!!!! <3
2016-05-17 09:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, your parents are babyboomers. Look up the 1960s on the web. You'll see all the crazy s-h-i-t they did and why they are so paranoid you'll do the same thing. The are a bunch of messed up people who got to old to remember what it was like to be young and have fun.
2007-08-03 08:51:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋