I always feel Bad...?

Question

I'll make plans with one person, then while i'm getting ready or waiting for my ride or something, someone else calls.

you know when some one starts a convo 'heyy what are you doing today?' and you know that they are going to ask you to do something. but you know that they are going to invite you somewhere....


how do you deal with this?

Ussually i'll tell the person what I'm doing and be like 'why do you ask?' then they say, 'oh well I was just going to see if you wanted to....'

i always feel so bad taking this approch. any suggestions? Thanks!!!!!

Answer 1

well you have already committed to the first person, go with that, make plans for the other person the next day !!

Answer 2

What's the problem with your approach? If someone asks what you are doing and you tell them what you are honestly doing, well there is nothing wrong with that. I mean, you don't need to feel bad that this other person waited until the last minute to ask you to do something. If he/she wants to go out, they shouldn't wait till the last minute to ask. And if you are already busy, well, they may learn the lesson that they need to make plans rather than hoping that you'll have time.
There is nothing wrong with having other plans. It isn't your fault and there isn't anything to feel bad about when you tell them the truth. Honesty is a good thing.
After all, it would be much worse if you said, "I'm not doing anything." And then they asked you to go hang out and you had to make up a lie for a reason that you couldn't go, or you told them what you really are doing and they wonder why you didn't just say that in the first place.

Answer 3

I feel that you should be honest no matter what. I'm sure you wouldn't appreciate it if you had a friend cancelling plans with you all of the time, or doing what you are doing. I would suggest if you are unsure of what you want to do, don't make plans til you know what all of your friends are doing. A way I deal with this kind of thing is that I always make sure to tell anyone oh I'm not sure but I will let you know, start getting ready for something and then make up your mind, also another way to deal with it is, if you have made plans and another friend calls offer to them that they can join you in the plans you previously had!! Good Luck and always have respect for your friends and don't take them forgranted eventually they could get tired of it.

Answer 4

You have nothing to feel bad about. You are being honest with the person and telling them that you already have plans. I can see if you are always refusing to go out with one person due to always being busy, but then you should make a special day for just you two. But honesty is always the best policy and if your 100% with your chums they should understand.

Answer 5

I always feel really bad when I do that, too. I don't answer my phone. Or I'll text them later and say I couldn't talk right then because my sister or someone would be eaves dropping. It's easier to lie and such in text messages.... I know that just made me sound like a horrible person. I'm not really. -shrug-

Answer 6

You engage the converstaion first by telling them your plans up front. That way u won't find yourself in a crazy situation and your friends hating you.

Answer 7

thats hard...well if i was already going with a friend somewhere and someone asked me after i already made plans... i would ask the person if they wanted to go with me and my friend...

Answer 8

lets say your going shopping with your friend say oh you knwo im going shopping w/ my mom and stuff if they say wana hang out say noo im busy thats it they dont need to know EXACTLY what your doing.