So does marriage suck by default?

Question

Because the wemen say it takes so much work to keep it going or something.

So....this would be like a fixer upper house then? Because those take a lot of work too...and by default they suck.

Answer 1

DUDE - learn how to spell WEMEN correctly.

Answer 2

Hey Flavio man I've answered a couple of your questions to date. Sounds to this old fool like your pretty sour on the whole marriage thing. Perhaps you've had a bad experience or been burnt in the past. Myself I've had a couple of crappy relationships also but always bounced back. Just re-married two months ago and haven't got a fixer upper but a keeper and am glad to report that in my opinion marriage does not suck.

Answer 3

If they suck, then I'm sure it's a good marriage :P

O.k. look at it this way:
Once you put alot of work into fixing up that house.
The house turns out beautiful.
And why?
Because you took the time to fix it up and make it look wonderful.

So:
If you take that time and work on a relationship, then it should turn out beautiful also.
But only if both of you are working on it at the same time.
It's a Give and Take situation.
The Man Give's and the Woman Takes.
NO I'M ONLY KIDDING :D

Seriously though, you do have to work on the relationship in order for it to work out.
Just the same with friendships, if you don't put time into them, then you start to lose touch with your friend.
And why?
Because you didn't put the time into the friendship to talk and keep in touch.

So if marriages suck by default, then so do friendships, right?
Then so does life suck !! ;)

Well now that , that put me in a good mood (not), lol, I think I'll go put some time into my marriage :)

Answer 4

Totally depends which house you buy or what women you marry. I mean, everything worth having takes a little work, and a whole lot of humour and good attitude. Life is not about roses butterflies and clear sunny skies. Hopefully you can find a partner that can be there for you when things do not go all that well, and more importantly, you should be the kind of man that can handle himself as such.

Answer 5

Yeah pretty much. Women get an instant idea that now that you are their man for life you are supposed to do everything they want. Honey do lists, not in the mood tonight, don't go to strip clubs, take your shoes off, watch this romantic comedy instead of football, dinner with the in-laws, not in the mood tonight, stealing covers, tacos on Thursday night for the 234,874 week in a row, can't have female friends, not in the mood tonight, pick up your cloths, fix the dryer, take the baby since all you've done all day is be at work, put up with my bitchy attitude because I'm going to have a period in two and a half weeks, and not in the mood tonight. Man the list could go on and on

Answer 6

Flavio, think about how beautiful those "fixer uppers" end up being.

Marriage is hard sometimes but most of the pain is brought on by life or by our own mistakes and the mistakes of those we love.

But if we can forgive each other and enjoy sharing our lives with the one we are with then, marriage can be a blessing.

Answer 7

when men/women are seen as service projects or ANY type of project where they will mold their (wo)man into who they want him to be...

then it is going to suck...

the (wo)man HAS to change for the better because (s)he wants to

same applies on either side...it is HARD to submit yourself and change what you have been used to for years...

but it ISN'T about giving up yourself completely..some things are terribly difficult to clear up or change...some of those things ..we either need to accept them as they are..or they themselves have to see the need for change and it won't be easy..but IS THE MARRIAGE worth being a better person?

My wife is worth every bit of every change (for the better) I have ever made in myself.

If you (as a couple) are selfLESS and HONEST communication remains paramount in your relationship...then you should be fine.

if you hold yourself accountable for your own decisions and actions and do not play the victim role or patronize, manipulate and deceive your mate, you should be ok..

stop the blame game...don't blame your spouse/husband for what happened..instead go tot he ROOT of the problem ..stop ripping dandelions just from the ground up...work as a team against the problem, behavior or attitude that is causing the frustration instead of pointing fingers and you will see that both of you working together can solve a lot more and maintain the happiness in your marriage. then you will attack the problem and not the person. that person is NOT the problem..their actions are the problem.

Why did they do what they did? there may be underlying reasons to that..figure that out and you are half way there..

Answer 8

Relationships are only as good as the work you put into them. Like computers, you need to check for viruses regularly, update the software every now and again, and periodically do a complete overhaul of the hardware.

Would you give up computers just because they're too much work?

Answer 9

I have heard that saying. My marriage is wonderful. We are working on eight years. We have never had a fight. You just have to find someone who will accept you for you! Take it or leave it! Be strong!

edit: To answer another question you posted, you are nice looking. You look like a chubby version of Ray Romano. I love it! You kinda resemble my husband as well!

Answer 10

LOL....You never cease to crack me up! Yeah I suppose that for some marriage can suck by default. Marriages do take a lot of work.