Why are people like this????

Question

When people ask how much cereal to put in a babies bottle or anything about putting cereal in a babies bottle even if they dont ask is it ok to put cereal in a bottle. People always start this whole big thing by saying they say its not good for a baby. Did they ever ask if it is ok to do it no they asked a different question. I feel like it isnt there child so why do they care what someone else is wanting to do to there child when the doctor said it was ok to do. It makes me so mad. Same goes for breastfeeding everybody knows its best to breasstfeed but not all women choose to do that and when they find out that you dont breastfeed they are all over you criticizing you. Why???

Hypermama- I understand that I ask alot of questions because I am a 14 year old concerned mom! You dont no if my family is tight on money or not so maybe we dont have alot of money to buy a book so if you would like to donate one to me then go ahead otherwise stop saying get a book!!!

Hypermama- And no i did not give up on breastfeeding and get on here and complain. It isnt my fault my daughter wouldnt latch on I worked very hard getting as many people to help for the first 2 weeks of her life. Go somewhere else and criticize people if you want to be like that.

L W F- If I am reading this wrong please tell me...but you think that people who formula feed are selfish. Formula may not be "just as good" for a baby but it gets the job done it makes them gain wait and I no people who have never even given there baby breastmilk and are very healthy. I think that everyone is exclusivly breastfeeding needs to not criticize because we choose not to breastfeed!

Coffee_pot12- So are you saying you dont drink cows milk???? Because if you do obviously your a baby cow (thats how you make it sound)

Answer 1

It's not safe or healthy to put cereal in a bottle. It doesn't help a baby sleep through the night.

These people could ask the DOCTOR. but they know the doctor will tell them not to do it!

This might be a free-for-all site, but it doesn't mean I will give bad and possibly dangerous answers.

Answer 2

When I answer a question about cereal in bottles, I always mention that it is not sfae, and the risks of doing so. I do this because as a health professional, I feel I should at least mention it. However, I then go on to answer the question they ask to the best of my ability. As far as when people ask how much to put in, I always answer none. That is the best answer I can give. The only exception to this is when it is being done for health reasons like reflux/GERD. I do not do this to put people down, or just to voice an opinion. I want to help, and I feel if I don't tell them of the risks involved with bottle feeding cereal I am not being a help. I do not judge, just answer questions.


EDIT: I think it is wonderful you ask so many questions. If someone finds it excessive, they don't have to answer. Personally, I would rather answer every little question and hope to help any way I can. Keep up the good work, and keep the questions comming!

Answer 3

Personally, I did not give rice cereal in a bottle to my own daughter, she was spoon fed at about 2mos. on. She was and still is a very healthy person. My daughter however, did give rice cereal in a bottle to her own children and made it in a thin consistency. ( And she never put them to bed with it either) Neither had any problems and are healthy children. Her pediatrician was fine with it. She tried, but was not able to breastfeed. Like one poster said, this is an open forum and you will get answers that you won't like (or something like that). Everyone has an opinion as to how to feed/raise a baby. You know your own child. Just be wise in what you feed your little one and consult with the pediatrician. All children are different and doctors do have differing opinions also. Keep in mind that just because it's in a book, it doesn't make it gospel. I hope this helps.

Answer 4

Because many people are misinformed. Just because people have been doing it for years does not mean it's right or a good idea. And doctors are not always right. Just like everyone else, they get set in their ways. My sister's ped. told her she was not going to be able to nurse because my neice was so big. That's stupid. She only weighed 9 lbs. This doctor was old and had a very uneducated opinion. If she'd just read her AAP journals occassionally! I do.

If someone takes it as criticism, then that's how they take it. When a question is asked on an open forum like this, you have to deal with the answers. You don't have to like them. But if I see a question about something I have researched thoroughly, I'm going to give my answer.
Breastfeeding questions are my favorite... but if someone asks something about leaving their 1 year old in the tub alone, I'll answer that too.

Answer 5

When you ask a question on here, you are open to all sorts of opinions. If you don't want that, THEN DON'T ASK THE QUESTION! Or, simply ignore.

I read a question about a mom wanting to give her 3 week old gassy baby cereal in the bottle. Now, I ask you, does that make any sense at all??? Please! The baby is already with a tummy ache- why add to it???

Further- there is a lot of old school advice- my mom used not formula but canned milk for us as formula! INSANE! Just because they did it doesn't make it right.

I breastfeed and am happy to do so. I have to say, I get annoyed and don't answer questions from mom's who continually ask, "Why is my baby so gassy? What can I do to make them stop???" Babies are all wired differently. NOBODY says that every baby is going to be happy and content. Deal with it.

The craziest question:
a woman who wanted to add something to the formula because to her it tasted bad. Then, she had a baby with colicky symptoms and then I went back to read the other questions and she was using the same bottle- just adding formula to the formula that was already in there because, "Formula is expensive and she didn't want to waste any!" Get real!!! THAT IS WHY THE BABY HAS AN UPSET TUMMY!!!!

It's a crapshoot. If you don't like it, don't post, or don't ask.
I have to not answer some questions because I simply cannot be kind in my answer- especially in the example above.

Answer 6

I love this question! The people at WIC would tell me that I couldnt give it to my baby girl when she was an infant...but the doctor told me I could! So I just dont listen to those people. If the doctor says its okay then that is what I go by.
Also as mothers we know what our babies are capable of...so when people that arent around her 24/7 like I am I get a little ticked when they tell me what to do. I dont mind people giving advice, I will always gladly accept their ideas, but I have had women down right rude with me before and its none of their business.
You just take care of your lil baby as best as you can!:) For being so young it sounds like you are doing a good job.

Edit: Wow! I just read some of the responses and NOW I can see what you were talking about. I hate to get in disagreements, and I wont do it here too much, because everyone is right to their opinions....but I guess we all come from different places and different doctors that have VERY different opinions. My doctor told me it was okay to feed her cereal in her bottle when she was in infant as I said before....I just dont understand why someone would go as far as to call it poison. Maybe all doctors need to get together and make one decision, but I already know from experience...my baby that was not breastfed one day in her life and Fed cereal...has never had any complications whatesoever.

Answer 7

I have known woman that have and haven't put Cereal in a bottle and their babies have turned out the same. They might sleep more during the night if cereal is placed in the bottle. But its mostly based on the baby.

Also I agree with what you say about not breastfeed. I can't breastfeed because of meds I'm on, which can hurt my baby. But woman still have said that I'm just being selfish and not want the best for my child. There are also a lot of woman that can't because they don't have the milk to do it. So they end up having to give it up, because their baby isn't getting enough. Let me ask how is that better for your baby?

Answer 8

Don't let this "Yahoo Answers" site get you all wrapped around the axel. If you ask a question to a bunch of anonymous people, you get the good, the bad and the ugly answers. Take it all with a grain of salt.

When in doubt, call your doctor when it concerns your baby.

Frankly, you can find better, sound advice by looking up this stuff on the internet, rather than asking random strangers.

My question is "How bad is everyone's grammar?" I spend half of my time trying to decipher the haphazard sentences on here. And if you're not on a Blackberry, don't use texting shorthand. It's maddening. Thanks.

Answer 9

It is much easier to judge those around you rather than to judge yourself. A lot of what people think is good or bad for a child has to do with what their mothers and grandmothers taught them, and as with any information given to one, at some time it becomes outdated and inaccurate. For example, my pediatrician told me to put a little cereal in my twins' bottles to help them sleep a little longer at night when they were two months old, no I did not have to give them karo syrup for constipation nor did it ever cause any problems for them. We no longer rub alcohol on our children's feet to end a fever and doctors don't hang a baby by the feet to slap it on the rear and start their breathing. People just seem to have a hard time accepting that what they know, may not be.

Answer 10

because unless you CAN'T breastfeed then people don't understand why, as a mother, you wouldn't want to give your child every advantage that is available for you to give. People who don't give their child everything they possibly can deserve to be criticized for being selfish sorry excuses for "mothers." As far as the cereal thing goes the answer is DON'T do it. People would tell you an amount if it was a good idea. That's like saying "How much sugar should I put in the gas tank of my car, I know I'm not supposed to but I want to anyway" and getting mad when people don't say "oh, about a cup." If these questions apply to you then you need to read some parenting books, take some parenting classes, or something because it's too late to not be a mother for you(which you currently shouldn't be if these questions apply to you). Learn to take proper care of the life you created.

nope, you read it correctly. Unless you are unable to breastfeed then why choose otherwise? There isn't one answer I can come up with that makes any sense. If you work all day, use a pump. If you think it will destroy your breasts' looks then again, you're being selfish. If you only try two weeks then you're not only selfish, you're lazy. The library is free-check out some books, listen to the advice given to you by medical professionals. If you want what's best for your child then I can't possibly understand why you wouldn't breastfeed unless you or your baby is physically unable (that includes taking medicine. If you need meds, you need meds and that's a good example of being unable to breastfeed)

Answer 11

Because for some reason now days people think you cannot have a different opinion from them, if you do they cram theirs down your throat. What ever happened to being able to have a different opinion on something and letting it go. Both choose what is best for their situation and go on, it is insane and a total lack of respect for others as far as I am concerned.

Wow L W F is my case in point. and FYI to all the breastfeeding moms who shove that downs everyones throats. I did breastfeed my daughter, and she was air lifted at 5 1/2 weeks for a viral infection, I had kept her home she was not out in public, so breastfeeding is not the cure all everyone proclaims. Its a personal choice, breast or bottle neither one is wrong. Cereal or no cereal, it is not the end of the world and different babies need different things, don't judge until you have been there with that kid, worry about your own kids and if people ask for advice be nice not demeaning about it, none of us are perfect.