If a married man enjoys playing a certain computer game and often pays small fees associated with this online game without his wife's knowledge, does she have a right to be upset when she later finds out that he's been paying to play the game that to her understanding is a free game?
The game provides points to users who sign up for certain free offers as well as points they can purchase through paypal. If the husband signs up for a dating site, but never uses the profile, just so he can get the points associated, can his wife still be upset? The man has proven to her that he hasn't used the dating profile, but she says that she now can't trust him because he set up the profile anyway and has asked him to stop playing the game because it has caused them nothing but problems, but he feels he should be able to play the online game because he enjoys it and it's not large amounts he has to pay for the points. Who is right?
2007-08-03 06:25:21 · 23 answers · asked by Bob F. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You decide. What is more important to you? Your marriage or the game?
2007-08-03 06:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly, why did she think it was "free" to play? Did the husband tell her it was or just didn't bother to inform or correct her once he realized she thought wrong? This may seem like a little thing but as you'll see later, it's just contributing to the issue of the dating site!! Seems like One lie and then another.....losing trust! Women are emotional creatures HELLOOO......didn't anyone teach the husband this?!! At the same time, he can't be at fault if SHE assumed the game was free or for her insecurities about the dating site thing......assumptions get people into trouble most of the times!!
Now, how indepth is the profile? How exaclty is it like the husband? If it bares any likeness to him....he is up ****'s creek and thinks he can pull a fast one on his wife....Grow some balls, be a man and tell her you're not happy or bored and then either work it out or leave! I personally think he is BORED!! Yawn.......
Actions a person performs/does can be wrong but one's feeling are never wrong, no one can argue with feelings 'cuz as human we are entitled to them right?!!
If the husband is asking who is right or wrong here.....you really are being childish and inconsiderate to your wife!
2007-08-03 06:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by Penny E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...so what's the real issue? What's really important? Why would the man set up a dating profile in the first place? It only brings invites danger even if he is not using it to solicit dates.
On the other hand, if money is not an issue and they are financial sound he should have some play money. She should too.....it works both ways.
Honestly, while not a jealous person, I am not sure I would like my husband on a dating website - for any reason.
2007-08-03 06:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by Chelee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a right to be upset. He's spending money, and not telling you anything about it.
Have you looked at his dating profile? If it's just an innocent profile that he set up so that he could earn points, you have nothing to worry about. But, if he actually has details in there about himself...(age, status, what he's looking for in a mate) then, I'd be upset.
Although it sounds like he's just a little too addicted to the game. If it's taking away from your relationship, have a conversation with him about it. Tell him EXACTLY how you feel about everything that he's doing.
2007-08-03 06:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by ღMeggღ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is. you did not tell her the truth about the cost. you were not up front about what you had to do to play the game. you signed up to be on a dating service? without telling her. wow that game must be more important to you than honesty in your marriage. it may seem like little things to you but you must understand where your wife is coming from before you can find a solution. the best thing i think would be for you to apologize to her and then have her with you while you play the game. but quite frankly you are upset that she isn't comfortable with you playing the game and that is your fault for not understanding how it might make her feel when you were not completely honest about it to begin with.
2007-08-03 06:41:38 · answer #5 · answered by adelaide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta compromise a little dude. What the hell can you even get with those points? Unless it's going to take you and the wifey on a nice vacation soon, get rid of the dating profile and play the game for only a little while, not all the time
2007-08-03 06:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by cutie420311 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably should have come clean upfront about the price of the game. Then you wouldn't be in the pickle of joining a dating site. No woman wnats her husband on a dating site, can't blame her. Hint, 1 dozen roses, an apology and dinner should clean this up and remove yourself from the dating sitte
2007-08-03 06:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by chip t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that there is anything wrong with playing the computer game, however, the problem lies in the fact that you did not tell the truth. Now she does not trust you. I would work on winning my wife's trust back, that seems more important than the game to me.
2007-08-03 06:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I even have faith that verbal substitute is needed in a relationship, marital or in any different case. in spite of the undeniable fact that, that isn't the only factor in fixing issues. that's in basic terms between the components, and definitely the main severe one when you consider which you're quite lots guaranteed to fail in case you haven't any longer have been given it. even if the help is which could remedy a given concern, that's ineffective except shared and reported. Silence and secrecy will in basic terms create hindrances.
2016-10-09 03:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by morabito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A game where you get points for setting up a dating profile and spending $$? Boy that game sounds fun!.You spend $$ to set up a profile youre not going to use...to get points??...Look ....theres no problem with a little hee hawing on the PC (if its in fact a game) but its interfering with your marriage.
The real issue is that youre admitting you pay for things you dont need only to get points..
2007-08-03 06:35:20 · answer #10 · answered by Mergler 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think there's anything wrong with playing the game, unless it crosses into addiction (look up the definition of addiction online, and tick off the boxes if in doubt). If his wife is constantly nagging him about the game, and gives him a hard time about a few bucks a month he might spend playing it, then I see why the man would lie to get her off his back.
As far as signing up for a dating site goes - when you belong to point-awarding programs, sometimes you sign up for all kinds of random sh1t just to get the points. I've signed up for dating websites, junk newsletters, free coupons and the like, then I cashed my points in for some nice rewards. I never use 99% of the stuff I sign up for.
The wife in this situation sounds like a nag.
2007-08-03 06:35:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋