we broke up...sometimes is it meant to be this way?

Answer 1

Yes, Eric, some relationships are sadly fated and end.
You may only begin to feel better when you accept this.

Eric, you are experiencing a loss that's like a death. Most people capable of deep love will survive this many times in their lifetime. Welcome to the Human Race. You've heard emotional pain is worse than physical and now you're gaining direct experience. You will gain from your pain because you are becoming wiser.

You will survive this, Eric, and more; it's not always happy down here on Earth. Are both of your parents alive? Do you have siblings and close friends? Give thanks for them now as you will not always be able to enjoy their company. And give thanks for the opportunity to have loved.

Dude, what you're feeling is part of a common human loss. Life can be an emotional pendulum; the further it swings one way the further it swings the other. Learn to love yourself and accept your own your sadness as you accept your happiness.

Please allow yourself to change as you become older and wiser.
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Answer 2

Eric, I would say many things to you except "sorry" but it won't change things. I had a feeling it is meant to be this way. I wont say sorry to hear of it because I think I sense a tinge of unhappiness and uncertainty during the period of waiting for the outcome which is inevitable. We cannot force a relationship and sometimes people do for certain reasons like pregnancy, dependency , and indebtedness, but in the end, its not really a fruitful and happy life. I think the period of waiting for the decision is the most painful and suspenseful period and if you passed through that period, it would be easier. Its our mind that decides whether we want to move on and celebrate or mourn for the past. The thing that always make us hesitate about breaking up is we are afraid of loneliness esp during the festive season and we do not know when the next person would come. We put too much of our time and spirit into that person , like on the phone and going out with the same person that caused a dependency and an obsession. Once that person leaves, it create a big gap in our life. However, in your instance, you are one of the most multi-talented and intellectual person I know. You would be able to go through this better than most people because there are so many things you could do with your time now. Put your emotions into your passion. If you are a writer or a composer, this would give you alot of inspiration. Be a winner, not a loser. How to be a loser? Let the person know that you are suffering now. Come, go get yourself some beautiful clothes and lets go dancing!!!! Go out with all your friends or whoever you missed because you were tied to the relationship . There are few people who had that one and only relationship in life because they met and marry the first person they met. Being a person with so much talent, you should take your time to consider who you want your lifelong partner to be. You have all the time now. Mix around more and open your heart to let as many people come in as possible. The peak of your life is yet to come, make full use of your youth. Cheer up my friend.!!! Somethings are just meant to be.

Answer 3

Sometimes it is meant to be.

Eric, may you always feel loved . May you find serenity and tranquility in a world you may not always understand.

May the pain you have known and the conflict you have experienced give you the strength to walk through life facing each new situation with courage and optimism.

Always know that there are those whose love and understanding will always be there, even when you feel most alone.

May you dicover enough goodness in others to believe in a world of peace. Remember the sunshine when the storm seems unending.

May a kind word a reassuring touch a warm smile be yours every day of your life, and may you give these gifts as well as receive them.

Remember, those whose lives you have touched and who have touched yours are always a part of you even if the encouters were less than you would have wished. It is the content of the encounter that is more important than it's form.

Realize that each person has limitless abilities, but each of us is different in our own way. What you may feel you lack in one regard may be more than compensated for in another. What you feel you lack in the present may become one of your strength in the future.

May you see your future as one filled with promise and possibility. Learn to view everything as a worth while experience.

Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Others stay awhile, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never the same. Your friend.

Answer 4

I'm deeply saddened to hear this Eric. The heart is such a fragile thing. Love has a way of teaching hard lessons in life and it's tough when you are going through it to hear that you just need to move on and get over it and that you need to learn from it and so on and so forth. It's not easy, it's never easy. You go on for days, sometimes months, re-thinking of all the disagreements you had and if you could have done things differently if things would be different somehow. You wonder if you could pledge your un-dieing love for her if it would make a difference. You wonder if you change things about yourself that she would take you back. Thing is, "You could never should have done something". It's confusing, but yet it makes so much sense once you stop to think about it. Things are the way they are for lots of reasons. Maybe you needed to grow in a certain area and she didn't. Who knows but her. The best you really can do is give yourself time to find what it is you are suppose to be learning from this and stop dwelling on what things you could have changed to make things better. My heart really goes out for you Eric. Try to find the smallest spec of something that's positive out of this and build on it. Right now, that's all you have. It's not easy, but you can do it, I have faith in you. Good luck to you dear and I will pray many blessings come your way.

Answer 5

depends on the reason you broke up. Too many factors to consider.

I once had a friend who told me something about a bird that if you let it go and it comes back to you then it's yours...I found that not to be true. If you want something you have to go after it (or her). If you can't convince her then ask if she will be back in the future. If not then move on. You're a quality guy, find yourself a quality girl.
Sometimes it takes a while to find someone who is quality and who we can cherish and work with. But many of that kind are out in the world looking too. We have many soulmates in the world. Doesn't mean we will marry them all, but does mean we will get along with them well. Look around.

Answer 6

Sorry to hear that Eric. Yes sometimes it's meant to be that way, and when the pain is gone your glad. It's hard to know at the time something like that happens, it's usually years down the road that you see it for what it really was. (good or bad).

Answer 7

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Yes, sometimes people only come into your life for a short period, sometimes for a bit longer, nothing is forever (we are not immortal). Time to decide if there are any problems that need to be attended to and then pick yourself up, brush the dust off, and get on with life. Be sad for now - but then it's time to enjoy life!

Answer 8

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Answer 9

hay little brother from another mother, sorry to here all this, but life goes on, its help breaking up i know Ive had it happen many times many times , and i hope you don't let it do you as it has done to me and close yourself off for going out there and being happy again,, there is love still is the world my friend, and there is another that will touch your heart, as time passes so will the pain and sorrow, i cant really tell you what to do and how to get over it, i used to comatose my self, so it was never a big thing, its said that the way to get over a woman is with anoter woman, but thats not true eather if there isnt something there i too learned this first hand, take your time feel what you feel, grow with it, and carry on, youll learn from your mistakes and see that maybe it was for the best, whats that saying, for ever reason there is a season, remember bro's. carry on my friend, and well, life has a way of balancing everthing out, i wish for you the best, and hope that all is well, this to shall pass my friend, i hope for you with god speed,

Answer 10

Oh Eric I'm so sorry for you!!
I could tell you were not happy Eric,
but as you say if you broke up it was not meant to be.
& no matter who broke up with who you still will feel the pain & will need to grieve for a time *hugs * to you Eric xx