i am eight months pregnant and have no trust over hubby due to some reasons he gave me. i can't find him cheating maybe he is too good, and if i ask him i know his parrot answers no no no. miserable i know it will effect my health and my baby's health but i try so hard to let it go. he ruined my life.shuld i just stop worrying and think let him fu"k around if he is. and how can i do so. i cam't leave because don't wrok now and my baby shuld deserve both of our love. but i can't see my self continuing my life doubting him its worst feeling ever. i never knew this is how married life is but if i did never have gotten married to him. its was arranged.
2007-08-03 05:55:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you haven't caught him, then how do you doubt him. I think you could just be being hormonal. I know i'll get a few boos for that, but you are supposed to have trust in a relationship. It sounds to me as it is you that will push him to do the very thing that you are worried about him doing.
2007-08-03 06:02:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your marriage may have been arranged, but getting pregnant and being an unemployed-stay-at-home mom was all your responsibility and decision. Many mothers work out of the home, so I'm not buying your "I can't leave because I don't work" story. If you don't trust your hubby, it's because he's given you a reason not to trust him. And, those feelings won't go away. So, you have a choice: Choice #1: Do like the rest of the millions of other women out there and get a job and leave or Choice #2: Stay with the guy and put up with his crap.
2007-08-03 06:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sondra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm not going to be like the rest of the people on here...and it is hard for some women to find jobs while their pregnant so don't listen to who ever said that..i've been pregnant before i know where u are coming from on that..butif he is cheating he will eventually make a mistake and belive me u will find out..but don't get all upset trying to find out if he is or not..u or the baby don't need that right now, but give it some time and u will see..just let it ride for a while....like after the baby is born and or until he does make that mistake to where u find out and when u do leave and get a divorce..ya'll can make some type of an aggreement on him having visitation with the baby...but as for now just let it ride ok....so u and the baby is not under any type of stress.....good luck..
2007-08-03 06:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by lisa s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Feeling are great indicators on how you feel, but not the truth.
How long did people think the world was flat because they allowed their feelings stop them from finding the truth.
Just because you feel he might be cheating does not mean he is. You can try and gather evidence to know for certain, but you should not convict him in your heart without proof.
Remember an innocent man will leave no evidence because there is none.
If you want the easier road then divorce, but if you want the happier path work for your happiness. Happiness is not free, but its up to ourselves to determine the cost.
2007-08-03 07:30:43 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't find any evidence of him cheating, then how do you know he is? Are you sure that you're not purposely doing this because you're not happy? Maybe you "want" very badly to catch him doing something so you can get out? That's not a very healthy way to live, and perhaps you should seek counseling for it - you're not doing yourself, or your unborn child any favors by stressing yourself out and getting all upset over something that may only be your imagination. It will catch up with you. I hope you can get past this, and seek help.
2007-08-03 06:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by Starry Eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you now, is the health of you & your baby. Come back to us after the baby is born. Not right after give it a couple of months. Maybe things will change, if not will'll be here for you. Take care of yourself!!!
2007-08-03 06:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People need to hear those reasons that he gave you to try to figure out if he is a liar and a cheat or if you are imagining things.
2007-08-03 06:03:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you are one confused woman and i highly doubt that its because of your pregnancy. there is no help for your dilemma since your whole explanation is one.
2007-08-03 06:03:30 · answer #8 · answered by not this way 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋