Should I get in contact with childhood friends?

Question

I was surfing around the net and thought I should search some of my childhood friends names. It didn't take much effort to find them. But I'm kind of hesitant to contact them because I haven't seen them in over 20 years. I left them all behind when I was 6 as the family had to move a lot because of my dad's job. I don't think they will remember much of me though. What do you think? Anyone else search for their long lost friends?

It's not just only getting in touch with them that's worrying me, it's the thought of not clicking with them anymore because of their lifestyle. And judging by their pictures, they seem to have enough friends so I don't know why they would want another one. I'm the opposite.

Answer 1

I can understand where you are coming from. The bond you had when you were a child was strong. After 20 years of no contact, you would find them very much to be different people.

For me, I chose not to get in touch. Although I had memories of them, there was no emotional attatchment. I didn't feel like I knew them anymore. Like you said, I didn't fit in their lifestyle and they didn't fit into mine.

If you feel the need to contact them then it's worth a try. It's all up to you and how you feel about it. Remember that you still have friends, no matter how few they are, and more to come in the future.

Answer 2

Mia it would be a great idea to contact old friends lots of people do it. U contact them arrange a time where u all can get together and talk over fun times. They may have been trying to find u

A couple yrs ago I went on line to find a Friend I went to school with I found her but it was her sister who's name was listed. I called and found out it was indeed her sister and when I told her and her mom how I found them they were shocked because they didn't realize that a person can be found on line.


I'm not sure if it can still be done with all the crazy things going on in this world but U might can go through where u register to get ur drivers license to find them( that's just a idea) or u can check where ever it was u went to school for they're last names, a library. I think there could be may ways to try maybe u can find someone in the old neighborhood.

I know there has to be ways to find someone if anyone from IRS to crazed stalkers can find a person there has to be a way old friends can contact each other.

Good Luck=-)

I hope U find some if not all of Ur friends

Answer 3

This question strikes me because I had someone contact me after 20 years!!!! The funny thing is I actually lived with them for a short time when my parents got divorced. This person went on to be self absorbed. I mentioned our senior trip & they said "were you there!??? I have pictures & you're not in any of them." Maybe that's why we weren't friends anymore. I really needed a good friend and I had really none. I was shy & quiet & then hung around a few goth people.

The only thing I had in common with people in school was that our parents all chose to live in our small town. I don't care who's on television as a doctor or who's making so much money!!!! I actually see people I went to school with and they act like they don't know who I am just like they did in school.

So be prepared for that. I also had someone else contact me but from there there's been nothing. I do have a few people I'm curious about but I really didn't have "close friends." They didn't care about me then & I feel likewise. I know people grow but I'm past that now & don't need to revisit it. So contact them if you want it might work out...who knows?

I sort of feel like a loser too because I'm not the "career" type. I have a job but it's nothing to brag about it's not a "career." Anybody else feel that way?

Answer 4

I have searched for and found several friends. None have been what I expected. I feel like I would have been better off just assuming that they had grown up to live better lives. Some have tried to re start our childhood relationships but I can not deal with the type of people they have become and find myself being rude to people to get them to leave me alone.

Answer 5

I talk tough but I'm actually a sentimental slob. I like to keep in touch with everyone and have a wide, wide circle of friends. The internet allows you friends all over the world. Even tho' I left friends of a lifetime to move here, we still email each other and I still know the day to day aspects of their lives and it's like they are next door. I would get a kick out of someone contacting me that I knew when I was six. . .and I would love to know what you're doing and how you are. . .I say get in contact.

Answer 6

My friend and i are just like u and your friend we have been friends for 13 years and where only 16 and i do think that should get back in contact with your old time friend it will be alot of fun and cool to see them again

Answer 7

Yes. You should. I haven't seen my childhood friends in 10 years. They should be very special to you. So, I would

Answer 8

Yeah go for it. I should do the same thing like for my high school friends. They might remember you cause it's been so long. It's worth a try to reunite and reminsce the times with them.

Answer 9

Nah. I wouldn't want to an old friend to pop up out of the blue. There again I'm not a people person.

Answer 10

It is entirely up to you, however, I have contacted childhood friends and found it very rewarding. In fact, some are my good friends today.