I'm so frustrated why do I feel this way?

Question

There are a lot of times when I feel like I want to have a baby in order to stop my period for 9 months. My periods are horrible...I have cramping, headaches, dizziness, and a flow that causes me to have to change a tampon and a super maxi pad every two hours or so, and on top of that it lasts for a week. I've thought about birth control, but my mom just blows off that there is a problem, and tells me it will get better so there's no other way that I can get it. I'm 15. Any suggestions?

I take Advil and other pain killers for the pain even though they don't help much

Answer 1

Sweetie, I have had horrible periods since I was 14 and I think you should probably ask your mom to make you a doctor's appointment. Talk it over with a doctor and you may find some answers. I know how you feel and I've been through it. Certainly the answer is NOT to have a baby. Babies are a HUGE responsibility and not one to be taken lightly. I'm sure your doctor will be able to help. Try talking to your mom calmly and asking her if you can go to the doctor and ask him about it. My parents took me more seriously when I asked to go to the doctor because I hated doctors and they knew if I felt bad enough to see a doctor, then something needed to be done. Good luck and keep us updated on what happens. I'll be thinking of you.

Answer 2

Having a baby isn't the answer to making your periods go away. Think about it: you are still so young. How will you be able to care for a baby? What if your pregnancy is troublesome? What if the baby has medical problems when he is born? I read once (and this was like over 10 years ago) that the average money spent before your kid turns 18 is about 200 thousand dollars.

There are many options to help ease the discomfort that goes along with getting your period. Try talking to your mom again. Before you do though, why don't you try doing a search for something like "treatment of painful periods" on the web. There are lots of great web sites that can give you information.

I too suffer from heavy and painful periods. Mine last 6-8 days, are really heavy with clotting sometimes, killer cramps that double me over and i get sick to my stomach all the time. And I can't tell you how many times I've bled through a tampon, AND a pad straight through my clothes! Well, that was before I went on the pill. It has made such a difference! My periods are lighter, shorter and less painful. When I do get cramps, I take aleve, which works pretty well. Other things that might help are heating pads on your belly, drinking plenty of water, and staying away from caffeine.

Hope this helps!!!

Answer 3

Actually your mother is very wrong. I read Seventeen Magazine and they said it is very unhealthy if you use atleast 8 tampons or pads a day. Please don't get pregnant. You will regret that and I really think that you are smart enough to know that.
Here's some info:
Occasionally menstrual flow seems heavier than usual, or a period lasts longer than normal. In general, there is little cause for concern unless you find it necessary to use at least two extra sanitary pads or tampons a day. That means you have lost almost 3 ounces of blood over the course of a period. You should also see your doctor if a period lasts more than seven days, or two periods are spaced less than 21 days apart. Heavy or lengthy uterine bleeding occurring at regular intervals is usually a sign of an underlying physical problem.

When you go to the doctor, he or she will want to know about the frequency and amount of the bleeding, whether it's accompanied by pain or blood clots, what type of contraception you use, and whether you bruise easily or bleed often from places other than the uterus. The doctor will also do a number of tests. Urine and stool testing can detect possible problems in the urinary tract, stomach, and intestines that might cause the bleeding. If you are in your childbearing years, you should also have a pregnancy test, a Pap smear (if you haven't had one in 12 months), a biopsy of the endometrium, and a test for ovulation. If you are not ovulating, the doctor will usually perform a D & C of the endometrium.

In addition, if the physician suspects the bleeding stems from inflammation of the vagina, cervix, endometrium, or fallopian tubes, he or she will perform an internal exam, take a blood count, and may take tests for sexually transmitted diseases.

Answer 4

Been there. My mom was happy to see me get on birth control though. If your mom wont help you, confide in another adult that will. Or you can try contacting Planned Parenthood and doing it privately, they will give you free and confidential services.

They will also give you a free test and pap smear to make sure nothing is wrong, answer any questions you have and give you birth control to help regulate your periods.

I've been on Ortho Tricyclen, Depo (nice, you get a shot once every 3 months, no remembering a pill, but I hate needles) and am now on ortho tricyclen lo, which works best for me because I was depressed on the other two and had headaches and medium cramping. My periods last now 3-5 days, are pretty light and I rarely get cramps. To top it off, I ALWAYS know exactly what day I will start. You cant beat that! :)

I would find a local planned parenthood.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/

Maybe your mom is concerned about you wanting to have a lot of sex when you are on the pill. Just let her know that you WHY you want to take the pill (to relieve stress and pain around that time of the month) AND to top it off it will help prevent pregnancy when/if you do have sex.

Answer 5

There are things that you can do to help yourself.

I am from the same boat. I know JUST what you're talking about. Its hell.

Work out regularly, and push yourself to stay fit. Eat HEALTHY, lots of green veggies.

Avoid dairy and sugar the week before your period. Also, if you fast for a day or two while on your period it will slow it down A LOT. I dotn mean starve yourself. Drink water and eat a salad or something. The less you eat for the first day or so the shorter yoru period will be.

Also, when your BMI is lower your periods are smaller.

Thats what I did as a teen until I was old enough to get on the pill as an adult. The pill screwed me up royally, but once i got married and was sexually active things got better.

And since I had my son everything has been better.

Answer 6

That is a horrible reason to have a baby.

I have (had) the same problems as you and you need to get on birth control of some sort. It helps A LOT! I got on the pill and it stopped the cramps and dizziness and reduced the flow. The shot (depo provera) will minimize your periods to 4 times a year! That might be a good alternative.

If your mom won't take you/won't condone it, go to the doctor yourself and get the prescription. Tell him/her how bad your periods are and that you need some sort of relief. They may also prescribe you a pain killer like Mydol by stronger. The doctor will help you, just be insistent.

Things will get better, but pregnancy is not the answer. Good luck!

Answer 7

You need to acknowledge their Agnosticism, even if they don't. To be Agnostic is a religious sense means to lack knowledge of God. Some Agnostics go so far as to say no one can ever have knowledge of God, but that is not necessary at all. You don't even have to agree that you lack knowledge to be Agnostic. It's just a fact in 99.9% of cases. There is no real proof of God's existence either way, so all people have to go off is personal experience, and of course you can't have a personal experience proving that God doesn't exist. You can only prove(to yourself) that God doesn't exist in your own perception, which is limited. So that makes all your Atheists friends Agnostic Atheists, even if they wont admit it. Theists will often tell you that they do experience God directly on an everyday basis. But I dispute that. I think they are creating and filtering their reality to fit their beliefs. The personal experience with God that I am speaking about is a direct one where he shows himself to you personally, like a burning bush or something. People have them, sometimes they get locked up afterward. If your Theist friends haven't seen anything like that, then they are Agnostic Theists, even if they wont admit it. So you see you're not disagreeing with either group, you're agreeing with and acknowledging both positions before changing the focus to knowledge instead of belief :)

Answer 8

You need to see a gynecologist to tell him what has been going on during your periods. At 15, hopefully you have started to see someone and getting the BCP may actually help even if you aren't sexually active. Schedule an appointment (with your mother's approval or not) and hopefully you can get some answers as to why your periods are so painful.

Answer 9

DO NOT GET PREGNANT. Getting pregnant is a silly excuse for your problem and I'm pretty sure you are just using that as an example to show how desperate you are to solve your problem. I really understand and if your mom is blowing you off then she doesn't know what its like to have a terrible time with your period. I know its unpleasant but get her to take you to the gynecologist. Maybe the Dr can convince her to let you get help. Don't be shy with the Dr. they cant read your mind you need to tell them how bad it is even tho its hard to talk about sometimes. They really can help. Midol helps with other symptoms but the bleeding is not one of them :(

Answer 10

You have to go to your gyno. Birth control can help with your horrible periods. If your mother won't accompany you to the doctor I'd check out planned parenthood and see if they can help you. There's no reason why you should have to experience debilitating periods. I know it might seem weird but maybe you're Dad could take you to the Doc?

P.S. You're period just gets worse as you age.