Sex and marriage?

Question

My husband and i have been happily married 16 yrs..When we were dating/newlyweds and thru the yrs we have never made love everyday,several times a day or for hrs like i have heard and read about most couples doing plus we have never used sex toys cause we are not interested in those..We have a decent satisfying sex life making love 2-3 times a week and we are both happy and content with it but i was just wondering do we sound like rare couple or are there other couples like us?

And mrs are you in my bedroom to know that we dont have fun?

Answer 1

We go up and down. Sometimes every day for months, but then back down to four or five times a week. When kids are gone it can be an all day event. When we were first together it was three to four times a day. Some people have more desire and urge and others don't. Mine has gone down as hers has risen, so we have both tried to accommodate each others needs. If those needs are met, then it doesn't matter how frequent it is.

Answer 2

It doesn't matter what other couples do as long as you and your spouse are satisfied. If you don't feel the need to experiment, then don't. "Why fix it if it ain't broke?" If you are happy (although "content" does not sound great) that is all that matters.

Sex toys are fun, but they are not the cure all for a crappy sex life. I would much rather have the passsionate, no time for toys, throw me against the wall kind anyway.

Answer 3

I've had relationships where is was three times a day everyday and ones that were once a month and some that were once a week AND some that were 2-3 times a week.

You are normal, but please don't try and rely on the majority to tell you if you are happy or should content. Only you know if you are happy. Trust is yourself to decide your own happiness. If you follow the majority they will only lead you astray from your own happiness.

Answer 4

I am sure there are other couples out there that have a satisfied sex life. I think those that are dating or are newlyweds are exaggerating a bit by saying they make love every day, several times a day and for several hours. There is nothing wrong with not being interested in sex toys...apparently you and your husband are sexually happy without them.

Answer 5

2-3 times a week would be great! That's all I ask for.....OK maybe more but I'd settle for 2-3 times a week! What a lucky man to have a wife who is so willing. As for the sex toy and other things, you never knew you liked roller coasters until you tried it. All I'm saying is sometimes we think things are strange and say we would never do it......then you try it to find out hey this is great! New experience keep us young whatever they may be!

Answer 6

I don't think it matters if your bedroom activities are 3 x a day or 3 x a month (or wherever in between).

I also don't think it matters if you're activities are slow and romantic or more resemble a new type of gymnastic event.

What DOES matter is that you and your spouse are sexually compatible in when and how you pleasure each other when you are intimate. And for that I am envious and believe you are in the top 10% of marriages out there.

Answer 7

I have been married for 5 years now. I can say that your intimate life is great. You are really lucky are indeed a rare couple.

Our intimate life is pretty boring. We are not exactly intimately compatible. I want exotic experience-experimenting and spicy and she likes plain and simple and predictable. We do it only once a month. Sometimes, I wish we could get another man to join us to spice things up. And, I would definately want to allow my wife a very satisfying intimate life. I admit my deficiencies. I guess, I am more visually stimulated rather than doing the actual thing. E-mail me your thoughts at [e-mail]

You are indeed a rare happy couple. Keep it up.

Answer 8

There are couple like you, and yes, you are rare.

It seems that in this world we live in now everyone wants to broadcast there sex lives over the internet or to other couples! Call me old fashion, but what people do in their homes is there business.

How come what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, but the same does not hold true for the sanctity of one's home?

If your marriage is loving and fulfilling without wild sex adventures or sex toys, then good for you. Enjoy. Don't feel like the movies are the norm! I heard a comedian the other day talking about a movie from the 70's, in which the leading man throws the woman onto the bed, rips his shirt off, and tell's her he is going to make love to her for hours. The wife, watching this movie, turns to her husband and asks her why he does not do that. He answers, "You do know someone is writing that for him right? He does not actually make love to her for hours. Besides, if I threw you on the bed you would be yelling way too long for us to have sex!!"

Have a wonderful life, and enjoy it while doing so!!

Answer 9

Well, first off, whatever you two are happy with is absolutely perfect as is. There is no set number for sex frequency. Personally, and this is to some of the truly close minded people who answered you already, my girl and I DO have sex EVERYDAY, one form or another. We both are HIGHLY sexual people that tap into that energy. We belong to a swingers club and have the type of sex you see in pornos. Talk about satisfying!!! She actually pushes for it more than me.

Answer 10

A little odd that there hasn't been more passion and long sexual sessions but what matters is that both of your are happy and content with your sex habits. It would not work for me and probably not for many others but if the two of you are happy that's what matters.