If so, how?
2007-08-03 05:21:21 · 10 answers · asked by Wildflower 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My spouse was and now she has a real hard time getting intiment. She trusts me, but sometimes things hit her wrong. She will just freeze up. It is pretty much over for that time. It has gotten better over the years, but still has not completely went away.
2007-08-03 05:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know many that were raped and molested as a child and it affected some, while others it did not.
It depends upon the individual. If you know someone that has had this happen to them, I suggest counselling, so they can not only vent it, but get an organized picture of the situation. Most of my clients even join groups where others have experienced the same.
2007-08-03 12:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by pattimaris1675@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does. I can't really tell you how for everyone else. If it has happened in the younger years you may be stuck in a world of getting what you want by acting as a child/your voice sounds like a child as you're trying to get your way. You may also feel the need to have sex alot and all the time and you may even have a few different fantasy then others may. Yet some women have turned completelly against men bcuz of what they have done to them. Some victoms may reply on a women and only trust a woman for the life of them. But I'm only one voice. Read on....................
2007-08-03 12:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by So you think you know me!? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It also affects your children as well. My Mother was raped when she was 10 so she communicated that fear to my sisters and I as we were growing up. It was hard to get over as we didn't know any thing else. My dad worked very hard to help my Mom but between her and the three of us, he wasn't able to get the message to us that all men weren't that way. I have gotten through it and live fairly normally but my two younger sisters are still dealing with it. I was lucky and have a wonderful hubby and soul mate---my sisters on the other hand weren't as lucky. They ended up with losers and heels. We had to heal just as much as my Mother needed to even though the actual attack didn't happen to us. It is also affecting my sister's daughters. Sad.......
2007-08-03 13:02:51 · answer #4 · answered by Praire Crone 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has effected my sex life with my husband not as bad as it may affect some but ( hes the only person I was ever willingly with) a few times manly after I had a few drinks that night its only happened 3 or 4 times but I would break down crying my husband always stop right away and comforted me and tell me it was OK because I was safe now he has bin great for me. But I always have bad dreams about it. I was young and no one but my husband knows I was to afraid to tell any one thinking they wouldn't understand and I didn't know if they would believe me. It was no one in my family i didn't know the person.
2007-08-03 13:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
....did not affect my sex life. Waited till I found someone who was right for me and still with the dude... going on 3 years. Just wondering...I'm older now, but this isn't an easy topic to bring up. Even if there are people here that don't know you it's still something that has made you who you are and has changed your way of thinking to some extent. Why would you bring up this question is all I'm wondering?
2007-08-03 12:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by ForeignTerritory 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO it never happened to me but I worked with troubled kids as a mentor and a lot of them were by their own family members. They definitely had a lot of sexual problems like promiscuity, prostitution and just doing things they should not do! Yes it can affect you very much!
2007-08-03 12:46:17 · answer #7 · answered by Meichelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it affects your view of relationships, marriage, sex, and sometimes authority. My ex was molested and never would admit it even though many people knew. It was her older brother, and the family sided with him. We went to marriage counselling for years and years. I always thought if she had been willing to deal with it in therapy things would have gone differently with the marriage.
2007-08-03 12:40:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the individual. My wife was raped in HS and never seemed to get over it...so im finding out.
A girlfriend i had a few years ago was also raped in HS but she got herself though it and is very confident sexually. she also got a boob job and a her belly button pierced...hmmmm..I wonder if I still got her number?
2007-08-03 14:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by Mergler 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no/no/no and no..
but i suppose you do...
my condolence for you...
2007-08-03 12:27:34 · answer #10 · answered by >D_ConTradictor< 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋