My wife just turned 20 and im 21......we have been fighting a long time but its not a constant thing. I know every relationship isn't perfect and I know people fight, but when is it time to say I QUIT shes dealt with a lot of stuff from me and I have dealt with a lot of stuff from her but we seem to always end up fighting about something so stupid....we have good times but it seems like she hates me. Its gotten to the point where she cusses at me every time we fight by calling me some nasty names and I to her. Is it time to call it quits or should I let this dog keep bleeding and see if he can patch up his wounds???
2007-08-03 05:01:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you weak or are you strong?
Don't end a marriage over the "petty" stuff. Don't give up so quickly.
There is and always will be "petty" stuff in a marriage. It's how you deal with it that makes you a man or a little boy.
Be a man, you were man enough to get married, be man enough to fix what's ever wrong. Talk it out. Calmly. Don't say anything you can't take back, consider outside help from a counselor. There's no shame in counseling.
Marriage is a 24/7 commitment. It's hard work! So start working at it!
2007-08-03 05:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by jt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MarineOne just last month I read an article by seniors that had been married for many years asking them how they remained together for 4 or 5 decades. Their advice was very wise and I believe very well thought out. One of them said that there is only ever three reasons for a marriage to end in divorce. These three reasons were Adultery, Abuse and Addiction. So unless your marriage has been plauqued by one of these three A's then it is very much worth salvaging. It may take the help of a professional such as a marriage or relationship counsellor but worthwhile anyway. Today's society has become so disposable and it appears that this includes relationships and marriages also. All marriages go through rough spots and it is a fact that the first couple of years are indeed the toughest, but it is through these tough times that we learn more about each other and our love for one and other should actually grow. Communication is the most important thing in any relationship but needs to be done in a mature and open minded atmosphere. Certainly there will continue to be arguments and raised voices but they may become fewer and farther between if you begin being 100% honest with each other and say what is bothering either one when it occurs and not allow it to fester up inside. Remember your vows when you swore to love and respect each other until the end of time and try and rekindle the love that you most certainly have had for each other prior to all the arguments. Best of luck to both you and your wife.
2007-08-03 05:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, you have a newborn baby and that can be a very stressful and tiring thing. There could also be a bigger issue that hasn't been resolved or brought to your attention. I think you need to sit down with your wife, preferably when the baby is sleeping, and get your feelings off your chest and ask her to do the same. But don't argue. Let her talk and she should show you the same courtesy. Just talk everything out and hopefully the real issue will present itself. Good luck!
2016-04-01 16:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that the two of you enter into counseling, both individually and together. It's hard to enter a marriage when you don't know yourself and what you want for your life together. Sometimes that "knowing" doesn't come right away. Do some soul searching...look at what is inside each others' hearts. Common goals, respect and honesty are crucial to a good marriage. Don't throw it all away without doing everything in your power to see if you can deepen your relationship.
2007-08-03 05:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by Pyrat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are very very young. I have a feeling you both are fighting over petty stuff to avoid the real problem. How about you both going to therapy? You have nothing to lose. I really don't think it is healthy to "let the dog keep bleeding and see if he can patch up his wounds".
2007-08-03 05:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to fight over little things ALL the time is a sign that there is something else wrong. People pick at each other when they are annoyed. Are you guys bored? do you have fun when your together? remember your both young and still growing as people so maybe you guys should together think up some new things to do that sound fun to you both. and each of you try something the other one is interested in. talk, laugh, make love.
2007-08-03 05:14:50 · answer #6 · answered by n.s. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should exhaust all of your resources before quitting. Counseling? Try to figure out what is causing you two to fight that way. Then you can start working toward changing your fighting style. Don't wait 13 years to go to counseling, (like i did) because by then, the hurt may run too deep to repair it.
2007-08-03 05:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm it happens in every relationship u are just mad over nothing or its just like leave me alone. i think yung and old has nothing to do with it since ia m 23 and my baby is 27. we used to fite all the time but then after couple of months u get tired of it. and if u love each other, then happy days come back. what do u fite abt . maybe u are not compatible with each other
2007-08-03 05:15:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to get married. You should be out there chasing tail.....
2007-08-03 05:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋