I have had a heart attack in 2003 and become on a cridical list for 5 years, with one and a half years to go. I remain single and with no companion because I beleive its unfair to bring someone into a relationship, when it may be short. But remain lonely. Am I right or wrong?
2007-08-03 04:45:06 · 3 answers · asked by vicwhit 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You forgot to tell us some details like your age and if you physical condition allow to have sex.
But being so negative and basically seating and waiting for death is not very good for your health. I don't know how bad is your condition but many heart attack survivors live a pretty normal live as long as they keep their health under constant check.
It's also known that having a "happy love live" helps boost the health. Being alone and sad is a good way to make your condition worst.
If you were having a contagious illness then I'd agree with you but in your case living just waiting to die alone from a "possible" but not certain heart attack is just not a good idea. I mean it's not like cancer or any other progressive illness.
Just be honest and let the girls make up their own mind. And don't just give up live, be more positive.
2007-08-03 05:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
right or wrong? i can't say. but when i found out about my illness i decided that as much as i wanted a companion it wasnt fair to them to put them through the grief and pain when i could just let them pass by and find someone with a little longer life expectancy. someone has since told me that if they had just a year or 2 with the one they loved it would be better than none but i am not convinced . how do you explain to someone that there is no need to plan for a future? if you really love them wouldnt you spare them the pain? sorry i dont have the answer.its a hard choice to make and gonna hurt either way
2007-08-03 05:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by charliecoesr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lose the guilt. what's life if you're lonely all the time? just be upfront with whomever you get involved with. if they're shallow, they'll run but if it's the right one, she'll stick with you no matter what. remember the saying-tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.
2007-08-03 05:06:03 · answer #3 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋