To Everyone who thinks homosexuality is a choice?

Question

How can you possibly hold true to that after reading this?

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Answer 1

it puzzles me when people can see a post like that and say it is a choice. I do not believe in absolutes so I will not say every gay man is in born gay. I can say I have met many gay/bi men and all have stated the feelings were always there. To me this would imply in born. Also there have been studies that lend credible support to the in born argument.

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Answer 2

I think that sometimes, it's just different for everyone. Some people choose, some people don't.

And we could debate and discuss this until the end of time, but fundamentally it's such a personal thing that people get easily offended.

And as I said a moment ago, it's different for everyone. I believe I've always been a lesbian whereas friends of mine have dated men, lived as straight women and are now lesbians. It's a very private thing and whereas I'm open to discussion, I don't want to enforce my opinions onto anyone.

I just want to say, however, that above all else, if you're happy, what does it matter whether you've chosen to be gay or believe it wasn't a choice?

Answer 3

You're preaching to the choir here for the most part.

As for the ones you're directing your thoughts to, as the Great Kreskin says, "For those who believe, no explanation is necessary; for those who don't [or refuse to] believe, no explanation is possible."

Their difficulty seems to be that they only see the surface, in particular the part that fascinates and obsesses them the most, the sex and the PDA's, which admittedly are choices. They don't see the underlying emotions, the attraction, the affection, the innate drive that leads to those acts.

Plus, they often have an "agenda" of their own: a need to feel superior to someone else, anyone else, which isn't subject to any amount of evidence or logic.

(Which always reminds me of that classic Sammy Davis, Jr, appearance on "All in the Family", with Sammy telling Archie, "Some folks are always putting others down, thinking they're better than the other guy, but I can honestly say after spending these few minutes with you, that you ain't any better than ANYONE!")

Answer 4

Pheeeew! What can you possibly say to something like that. Other than your heart goes out to him and that my hope would be that one day everyone is free to live their life and be who they are without fear and without intolerance.

I'm not sure that will ever happen and certainly don't think it will in my lifetime. But I know this, it will never happen if we don't move towards that in every little way we can.

I believe him. But it doesn't really matter if it's true or not. It has the potential to be true. This is a culture that practices honour killings and does still arrange marriages for their children, so to deny that it's true because it's uncomfortable to believe that it could be, is like burying your head in the sand and hoping it will go away.

I don't know what the answer is to intolerance, but I do KNOW homosexuality is NOT a choice, anymore than what you are born into is a choice.

Nobody would choose that.

Answer 5

two things here,

1) you're assuming it's true, which while likely, isn't 100% certain.

2) you're assuming that everyone who is homosexual didn't have a choice, and that there aren't cases where the odd person ( a minority at most i'd say) are able to choose between heterosexuality and homosexuality, aka, bisexuals who are strongly disposed toward the opposite sex.

in one light, you could say i have a choice, i could ditch my boyfriend, and wait until the "right girl comes along" and then have a "normal" heterosexual life. in the other light, you could say that i don't have a choice, because whilst i am bisexual, i still dont choose who i fall in love with.

it depends on what you are questioning to be a choice, emotions, the actual act/behaviour, and the circumstances, people's uniqueness/different sexualities ( where people confuse bisexuals who choose to stick only to the same sex with homosexuals, who are 100% inclined to the same sex).

indeed, it does shed a depressing light on the state of things out there, and even in countries like Poland which has just joined the EU.

Answer 6

No. It ability each and every person is doubtlessly bisexual, doubtlessly gay, and doubtlessly heterosexual. Sociologically conversing, acts of male on male rape or maybe male intercourse interior of a detention center device are no longer considered acts of homosexuality. whilst there are not any strategies "homosexuality" isn't an argument. Many straight away adult males have male on male sexual encounters whilst circumstances are incredibly constrained. This consists of prisons, reformatory camps, and doubtless any constrained uni-sexed ecosystem. here in Korea some incredibly kinky stuff is going on in all boys colleges. The Koreans thoroughly deny that homosexuality is an argument for them, yet once you're taking 3 hundred boys with raging hormones and positioned all of them mutually for 6 days a week, 10 hours an afternoon, some very unusual issues start to ensue. All it ability is that persons make selections. do no longer cut back the ability of an pointed out sexual merchandise. as quickly as a guy or woman makes the alternative, it style of feels to grow to be a factor of the character. people who detect little ones as sexual companions do no longer exchange. Homosexuals additionally do no longer exchange (for the main section.) varieties of found out habit stay with us in the process our lives. attempt to interrupt a smoking habit or a nail biting habit and you gets an thought of what it takes to alter something approximately our straightforward nature as quickly as with have observed it as a factor of ourselves. next, using fact something isn't organic and organic does no longer propose that's a decision. have been you raised in a community of homosexuals or bisexuals you too could maximum possibly be bisexual or gay. you may see no longer something in any respect unusual in the habit. there have been cultures the place comparable intercourse varieties have been totally customary using fact the norm. Even Jesus is suspected of having a youthful guy bare and in his room. wish shall we actually discover out extra approximately that. however the prepare of an older guy having a youthful boy became no longer uncommon on the time. What it ability is that the aptitude is there and that each and every person has a decision.

Answer 7

I really hope that guy was telling the truth, i still feel like its something shifty, i dont know why, i want to belive what his saying is true, or if his just making up some story and getting attention, i dont know man.

Either way its not a choice!

Answer 8

Reading that, with tears in my eyes, I can only think how well Jesus said, "Judge not lest you be judged and found wanting." Societies, governments, religions and individuals that judge people solely on the person's ability to love are truly wanting. Nature, or God if you will, Knows well why we as gay people are what we are. No person, not even we, should question the why of it.

Answer 9

Easily because they don't care about the person, they look at the actions, and say that the Bible says it's wrong so it must be wrong! People who believe it's a choice don't look at the personal feeling invovled. I feel horrible for that guy and I really hope he can get his life together and get the heck out of there. :)

Answer 10

It's not a choice. I've talked with enough people to know that. (Straight, myself, but have need to understand family members and friends.)

A good friend told me that when he was 5, he knew that he was different. He didn't choose it. Nor, did the others choose it.

It just IS. Didn't choose it, can't change it. Accept it, and get along with things.