How do I make my man happy?

Question

I have already dressed up my appearance as far as I can possibly go, and I make sure to give him lots of sex, but he still does not seem to like spending time with me unless I'm giving him sexual favors. I'm also a great cook already, so something else. Please, I don't care about degrading myself anymore, I just want him to talk to me. Tell me what to do so that he appreciates me. Please give me lots of specifics, I will do anything! I want to be his fantasy girl. I need to spice up our marriage

You all are being very nice, but my situationis unique and all I really want to know is how to make him the luckiest man in the world. Please, I want to amaze him every night. All I can think of is to put on lingerie and feed him steak and that is going to get old if I do it every day. I really owe him this, he put up with me through a hard time. Men, please tell me what your fantasy girl would do and what kind of surprise would make you say "Wow, I am the luckiest man alive"

Also, I am a housewife with no friends so I have really nothing better to do than please him

Wow, I can't believe how few of you are answering my question. Can you femme nazis go burn your bras around a strip club or something? I need to save my marriage, because I have driven my patient loving husband insane with my constant screaming and bitching and nagging. I have stopped the nagging but I have done damage to his self esteem. I need to make him feel like the man of the house again, because I have had his nuts in a vice for years. I need to dazzle him if I am ever going to repair this. Can I please have some real tips? He deserves everything I can possibly give. He works very hard and I have no job and no real contribution. I just want to give him some surprises. Someone please help

If he dumped me then he would be paying child support and alimony and I would be sitting pretty for the rest of my life, just like his gold digger mother. I am a housewife and a stay-at-home mom so I do what I do.

Answer 1

geezeeee girl lighten up . be the woman you where that first attracted him to you in the first place . and why don't you sit him down and ask him what would make him happy . ask him what his fantasy's are . no other man or woman here can really give you the answers to make your husband happy . it's wonderful that you see your mistake's and you are trying to take steps to change them . but don't degrade yourself . how can your husband respect you if you have no respect for yourself ? just be you and it will be fine. good luck.

Answer 2

First off I think your doing great. You are making yourself look good, making sure there is lots of sex and you cook. That's more then I can say for a lot of women that I know or have seen on here. You need to talk to your husband and tell him your trying to make your marriage as great as you can. Tell him the main things you do and ask him why he does not want to make an effort to give you praise or spend time with you. If that does not work you may need to try therapy. However I think your marriage is already spiced up and he just needs to enjoy the flavors your using so to speak.

Answer 3

You can't be ALWAYS the nice one and just sit & wait for your husband to pay attention to you when he feels like (when you give him sex)...... that's not fair, marriage/relationships are a 50-50% deal, and he should also be making his own efforts to make things work between the 2 of you!!!

The fact of you saying "I will do anything" (to please your husb) shows your good will but also a bit of a low self esteem, because you shouldn't have to be ready to do "anything" to please ANYONE..... this is a mutual thing!!! If your husband showed love and appreciation towards you, you'd also do it spontaneously and not only to please him and attract his attention..... and if he sees all the things you do for him, he should also be showing some appreciation. If he doesn't, STOP IT GIRL...... that works wonders, believe me!! My BF was giving me a hard time and I just packed my things and left the country for 6 weeks, and you should see what a sweetheart he's being now with me..... he really spent a hard time while I was far away and I think that made him appreciate what he had with me, so now he's making every effort to keep me happy so I won't leave again!!! So you should try it...... good luck!!!

Answer 4

LOL @ "Can you femme nazis go burn your bras around a strip club or something?"

---I am going to rip off one of Twizzle's suggestions. Go to a bar in a hotel with your husband. excuse yourself and have something under your clothes to be in character, or change your clothes. Do your hair and makeup different in the bathroom. Walk up to him and say a quick hello and give him the note, say "shhhhh" and walk away, the note will be introducing yourself to him. Be creative, be an out-of-towner business woman or a porn star or something like that. You are only there for the night and need someone to entertain you and to meet you in room number___ along with a room key. Then have wild sex-be a different women altogether sexually. If you are normally letting him be in control then you should take control and tell him the things you are going to do to him and the things you want him to do for you. Do positions you have never done before. 69, or look for the Cosmopolitan magazine's article on Cosmo Sutra for plenty of positions. Some of them are rediculous but many are fun to try.

Answer 5

This is what you need to do:
1. Visit a store that sells Stripper outfits.
2. Pick out three costumes that HE will like, you may not have the same taste as his. Please make sure you are thinking only about him while purchasing the outfits.
3. Purchase some clear high heal shoes or hooker boots that go above your knees.
4. Purchase a couple of wings, blonde and burgundy.
5. Purchase body glitter.
6. Get a room for the NIGHT with a jacuzzi.
7. Go to the package store and purchase drinks.
8. Purchase candles.
9 DON'T WORRY ABOUT FOOD - HE WILL BE YOUR RESTAURANT and he can eat there!!!
10. NOW, WE WILL PLAY FANTASY NIGHT. TAKE A SHOWER, OIL DOWN AND PUT THE BODY GLITTER ON. CHANGE YOUR HAIR AND PUT ON A WIG. PUT ON HIS FAVORITE MUSIC - MY HUSBAND LIKES SNOOP DOG, TRINA, LIL KIM, AND SHAWNA. AGAIN, THINK ABOUT THE THINGS HE LIKES NOT THE THINGS THAT YOU LIKE. THEN YOU PLAY WITH HIM. BE SOMEONE ELSE FOR THE NIGHT. HE HIS h(&^%^*(()E. HE WILL LOVE THAT. SATISFY HIS LITTLE FRIEND DOWN THERE FOR HOURS AND HOURS AND HOURS... UNTIL HE DOESN'T WANT ANYMORE. LOTS OF FOREPLAY. WALK IN FRONT OF HIM AND BEND OVER!!! SERVE HIM DRINKS ALL NIGHT AT HIS REQUEST. AGAIN, BE HIS FANTASY FOR EVENING AND CATER TO HIS NEEDS.

Answer 6

It sounds like you are doing everything already. Just be yourself. Have you forgotten who you are while trying to be this new you? Maybe he might like the old you back. Stop trying so hard. He married you,right? Why did you feel you needed to change for him? He'll be there for you. Maybe you are crowding him. Have you tried asking him what he wants? Just don't give it to him if he asks for a threesome. That NEVER is a good idea. It usually ends up in court when you add another person(thirdparty sexassistant) to a marriage bed. Best of Luck. Try asking him if he would like you to start serving him supper in your birthday suit. If you don't have to worry about kids in the house, that is always fun.

Answer 7

You are trying to be a wife and a mistress, that's great...what about a friend and a partner?... if you are trying to build a strong and lasting relationship, sex and food is not enough...if he spends time with you only for sexual reasons, maybe it is because he thinks that is the only thing you are capable of giving him...if you want to conquer him, show him that he can count on you, ask him questions and really listen to him, find topics you can discuss together, get a life of your own, (you don't want to be a burden, do you? so go out, make new friends, become more independent), share his interests for whatever matters to him (music, sports, literature...), invite him to restaurants, take him to movies (don't wait for him to pay, do it, even if it is his money that you are spending, it doesn't matter), get him involve in his children's lives, what about practicing a sport altogether?....try all that and keep the great sex (do not overdo in bed, let him lead sometimes) and good food going on...one last thing: the smile, whatever you do, keep the smile on...

Answer 8

First off, I'm not married, but I feel the same. I just had a baby though. I think that maybe, there's somethings that aren't clear in your marriage that's needs to be ironed out. What do you do to make him not want to talk to you? There's gotta be something that is making act this way. Another thing, my boyfriend is kind of like that too. We were together for a while then things got really shakey around our 3rd anniversary while I was still pregnant. I left him and then we got back together. But now things aren't the same. He constantly tells me that he's gonna do what he wants, and he's not going out of his way to make me happy all in the same breath that he does love me though. I don't get it and I'm confused. I ask him if he really sees US in the future or does he sees just himself. He doesn't answer. I want to be with him and build up a foundation for family, but it seems he's against me and I don't know why he allows me to stick around. Do you think it's so he can drive me away and make it seems as if I left him again?---so it won't be on him----does he really want to say leave and don't come back-----does he just wanna be out in the streets single so he can **** whatever whenever? I don't know, but I'm hurting cause he's giving me so many reasons to believe he feels this way. And about what you said on your matter of your husband only spending time with you when it's dealing with sex, I felt the same way. However, my man only seems really happy at that time, but we go places. I don't understand men. Really I don't and I'm sure they don't understand us. Good luck

Answer 9

sweetheart u are so full of self doubt that this am sure is a big factor in ur marriage. who cleans house, takes care of the kids, cooks meals, runs errands? am sure it is u so please begin by recognizing that u are playing a HUGE role in this marriage.

men are simple creatures- love them too little they hate u for it and run to another woman. love them too much and they hate u for it and run to another woman.

u seem to be trying too hard. what about listening to him, letting him talk to u and not overranalyzing what he says or does. just being there for him.not all guys want a sex marathon every night- they are tired from work. but a welcomoing wife goes a long way.

when my marriage feels stale i go back to the things we loved to do- eating popcorn late at night on the carpet in front of the tv, lying on the lawn guessing what the clouds are, giving him a massage, etc

Answer 10

You sound like you are trying too hard. Why don't you start doing something for yourself to make you feel good and build your confidence. You both need space from time to time, so go out on your own and start a hobby or join a health club. You've got to work on setting goals for yourself as well as with your husband. Maybe you can go back and get some more education...something to help you grow and expand your horizons. if you make your husband your only focus,you will drive him crazy and he won't appreciate you.