i live alone and my boyfriend has a house. he asked me what tile I wanted in the seat of the shower in his new bathroom, and told me i could pick the paint. its not my house, and he has never mentioned us living together? does he just want my decorating advice, or is this a sign of things to come. he is always referring to things as us and ours and we. example: WE can paint the bathroom however YOU want. what is he doing? is he gunna ask me to move in, or am i gunna be waiting another year. again, he knows i wouldnt be able to move in until april.
2007-08-03 02:59:03 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You do not say how long the two of you have been together, but if it has been a while, your relationship is progressing and he sees it as a long term thing. At the very least, you are going to be spending time at his house. More than likely, he is seeing you living there sometime in the future.
He is spending a lot of effort and money on remodeling, and does not want you to later say that you want to redo it because you dislike the color or the tile!
You say he has never talked about you moving in. You also say you are locked in a lease until April. This may come as a shock to you, but you may have a guy there that wants to do things right!
He may be considering asking you to move in, but not right away. He may think there are a couple of things that need to be done first. (Something about a ring, one knee, a white dress, family, friends, a preacher, and the words "I do".)
Good luck
2007-08-03 03:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by fire4511 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is thinking that there is a future there and even if it cant happen until April-he does want your advice on how you want things to look as well....afterall-it will be your home too if you do move in. At this point-I would give him advice only when it is asked for that way he doesn't get the wrong impression of you trying to make his house yours. Let things move naturally. He is also showing you that he values your opinion by asking you about this stuff-so just enjoy it and go with the flow.
2007-08-03 03:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by Jackie 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ask him, not us. What do you want?
I do not understand women sitting back and silently hoping and wishing and viewing their future in a relationship as being totally in the hands of the other person. What is wrong with saying that you want to live together... and personally, I think that if you are ready for a commitment then marriage is more appropriate and if you're not ready for commitment, then living together seems like "pretend" marriage. What's the point. I may be wrong, but I remember reading that statistically, people that live together have less success with marriage.
( I lived with a number of men when I was young.. I found that without committment, it was too easy to bail out. and somebody always did.)
2007-08-03 03:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by Bentley 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds more like he just thinks you have good taste in home decor or at least better taste than him. I wouldn't count on this being a precursor for him asking you to move in/get married. Pretty much with a man what he is asking (what color paint?) is all he is asking and there isn't some secret, special meaning for you to figure out. He's not a woman.
2007-08-03 03:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by philosophy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I were you I wouldnt question his intentions. Just go with the flow. He wants to add a bit of you to the place and while it might be a sign that he will ask you to move in you dont know that for sure so dont assume. Just be happy that he is including you on big decisions and I think its awesome of him.You found a keeper!
2007-08-03 03:15:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he trusts your taste in decorating. That is a compliment! However, why are you EVEN considering moving in with a man before you are married? This will be a "for sure" way to never end up married! If he loves you, he will ask you to marry him. Don't settle for anything less!!!
2007-08-03 03:16:18 · answer #6 · answered by cre8art 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's already expecting you to move in, probably whenever it is a do-able thing.
Maybe he knows that you can't until April, but he's just letting you know that's what he's planning on.
2007-08-03 03:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm could be, should just ask him directly before getting your hopes high. Otherwise I would only suggest the colors on how you would decorate the bathroom, not actaully decorate it. If something goes wrong he will regret he asked you and could rub it in. He apparently also likes your taste so he trusts you would decorate it nicely. Unless he makes it clear, I would not get too involved in telling him how to do it in your likings, but what you think he would like as HIS bathroom.
2007-08-03 03:05:33 · answer #8 · answered by Mary Laurita 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think he just feels comfortable in the relationship and wants your input. Maybe it's an assumption on his part that you will eventually move in, so he's trying to include you in the decision making.
2007-08-03 03:03:03 · answer #9 · answered by Somethingtotry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that he has long term planes for you both! But is waiting for just the right moment and just the right place and time... Just go with the flow!
2007-08-03 03:36:51 · answer #10 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋