Seems like all my friends are no longer close to me, even my best friend, and this girl that I have a crush on. They both were once the closest person in my life, now we hardly contact each other anymore. No one calls me out anymore the way they use to do. I've only spoken to that girl I have a crush on but our friendship doesn't seems to be as close as when we started out.
I'm wondering what I did that damaged all this friendship I have. Or was it something that is out of anyone's control? Is this normal? People keeps talking about friends forever, but my forever cant even pass 2 years
2007-08-03 00:50:35 · 7 answers · asked by Hornet One 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Friendships will fall and rise at the most unexpected times. This seems to be one of them.
My advice is that you don't stay quiet about this. Just gently ask them, as some people have already said, is there something that i have done wrong? Why is that we seem so distant nowadays? Friendships require a lot of effort to keep strong, and i'm sure you don't want to lose this friendship, and so i think just talking to those you care about, with how you're feeling would something worth considering or trying.
If i can put a bit of my own personal context into this - I found that not too long ago i was experiencing the same feeling with my friends. I kept going over and over in my head what could be wrong, or more importantly, what did i do wrong? I developed thoughts which were my own and which were made by me alone, and then just one day i snapped. My friends didn't even know that i was feeling this way and all of the sudden i'm saying all these things about being ignored and like i'm not important anymore. This almost cost me my friendship, but my friends and i resolved it in the end. It was me who was at fault from misinterpretation. If i had just talked to my friends about how i was feeling in a calm way, and let them know, things would have been a lot different, meaning i wouldn't have almost lost my friendship.
I really hope that things will be resolved for you. All the best =]
2007-08-03 01:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you fairly young? That does happen when people are still maturing emotiionally. You 'outgrow' each other and move on. Once you recognize this, you usually tend to navigate toward different interests and thus different group of friends.
Actually, I tend to "change" cycle of friends every 10 years it seems. We just drift apart. There seems to be a"lull" in life, then a new group reappears. When you think about it, we do go through different 'stages' of our life and friends change with it.
Now that you've recognized this, following the other advice seems plausible (that others just gave) to ask why, or move on and enjoy each new adventure! Good luck!
2007-08-03 01:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by dawnUSA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 03:03:19 · answer #3 · answered by rajkumar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to contact each friend and ask them if it something that you've done to them that causes them not to want to be in contact with you anymore. Are you rude, sarcastic, argumentative? Do you whine, moan, groan or complain? People tend to not want to be around people like that, so to me that would explain the 2 year run. But, I would ask each person, and then compare the answers. Good Luck!
2007-08-03 00:58:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you have an active life to share or do you spend a considerable amount complaining or doing very little. Your friends probably still love you but relationships change and revolve into various hemispheres. Most people are active and enjoy their lives.
Get a life and invite your friends to your activities and events.
2007-08-03 00:58:29 · answer #5 · answered by Dawnita R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all the people you have were friends and not friend
is very hard to make friend
just call me
just cool dwon you will make friend someday
2007-08-03 01:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by supreme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to them all and ask them why cos it looks like its not ur fault or theirs
2007-08-03 00:55:23 · answer #7 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋