I'm 5 months along and LOVE my husband's name (Kenneth James) and really want to name our son after him. However, he has a son by an ex who is a jr. She found out she was pregnant right after they broke up and she now lives on the other side of the country. He pays child support, but other than that he has no contact with either of them (her choice, not ours). Would it be disrespectful or weird to name our son as a jr. as well? We would both like to, but we aren't sure if it would be appropirate.
2007-08-02 21:57:35 · 21 answers · asked by Fiona 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
I wouldn't do it. Like many have said, that other baby is going to come looking for his dad more than likely and when he finds you guys and finds out he had another son with the same exact name, it's like a slap in the face and being replaced. And what about your son if he finds out his dad has another son out there with the same name. He may feel like his dad was trying to replace that son with him by naming him the same thing. Also, what if something, God forbid, happened to the mother and the son come to live with you two, then you'd have two boys with the same name.
If you're really set on naming the boy after his dad, he could have three names. Pick another first name you really like and have his middle names be James Kenneth. It's not uncommon for kids to have two middle names, my nephew does. Or, pick one of your husbands names, either Kenneth or James and think of another male relative you want to honor and use his name.
In my opinion it just wouldn't be appropriate to name this baby the same name as his first child rather you see him or not. So many things could backfire and you'd end up with a lot of problems.
2007-08-02 22:16:39 · answer #1 · answered by BadWolf 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Think of it from your future son's perspective...
He grows up as Kenneth James Jr. to one day find out he has a half brother with the exact same name. He may be apt to feel like he was a "replacement" for something that went awry.
It would also be proper to ask the first Kenneth James Jr. if he would mind having a half brother with the same name. Fine there's little communication between he and Dad, but it's just the proper thing to do...
If you insist on using the father's name perhaps you can do Kenneth and another respectable male relative's name for the middle...
2007-08-03 02:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by THE QUEEN B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it. Truthfully, there is already a Kenneth James Jr.; it doesn't matter whether or not your husband with with his mother, when they break up or where she and the boy live. I think it would be incredibly awkward for your son and this little boy; they will be half-brothers. Does it make sense for them both to share the same name?
As other posters have pointed out, what happens if that little boy should come to visit you, or want a relationship with your husband?
No matter how much you both like the name, I think you had better choose another middle name, another first name, or reverse the names.
Good luck to you.
2007-08-03 06:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by Lori H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
James Kenneth
2007-08-03 00:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 02:58:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and name the baby what you want. Shoot all George Foremans son have the same name and I don't think have issues and they all live in the same house. So if the son comes looking for his dad, so be it, just because he used his name twice for both his sons doesn't mean he cares less for the oldest.
If need be couldn't you make your baby a III??? Honestly not sure how that all works but that may be a solution. I don't know.
2007-08-02 23:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by slforney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it wouldn't be right. What if in a few years his son comes and wants to get to know his dad and he has a sibling with the same name? Would you want that? Give him his own identity and use dads name as middle names.
Or a family tradtion in my BIL's family is the son gets the fathers name as middle name.
So if dad is 'Kenneth' then baby is say,
"Isaac Kenneth Surname" and then when he has a son (hopefully) one day it would be " Something Isaac Surname"
2007-08-02 22:30:10 · answer #7 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't want contact with the father, that's one thing. But what if the child goes looking for his father when he's 18+?
Why not go with James Kenneth? Or some other variation?
2007-08-02 22:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by Turq 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a quite nice name. I think it will be an awkward situation unless she's on the other side of the country. haha sorry I like the name because I like Kenneth Cole's products WELLL off topic. I think it'll be better if you just change part of the name.
2007-08-02 22:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by PixieDust 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That kids going to come looking for daddy some day, even if his mom doesn't want to and having another son with the same name is going to be a shot in the chest. Not trying to be rude, really, just honest.
Maybe you could pick one of those names and make it your son's middle name.
2007-08-02 22:06:58 · answer #10 · answered by Seattle_Slacker 5 · 11⤊ 0⤋