I recently was browsing the home PC and found a load of p*orn movies and pics. The PC is in my niece's room and she spends enormous amount of time on the net. She is just 14 and watching porn??
There were a few photos of her too...taken with her mobile phone. She was alone but was nude and posing in indecent manner. Who took these pics and why? Or did she take them herself?
Her mother doesnt know anything about this. Should I rat her out? Or keep it to myself? Or should I confront her myself?
2007-08-02 20:05:18 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She and I get along well. Earlier she used to ask me stuff like bras, periods, boys and all. Lately she has shut herself up.
I am worried that if she has taken those photos for her BF (she is seeing a kid) - he may show it to his guy friends and all.
2007-08-02 20:16:53 · update #1
You can rat her out, if you want. however, what will happen next is that she'll never be open to you and you'll never get the chance to guide her from far worse mistakes in the future than to just watch porn.
Rather be friendly to her. Know that she is curious at this age about these things. If you can really become friendly then she'll be able to confide in you and share things. Only then you can advise her or warn her about the dangers. Let her act on her own, your role is not to take her decisions for her but to guide her so that she takes her own decisions. In this way she will grow up to a responsible person.
2007-08-04 19:57:09 · answer #1 · answered by Sean 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough call on that one. It depends a bit on the nature of your relationship with your neice. If you're the kind of aunt that is a friend instead of a parental figure, then maybe you should confront her. Talk to her about what she's looking at. And especially about the dangers of pictures of herself. First off the internet isn't as anonymous as people like to think and those pictures could get around. Secondly, she's 14 and those pictures are illegal for anyone to have. She could get herself and her whole family in trouble if anyone traces those pictures back to her house.
If that doesn't yeild a reaction you're happy with go straight to her parents before she has time to destroy the evidence.
2007-08-02 20:13:43 · answer #2 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not want to rat her out right away, but you should definately talk to her about it. She's too young to be doing that kind of stuff. If she is taking nude photos of herself she could be sending them to someone. She could be the object of an online sexual predator's affections. You are her family, you most likely love her- you have every right to protect her. If she were my niece I'd talk to her first then go from there. Heaven forbid something bad come of this. In this day and age she could be assaulted or worse.
2007-08-02 20:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by smeelola 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I disagree with Stevedel. By talking to her mother you could be preventing her from getting into a dangerous situation. If she's only 14, talk to her first about why it's not safe for someone her age to be posing nude. Remind her that the internet isn't safe for anyone and especially not children trying to act older than they are. Before going to her mom, try to get her to see reason. If you don't get anywhere, tell her mother as it is her job to protect her daughter/know what her daughter is up to. Suggest installing parental blocks.
2007-08-02 20:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her frankly and very soon. This isn't about ratting out, rather about protection from predators, disease, and pregnancy.
Aunts can be a great safety valve for the young ladies on the cusp. The nude camera pics are a huge warning flag!!!!!
Old Guy
2007-08-03 00:47:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
YES... tell her parents! It takes a village to raise a child these days! What happened to the days where Miss Rosie that lived on the street corner saw all us kids getting in trouble, she gave us a piece of her mind, THEN told our parents so they could take a piece of our behind.
All kidding aside, I truly believe that you have a responsibility as an aunt to tell her parents. I know that it might be scary because you don't want her to be mad at you, but think of it this way, you are truly saving her from something/someone else out there that sees that same opportunity you see... but takes it in a totally different direction... know what I mean
2007-08-02 20:11:22 · answer #6 · answered by amberlina906 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well I think the porn is safe, it wont hurt her. But the nude pics are another thing all together. I f she took them obviously she means for someone to see them. I would tell her parents about the nude pics and they can figure the rest out on their own. I'd want to know if she was my kid.
2007-08-02 20:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by Lucky 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes you should. she is only 14. way too young for some other pervs to be looking at her. try some how to inform the mother
the reason being is because of the photos of her. for all we know some 40 year old pervert could be taking advantage of her. by all means tell her mother. you nerds that are saying no, obviously have no kids of their own. listen to me and tell her mom. if she hates you for it ohh well she and you will have to move on....
2007-08-02 20:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by yakitismak 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her first! Maybe some guy talked or conned her into doing it? Maybe some pervert encouraged her to look at the prom cos he's grooming her for under age sex!
Talk to her ... and check none of the males in her household have access to her computer ... in case they're involved?
2007-08-02 20:09:25 · answer #9 · answered by JeeVee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whether you talk to her yourself or let her parents know first she's going to be mad that you were snooping in the first place. You need to confront her first and let her know what you found and then let her know that you will be discussing it with her parents as well. that you're not doing it to hurt her but to protect her, she will hate you for a while but you as her aunt will know that you did it because you care.
2007-08-03 04:01:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋