i was married two years back, my wife is habitual of leaving me. i compromise 10 time and i brought her home.?

Answer 1

O.K. so now what you want? Do you want to give her divorce? Or keep matrimonial relationship with her. Since you have been compromising & have been bringing her back so many times but since she is habitual of leaving you the best course for you is to make things clear with her once for ever that in case she has to leave you, the best will be if she leaves you permanently i.e. by agreeing for divorce on mutual consent & bring an end to this marital relationship once for ever. The way you have described her behavior such marriages hardly stand long & end up in divorce, so better get prepared for this eventuality sooner the better.

Answer 2

What is your question? Are you wondering if you did the right thing? I can tell you from experience, if you keep taking her back, she is only going to keep doing it. It may be 2 months or 2 years later, but still, she will do it again. I was in a marriage for almost 11 years and after a while, I realized I wasn't happy. so, I left, but because there were children involved, I went back. This happened several times until one day, I realized that I just wasn't happy in the relationship and instead of leaving again, I just got a divorce. The more unhappy I was, the more unhappy I was making my family. I am very happily married now and have since had another child. I do not forsee me ever leaving this marriage because I have finally found the happiness that I was searching for before. Hope this helps. And, if that's not the question that you were looking for an answer to, please add additional comments to complete your question! :)

Answer 3

So stop chasing her, she's made it into a game of how to get u to do what she wants.. its one thing for someone to just get so frusterated with a situation to leave in hopes of waking the other person up to realize they arent going to take living like that.. but its another when it becomes a control game and if ur wife has left u 10 times in 2 years then yes thats what she's doing she knows if she scares u into thinking that she'll leave u , that u'll come crawling back to her and be putty in her hands.. so next time she leaves tell her " look, im not chasing u this time, the door is open if u want to work things out, but this time u have to come back cause u want to not cause im chasing u" and wait.. if she loves u she'll come back, but stop being the door mat and stop giving her all the control in the relationship.

Answer 4

Do it 10 more times.

Answer 5

The answer to your question is based on the following background search:
(a) Do both of you show maturity in your relationship or is it still a fantasy?
(b) Is she a single child for her parents and pampered too much at their place
(c) Did both of you live alone and try to make your `home' or you were living with parents/joint family?
(d) How accommodate is your mother to your wife? Is your mother behaves like a typical mother in law (as you see in most of the movies and serials in mini screen)
Please try to analyise your problem with these questions and I am sure you will find the root cause of your problem in relationship. Once the cause is identified, you can find a solution also by taking the appropriate corrective action.
Please do have open communication and try to understand her stand also. If you are a dictator where only your views are to be followed, you will continue to have problem. Todays wives need to be treated as friends and partners in progress. Need to be more professional in this field also to have a good return on investment and bottom line in life.
Best of luck and wish you positive results.

Answer 6

If u don't investigate why she is always leaving u, and take corrective steps, this will keep repeating. Marriage is serious and not a game. Next time she leave, u don't bring her back, let she come of her own, and u put the condition that she can return back only if she never leaves u again.

Answer 7

It seems that she must have got much more love & affection in her parent's house than yours. I don't know there may be some shortage in your way of loving & interacting with her. Initially many newly wed girls have adjustment problem. I don't know whether u r living in joint family or have nuclear family. Both have merits & demerits. U ' ve compromised a lot. Have you taken her off for beautiful places for sight seeing & tried to pass hours at secluded places where she can tell what she has in her heart ? Take her to Gulmarg ( ride in Gandola too, upto 15,000 ft. height ), Sonmarg, Pahalgam , Kokernag, Siraj Bagh, Nishat Bagh, Chashmashashi Bagh , Shalimar bagh; Dal , Nagin , Manasbal & Wular Lakes etc. The season is ripe now. By seeing beautiful gardens, lakes, snow, innumerable cold unpolluted water springs, blue hills, 200 ft high straight vertical equidistant safeda trees' straight 30 mile rows like green walls at both sides of roads, beautiful glaciers, rivers & subcontinent's most beautiful white people of green & brown eyes , golden hairs , rosy cheeks & flowerlike red lips & their extremely simple behaviour & easily amicable nature, she will be extremely thrilled so much that she will suddenly discover all good qualities in you . Kashmiri cuisines r unbelievably very tasty particularly non veg ones & most liked 'Gushtaaba' is so much tasty that it is unmahable.Then she will stop going to her parent's house. Wise persons don't want to take the family problems out of the doorstep only to be laughed over or badly insulted in public or in courts only to be converted to a permanent highly traumatic wound. I'd never advice for separation as apparently it is a simple or no problem at all. None of you have to be temperamental. Both must be cool, tolerant, sweet, soft , reconciliatory & non confrontationalist in words & actions to keep sweet relationship going, the purpose of marriage. Educated people have no problem being so. Adamancy & belligerence destroys family relation. Do both of you have physical compatibility ? If so, do you have regular sex with orgasm ? If this is so, then no wife would like to be away from husband , I'm sure. Firstly take her to a good & reliable lady doctor for full medical check up. Then take her to a sweet lady marriage counciller. After that go for sight seeing a little away from place of stay in selusion. Never overburden domestic works though you both must learn slowly all important domestic works. Mostly young boys have tendency to find fault with opposite person. true religious people are honest & sincere . So, they do not have this drawback. Follow nominal good religious principles too & develop habit of being perfectly neutral in passing judgements on small as well as big things. This will help you in all walks of life. Never think of separation. Good luck.

Answer 8

u should not argue with ur wife. U always respect her
feelings. u should appreciate her action. U start tell she is
alone beautiful woman comparing with others. She has lot
of good qualities. U start testing her cookings. And appreciate her food preparation. Always praise her parents.
If u start doing these things certainly she will not leave from
u.

Answer 9

Dear Sir,

I have too same problem. but i can't leave her so i think that a girl's live with her parents and some problem with hindu family for parents of husband and familier not mixup with new commer. wife's are think abut all husband's family look like good person with love her but than they were acceptation with her daughter in law. than they were think about respectation with all family. some R wrong with our family values. than heartly she feeling abut her own father mother and than not mixup with other family. so i think first u setup with your life. for nicely think about her than u will reading up her mind that what she think or want of you than u come at her home otherwise u don't ask her. that is way of life not argue with each other. i think u may relax for think abut earning with her only. all relative u may got changed your mind so u hv strongly desion that u hv not loose ur married life at any cost. if u love with your wife or if she loved with U.

Answer 10

Now when is back give her a good orgasm for 10 times and repeat it again (if u are still alive) ... and if still she leaves you ... then there is nothing much you or any man in this world can do about it .... let her go for good ...