What do you do when your wife flirts over the cell phone with a co-worker in front of you?

Question

What do you do when your wife flirts over the cell phone with a co-worker in front of you? I took off a week on my job and went with her on her job and found out a few things that really upset me and know im thinking of go ahead and getting a devorce...

Answer 1

for one thing that was rude of her! I would tell her it hurt your feelings and how would she feel if you did that type of thing>??? It is not something to sneeze at.

Answer 2

You can not make a man love you either he does or he doesn't it's that simple. Your husband doesn't know what love is or just isn't ready to fully comment to being a good husband. He knows right from wrong so he knows keeping another woman's number is totally wrong but yet he chooses to keep it. Your right what is his is your and vice versa so you have every right to answer his phone and to look in his computer. If he wasn't hiding anything he wouldn't care if you answered his cell phone or checked out his computer. Only the guilty have something to hide remember that. My husband cheated on me and he did everything your husband is doing. Like you I also had that horrible feeling that he was cheating on me this was before I knew.I just wish I would have followed my gut feel maybe I could have caught it before it got to that point but like you I didn't want him mad at me. A wife should always come first just like your husband should come first with you. That means he should always think of you before doing anything. Always putting you first before friends and job should be his first priority as your husband. He knows he is hurting you but yet he continues with the same behavior by keeping another girls number. Weather it's an old friend or co-worker makes no difference it's so insensitive and definitely not the behavior of a caring and loving husband. I know these are harsh words but you need to hear them. He may indeed love in his own way but that isn't good enough if he can't give you his all then he shouldn't have married you. If you keep letting him get away with the things he is doing or should I say not doing then he will just keep on treating you this way. He isn't ready to do what it take to be a husband and from the sound of it he wants to have the freedom of a single man but wants you there to take care of him. He needs to learn what it takes to be a married man that means you have to teach him you need to put your foot down when he does something inappropriate. Stop worrying about him getting mad at you he will get over it. Married 31 years and we are best friends and we do everything together if I'm not with him then he doesn't want to do it. We still love each other very much. The first year was very hard we came so close to splitting up and we would have but 9 months after we were married I got pregnant thank god for that because that give us the hold we needed.

Answer 3

First, what do you consider flirting? You didn't say what she was saying to the co-worker. You should communicate your feelings to her that it made you uncomfortable that she would talk to a co-worker in that manner. But, was she just being nice or was she REALLY flirting? Some men can be overbearing with jealousy, but so can women. Tell her what you expect of her within reason and let her know that you do not appreciate her actions, if they were really meant that way. Getting a divorce over flirting, if it was flirting, is just quiting. Real adults would stick it out and talk it out, not walk away at the first sign of confrontation.

P.S. referring to above...any man that will lay one finger on a woman isn't a man, he is a coward...No matter what another person does or says, you have no right to lay your hands in anger on them, whether it be a man or woman.

Answer 4

If the wife has given no indication of infidelity then it could be perfectly harmless. As long as she is doing in front of her husband she isn't sneaking or hiding anything. I work with almost all men (.7% of our work force are women out of 40K employees nation wide). I talk and flirt with male co-workers on the phone all the time in front of my husband. He knows that it is harmless and in good fun. Not all men are mature enough to accept that their wife isn't looking to hook up just being freindly and stroking her co-worker's ego. That makes it a lot easier for me at work since I am well liked. I thank God that my husband is mature enough to handle it!! It reaffirms the strength of our relationship. BTW I have been married over 17 years and have always flirted, it is just in my nature.

Answer 5

Well, I'm trying to figure this one out. You took time off from your job to go with her on her job? What kind of businesses are you folks in?

Anyway, it really depends on your definition of flirting. Sometimes you need to "butter up" your co-workers to get them to do things for you while you are out of the office.

Now, if you are talking blatant sexual flirtation, then you need to have a serious talk with her and a divorce lawyer - not at the same time.

Otherwise, you need to have a serious talk with your wife. You need to find out what is really going on. If she doesn't give you a good answer, go have that talk with a divorce lawyer.

First, you better get some good evidence. Divorce is war, and war is Hell.

Answer 6

Disconnect that broads phone. I don't play that and I am a chick. You don't disrespect yo man like that. Find out who she is talking to, tell her that she needs to make some changes or let her know she is bout to lose her man. The only person she nees to flirt with is YOU!

I don't condone putting yo hands on a woman but sometime u might have to look her in her eyes and shake her like a Yoohoo. She needs to get a clue. If u did it (flirting with another woman on the phone), u know she would have a fit.

Answer 7

Instead of jumping the gun and acting irrationally, you need to mention this to your wife. Maybe she isn't aware she's even flirting. Some people flirt without knowing they do. Point it out to her -in a calm manner- and go from there.

Answer 8

Come on people! Honestly don't you think the United States has enough divorce? I mean in a marriage proposal it says TILL DEATH DO US PART, and FOR IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH. So come on live your life by your wedding vowels and be a man. Confront her, tell her how you feel, and then and only then if it don't work out then decide if you want to or not.

Answer 9

you have to find out if they have a relationship. it doesn't mean that just because she flirts with her co-worker, they are having a relationship. prove yourself first that they are doing something wrong before you make big decisions. you might regret taking steps too early. then if you find out that they have a relationship then it's up to you if you want to divorce her.

Answer 10

I would grab the phone and hang it up. Then I would hand it to my husband and remind him he's married and tell him to show a little respect. I would also tell him that if he wants to be free to flirt, he should let me know.

Answer 11

Wow, no wonder your wife is flirting with other men, you're certainly not communicating with her. Try talking to her instead of deciding the future of your relationship for her.