2007-08-02 17:37:33 · 14 answers · asked by lilly l 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My lady and I were married the day after out high school graduation. We had our children when we were very young because we wanted to grow up with them, and we did. I thought, when we were first wed that I had found the "perfect lady", and I still feel that way, but we've only been together for forty five years so maybe some flaw will surface. We'll see. There is no secret to a happy and successful marriage. Love changes over the years. The flames of passion become glowing embers that comfort and keep you warm. The one absolutely necessary feeling that a couple must have is an undying and total respect for one another. Keep that intact and there's nothing the world can throw at you that will alter your happiness. Life is good.
2007-08-02 17:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
22 years.
Respect for each other. Knowing the other has different thoughts and tastes.
Not expecting the other to read minds. i.e. 'You should know what is wrong with me, you were there!'
Caring concern for the others well being, even if you think they are wrong. Unless life or financial stability is at stake.
Mutual spirituality, worshipping the same God goes a long way to happiness.
Communication without accusing or screaming or yelling. Treating the other as you want to be treated.
Love. Never let it fade. And care about the mates family, even it it is just a little bit. Remember, the mate wouldn't be here except for the fact of their parents. MIL's may not be so bad viewed that way.
Never talk bad about the mate to your family or friends.
If you have problems, talk to your mate. Work for solutions, not blame and finger pointing, that usually leads to yelling.
I love my husband more today than I did yesterday, and way more than the day I said 'I do.'
He is my best friend. Even though he isn't perfect, he is my one and only.
2007-08-03 00:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by litecandles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been married over 17 years. Best advice I ever got was from the pastor that married my husband and I. When ever you fight (and you will) fight about what is here and now. NEVER drag up what happened in the past. If you are mad at each other about one thing never bring up what you fought about last week, last month or last year. After you fight and get over it, drop it. Never hold on to old hurts. There is no benefit to that. Hash it out once and then leave it alone. My husband and I will fight and argue and to hear us you'd think we hated each other but once it is done, it is done and is not brought up again. Also never go to bed mad. Take care of the matter right away, don't let it fester and grow. Good luck!!
2007-08-03 01:21:47 · answer #3 · answered by T 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My marriage almost ended this past month after 14 years, but thankfully we were able to work it out. We have never been that close to divorce. We are right now trying to get back to the good times, it will be a while, but I feel that we will be back on top soon and better then ever. Understand marriage is hard work, it has lots of bumps in the road. You have to understand you will not always be "in love" with your spouse. It comes and goes. You will not always be best friends or perfect lovers. You just have to take the good times and the bad times and ride them for what they are worth. There is no secret to a perfect marriage.....just take what you have and make it work.
2007-08-03 00:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
16 years, always remember what got you together in the first place, besides the sex.. like walking in the rain, watching the sun set, taking a moonlight stroll near a lake, watching a movie, rubbing her feet after a long day, making coffee for her in the morning, making small talk, letting her know each and every day that she is your Queen.
If you can do all this and more consistently ,and accept the fact that people have their differences, marriage is what you put into it.. sometimes you have to give 90 percent and only get back 10 percent, but I know from experience that what comes around does indeed go around..
2007-08-03 00:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are not married yet for finacial reasons, but we have been together exclusively for 3 years. I know that is not a long time for most people, but I know I will be with him forever. We are best friends, and we both have an open mind to each others ideas. We don't argue, we Discuss certain issues, and we are both willing to give in a little on things if they other one feels very strongly about it.
2007-08-03 00:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by Stark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The secret to staying married you mean?
I am reminded of an old man saying on some show(radio or documentary, can't remember)..., "Well, you don't die and you don't leave".
Just gives ya the fuzzies don't it?...hahaha.
I've been married almost 10 years.
I don't have a secret.
You just stay loyal and committed.
good luck to you,
D
2007-08-03 00:55:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and i have been happily married 16 yrs..We love each other more then anything,he is my whole life and i am his whole life,we couldnt imagine life without each other,we get along great,he is my best friend and i am his best friend,we rarely fight,we have lots of laughs,we respect each other,we are open and honest with each other,we are both affectionate people and love giving lots of hugs,kisses and lots of cudding and we have a decent and satisfying sex life that is our secret.
2007-08-03 00:52:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've been married for almost 15years.my secret is give and take and as a wife be patience always and take care of family with all ur love.
2007-08-03 00:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by celestia ck 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
less than three years: The secret to our success is I've learned to take the blame for everything, even when it's not my fault. That usually helps a great deal
2007-08-03 00:40:07 · answer #10 · answered by hansblix222 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋