is it possible to stay with one person all your life?

Question

is it possible to remain happy? even if this woman cheated on you before on you with your friend.

Answer 1

I don't think so with the cheating part. But my grandparents stayed together for their entire lives, and they were very happy. My boyfriend's grandparents are still together, they argue a lot, but you can tell they really love each other. They still look at each other in that 'way' and they make each other laugh All The Time!! No one ever cheated on anyone. My other grandma stayed with my grandpa for his entire life, until he died of lung cancer. They were happy together. I think it just depends on whether or not the two people are a true fit for each other. If someone has already cheated, they are not a true fit, and I don't think things will work out for them. I have been cheated on, nothing is the same after you get cheated on.

Answer 2

I think it's possible, but like all relationships, it requires a lot of work. Just remember that the amount of time you've been with someone really doesn't matter in the end - your happiness does. Stay with someone if they make you content. Don't stay with them just out of habit or because "well, I've been with them this long already..." You never know what you could be missing by staying in an unhappy relationship.

If she's cheated on you before, you need to ask yourself why, and figure out if the problems in your relationship can be worked through - or if it's even worth it to do so. The only person who can answer those questions is you. Look at your future, and your past. What do you want? What does she want? Are you happy? There are lots of factors you should examine, but not overnight and not when you're upset or agitated. Look introspectively with a calm mind, and find out for yourself what you truly want.

Answer 3

i wouldn't start out a marriage with someone who's already messed up that bad... if you're already having problems before you've even marrIEd then i say it's a no go... dating is a filtering process... you need to find the right person

marriage is something that you have to be ready for... and if you're having to ask there's probably some question as to whether or not she's the one

when i met my husband there was no doubt in my mind that he was the one... we got married when we were in love and we still had a hard time adjusting to the first 3 years...
marriage is tough sometimes but it's definitely worth it if you're with the right person... the more work that you put into it the better it will be... it will make your life better and you happier if you work to make it great (ie, counseling when you need it, having a date night once a week, remembering to say i love you even when you're tired)

i would say that everyone deserves to be forgiven.. even if they cheat on you with a friend... and if you were already married i'd suggest therapy for the two of you... but you have a red flag here.. you should pay attention to it...

good luck and God bless!

Answer 4

Daniel,
It would be much more difficult once the spouse CHEATED on you but it is possible. I suggest that you seek a Bible Study near your home. I would be glad to help you find a study that will only use the BIBLE and not man's creeds as a guide. Such a Church should follow the New Testament scriptures and be Non-Denominational. I believe that if you and she become Christians then you styand a better chance of having a lasting relationship then your present relationship is going. Drop me a note if you would like some assistance.
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Answer 5

Yes, as long as both partners work as hard as they possibly can at the relationship. It's all about trying to make the other as happy as possible. I'm not saying go out and buy her a new car every month, I'm just saying that you need to respect each other and remember to always treat each other like you want to be treated, then everything else will come natural. If you can't do that, then it's time to get out and allow yourselves a chance to meet someone that truly will make you happy. Good luck!

Answer 6

Cheating can be hard to forgive, and impossible to forget. It really depends on the willingness of BOTH parties to make the situation better.
Is it possible to spend a lifetime with one person? Both my parents and parents-in-law have been married for over 50 years (52 and 57 years) and are still happy to be in eachother's company, so YES its possible.

Answer 7

You asked TWO questions, so I will give you two answers.
Question no. 1 - Yes, it is possible to stay all your life with one person, only if that person really loved you.
Question no. 2 - If the woman cheated on me before, then she did not love me, and therefore would not be worthy of spending my whole life with her....and I would kick her out, and let some other jerk have her.

Answer 8

Yes. it is possible , some people cheated for many reasons that does not mean that they do not love their partners. It is your heart that is gonna give you the answer. Just look inside you and see what weigh more , all those moments of happines or one mistake( I hope this happens just once). And depends what the person that did the mistake is thinking.

Answer 9

Of course it is possible - take a look around, most of the elderly people you know have been married to one person all their lives...and most of them are happy (sure there are sad times, mad times, even long periods of hateful times) but they made it work.

But if that person is not committed to you as you are to them, then there is some re-evaluating you need to do. Did your spouse learn from the mistake she made? Has she done everything in her power to make it up to you.....to regain your trust and love and bond? If so then it can happen for you too. If not, find that one person out there that you can grow old with - it can happen.

Answer 10

For a healthy relationship, you have to understand each other. You have to know how to commuicate correctly or things will go wrong automatically. You need to listen to each other;s needs and wants and to be there for each other. You make one another complete basically. If she cheated on you, then obviously somethings wrong. If you want to stay with this woman, then fix the problem. Talk to her about it. If she doesn;t want to listen and she wants to go off with other men, then let her and let it be done. But if she's willing to work on this relationship with you and to be a healthy couple then work together and you can make it happen.