after they break up with you, and you know its totally over, how can you make the love you have for them just go away?
2007-08-02 16:35:49 · 31 answers · asked by lisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It will have to fade away. Trying to just shut those feelings off doesn't work.
Try thinking of the good things that will come of you breaking up. You're free again.
2007-08-02 16:38:50 · answer #1 · answered by Meng-Tzu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It never goes away by you making it. You just have to go on with your life and as time goes by it will get easier. You will love again and it will be even better because now you will appreciate it more after you have been burned. It is a hard process, but stay busy and turn your energy into doing something you've always wanted to do for yourself. Go take dance lessons or learn to play the guitar. Just do something that makes you feel good about who you are. Love yourself enough to just let yourself go wild and be free for a while. You will appreciate this time you will have to yourself in time. I know from experience. Best wishes.
2007-08-02 23:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by ladydragonaap 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 7 yrs of being together we broke up for good, 2 months later and now he has a fiance. I was hurt for about 1 week then I sat down and wrote down everything I coud remember about the S*%$ he put me through, all the lies, the cheating, broken promises, late nights out and now I don't even think twice about him all he did was take his drama to another women and I am so thankful for that cause I realized out of the 7 yrs I think I was only happy with the first 2 yrs. Now I'm single and having fun enjoying life and not falling in the trap again all it did was set my life back. So the same time you take thinking about what you had together, take that same time and put it into yourself and you'll see what love really is, no one can love you more than you love yourself.
2007-08-03 01:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by florida_flower8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self control. It hurts to love someone and not have them love you back. Rejection is hard to over come.You can't make someone care when they don't. They have to feel it in their heart and if they don't you just have to move on. They'll more than likely always be a fond memory but accept it for what it is. You deserve someone who has the same feelings you do. Don't sell yourself short wondering about what could've been. Know in your heart that it will be their loss, not yours. With everyday it will get easier. When that special someone finally finds his way into your life, you will appreciate him even more due to this bad experience and "Mr Totally Over" will not be able to find any mind time.
2007-08-03 00:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by Sidney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will never going to be able to do this if you truly loved them. However you can do things that can make it easier. First, you need to change your habits. Everything you do will remind you of them. Rearrange things, go to different places, take down stuff that reminds you of them. Try your best to hid anything that reminds you of them. Over time it will be easier to stop thinking about them, but like I said you can't force yourself to stop loving them. I still love my first love and that was 8 years ago. He's married now but he knows that I will always care about him and he will always have a special place in my heart, but the love I have for him has changed. I don't love him as a boyfriend anymore, I love him as a true friend and someone I had great times with.
2007-08-02 23:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't only time will tell. You can't control it no matter how hard you try. And when you think you're over it something happens, anything, a song on the radio for example will send you back down memory lane. In your mind it's over, but your heart hasn't gotten there yet that's all. Just give it time or get a puppy!
2007-08-02 23:43:02 · answer #6 · answered by Califiyah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very hard and may take a long while before your feelings will fade/go away. best thing to try to do is distract yourself with things you like to do, hang out with friends, talk with someone about what you are feeling and going through, write it out what's inside, while avoiding things that remind you of your former love,
2007-08-03 03:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you write down all the pros and cons; making sure the cons are really more and looking on the positive side that it was not love; true love never dies; letting that person go is like having a new life begin; take it one day at a time.
2007-08-02 23:40:23 · answer #8 · answered by hollywood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the thought crosses my mind would he ever doubt hes my only one so ... if tomorrow never comes will he ever know how much I love him.... if my time here were through ......is the love I gave him enough to ever last..... if I take him to the past will tomorrow ever come...... now I live w no regret that true feelings have been set..... to make a promise to myself to avoid the cicumstance to tell him by chance..... so I tell him every day ...hes my only 1 ....... so if tomorrow ever comes .......so tell that someone u love just what you thinkin of .....if tomorrow never comes
2007-08-02 23:51:21 · answer #9 · answered by quen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well think of it this way. love is an action not an emotion. so if i loved someone i would do anything for them or to protect them. this doesn't mean do what ever they ask but being nice to them or showing mercy. the emotion is the more of caring for someone. think about it. you can love your siblings but not necessarily like them. so with whoever you broke up with you probably still feel the emotion part of it maybe even still love him/her but if you love someone that doesn't mean you have to be "in-love" with them.
that's my view but other people might think something different
2007-08-02 23:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by Gone Soccer Crazy!!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋