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And I am NOT trying to generalize or be racist first off!!
But,
I am white, my mans black & I notice that "some" and I elaberate "some" black females feel the need to make up a reason why he'd be with a white woman. This is really startin to annoy me!

Why is it that "some" black women feel superior to white women and say stupid **** like:

"He's with a white woman because she put's up w/ crap we won't put up with!"

"It's just a sex thing!"

"She's probably white trash anyway!"

LMAO!

Can you get over yourselves???

Can't your little, itty, bitty minds realize it's because they love the woman their with, no matter the color??

For "some" woman to say that just show how insecure they are as women!

If I see a white man w/ a black woman, I could care less. It's just a couple to me!

I don't appreciate being generalized as a fat, white, money hungry white woman!

When in turn I am a beautiful, intellegent, sexy white woman!

Grow Up!!

Answer 1

People like those that you described are ignorant bigots. people are people no matter what color, age, gender and anything else that some people label as different and wrong. no one chooses who they will fall in love with. love is beautiful no matter what.

Answer 2

First off, when people state that they're not generalizing, stereotyping, or being racist...they usually are. It's like a defense mechanism people use to fool themselves into believing they would never be "one of those." BUT, unfortunately you are just as guilty as they are. They are stereotyping you and you're doing the same back.

* If you are in a relationship with someone who is of a different race,age, religion, background, etc..You know there will be trouble or hardships that will surface eventually in some form. Whether it be from friends, family, society (the public).

So I think you need to remember that. Don't act surprized and baffled by the experience. You need to to know it's gonna happen..and just be prepared. It sucks, but it's society- at least for now, ya know. On the bright side, maybe the next generations will not have to deal with it as much- maybe you should think of this an opportunity to show people their wrong and remember you're hopefully paving the way for future couples to not be regarded as different.

As for the women's comments...you have two choices.

1. Hold you're head up high, be classy and don't let their ignorance and jealousy ruin your state of mind and "couple time." If you respond and get angry about it...they WON. They got to you and now you're conversating to your man about how lame they were and not about important stuff like you and him.

2. Or have some prepared statement in your head ready at all times to say if some woman says something...just keep it intelligent and classy. Make them feel ignorant...NOT right. If they think you're white trash...don't help them feel right by getting nasty back.

Just know that obviously you're a great woman, or your man wouldn't be with you. The women are being catty - like all women are. They are just trying to protect the "good ones" from being taken, right...WHO CARES- live your life, be happy, keep them wondering how white women do it??!

Answer 3

Your question was why? Right? OK I think that if anyone is commenting on a persons skin and or culture that just shows what is in their minds and hearts, I do not think you should react to ignorance with anger or rage. If all that they are saying is untrue then why bother. Usually people only get upset if their is some truth in what is being said. So review your own feeling about the matter. Do you fit into any of those stereotypes? Do you see yourself as a "white"woman and he a "black" man?

Answer 4

I understand, you and your boyfriend know the reasons you are together. You know what you have connected on and why you care for each other. Some people are always gonna have a problem with interracial dating. (believe me I know, I have never dated a guy the same race as me). Just shake it off, you know if you have a strong relationship you will get through this and soon you won't hear those stupid comments, in fact people may stop noticing that you're a mix couple
Good luck! Stay strong, give a good example for the rest of us out here in love with someone of another race!

Answer 5

(sigh)

In response to: "Why is it that "some" black women feel superior to white women and say stupid **** like:

[1] "He's with a white woman because she put's up w/ crap we won't put up with!"

[2] "It's just a sex thing!"

[3] "She's probably white trash anyway!"

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[1] Because black men have said so...

[2] Because black men tend to compare black women's sexual appetite to other races of women.

[3] Black men tend to date big white women...

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Black men have a huge influence in the black community, so when those things are said about white women - that's what some black people run with. You probably don't understand or you don't want to. So step to the source if you really want to know why these things are being said.

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When I continued to read further you said, "For "some" woman to say that just show how insecure they are as women!"

I advise you not to come online ranting when you are angry. You really slipped up here. If you did not want to sound like a straight up ignorant white ***** then you should have said...

For "a" woman to say such things, it only shows how insecure "SHE" is...it sounds like you really believe most black women are studying you and your man.

Get over yourself.

Answer 6

I understand what you are are saying, but I experience this same thing when I'm with a white guy and black men feel the need to make an excuse as to why I'm with "snow white."

Answer 7

I have heard Black men say that I'm going to get me a White woman because they will do whatever I want them to and not nag when I f*&^ up. Personally, I don't give a rats because if it was not for interacial dating I would not be here.

Answer 8

Wow you sound really angry. I am a black woman who is dating and has always dated white men and trust me black women give me hell too, and black men even the ones dating white women give me hell. When me and my honey go out I get both races asking me what I'm doing with a white man, or calling me a sell out or a sl_ut for being with a white guy. I have had black guys try and rape me, I have had black guys try and jump my bf all because they want to see a black woman alone with a bunch of children (I have none). I have gotten into fights with black women because of their jealousy and feelings of inadequacy. I have gotten into fights with white girls for the same reason so please get it out of your head that it's just you! It's not! TRUST!

Answer 9

I have dated a Chinese man and had a lot of the same problems, but we liked each other. The same thing for a Pakistani when we were in college. It seems to be something about maintaining a "like being with like" and no blending. Tough choices but do your best.

Answer 10

Dont let them adversely affect you whoever and whatever you may be. Whatever negativity they harbor against you is their loss not yours just remember to be both beautiful in the inside and the outside. Care not for the person's skin color but care for his/her heart.

And Educate them about what is so that theyll move on.

Viva La Raza Cosmica