why do i feel so diconnected?

Question

I am a 32 year old male who cares for his fiance full time. She has a central nervous system disease called M.S. We get enough money to exist and not much for anything else. All i want to do is to be able to make her life comfortable and provide a few distractions to ease our life from the boredom and drudgery of staying at home. We are happy and love each-other very much. Why should people in our situation have to forfit the little things that most people take for granted? I would love to be able to take her to the movies or out for dinner. The only way i could do that is to put her into a nursing home and work. I myself would not want to be put into a nursing home because my situation was inconvinient. Why do people in our situation tend to exist instead of live?

Please dont get me wrong. We are very happy people it is just we seem to always struggle with things like entertainment or sacrifice good food to get things we need. I dont expect to get everything for nothing but it has changed my view of why we pay taxes and go to work. We work hard for so little and it seems that the rich get rich and that elevates them to a level where they are above compassion. When you have nothing you seem to lose your delusions of why we are in this society. thank you for your kind responses

Thankyou for that comment Tantravaya-
I have a great attitude to life but i think you need to research M.S (mutiple sclerosis) it leaves you in a paralyzed state and zapps your energy to a point where you are feeble as a kitten. I think i have a warriors attitude and as i stated before you must have nothing to be able to understand. (no offence meant)

Answer 1

I don't have an answer for you Leonidis. I just want to say that your consciousness is a cry that no one should ignore. Best to you and your loved one.

Answer 2

My answer: sometimes--and I don't know if this applies to you--people in seemingly desparate situations get all tangled up in helplessness and don't look for solutions.

Here's my similar experience, and how I got out of it. It doesn't completely apply, because I wasn't taking care of a sick person.

I found myself in a desperate financial situation, and at the heart of the situation--the cause--was my love for another.

We were definitely existing instead of living. I tended to blame fate.

But I sat down and asked myself what I could do to make money.

The first questions I asked were "What types of problems do I like to solve?" and "Describe a situation where I solved a problem and felt good about it."

Among my answers were times when I took on an absolute mess and cleaned it up. I happen to enjoy cleaning.

I had no money for startup costs, but I started a business that didn't require much money. I started cleaning houses--despite my pride, despite the fact that I have a couple of degrees.

I liked working alone, being my own boss, and using my physical strength. I personally don't like anything that requires me to sit in a chair all day.

After awhile, I branched into somewhat more interesting, and better paying work--painting interiors and personal organization; i.e., helping really messy people get their lives straightened out. Made really decent money at that, because I'm good at it.

Now I have some suggestions:

You have a computer and Internet access. You like to write. Have you looked for work-at-home opportunities in writing, editing, proofreading? There are such opportunities, but DON'T use "work at home" as a search term because it will generate junk and advertising. Use "freelance" as a keyword.

Using your computer, you could get out of the house ocassionally (maybe), go to auctions and garage sales, and sell the things you pick up at a profit, on e-bay or other sites.

At auctions, they sell books and other items by the boxload for a few dollars. You can sell each book individually on various Internet sites, not just ebay.

But ask yourself: have I fully explored all avenues to solve this problem?

Answer 3

Life is as much about attitude as circumstances. Our attitude to our circumstances is what defines us as human beings. If our attitude is defeatist, our circumstances remain defeated.

Life's challenges are an opportunity to snatch victory from the hands of defeat and the harder the challenge the greater the opportunity to excel.

Acceptance of our "lot" in life is a withering of the gift of life. We all have a magnificent brain that can rewrite our beliefs about ourselves and our circumstances.

We cannot change others and often we cannot change certain events or situations in our lives but we can change ourselves and our attitude. We can use our wonderful brain to create more opportunities to find the things that are missing for us.

The change starts with creative imagination. Dreams are the beginning and then looking at how to feasibly make the dreams come true are the practical steps. Look to what makes you both happy and joyous. Can you work from home? Can she join in an activity out of the home for stimultion and pleasure? What can you do for yourselves that will ultimately enrich the life of your partner.

You know when you fly in a plane, the safety instructions are:

If the oxygen mask falls from the ceiling, put it on yourself first and then assist others. Make yourself happy first and then you will be a joy to your partner.

Look for opportunitiesw instead of accepting there are none. Life gives nus what we seek but we have to go on the treasure hunt.

Answer 4

Firstly I am so sorry to hear your fiance is not well. You sound like an angel taking care of her like that. I guess you have to keep getting out and about by doing things that don't cost money- like picnic in the park, visit to beach, museum etc. Or maybe you can both join a group that lends support?

Best of luck to you.

ALSO- try hard to maintain a positive outlook, this will help too. as I always say- GET AMONGST IT.

Answer 5

Is there anyway you could run a home business? Something that hasn't got huge time constraints and you can work around your fiance's schedule. Examples I can think of would be editing for authors, or bookkeeping for small businesses. I think your fiance would probably like to see you do something other than take care of her. It would give you some extra money for entertainment. Even angels need to take some time for themselves to play their harps!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

I'm sorry