a friend of mine watches my son while I work in the evenings in exchange for cleaning her home and usually once every couple of monhts I either go to the store and buy her groceries or I cook for her family of 15. I have 1 son. She watches him between 20 - 25 hours a week.
I do not have a lot of money which is why we made this arrangment. It has been my hope to pay her at some point but I just haven't gotten that far into making it. It's frustrating.
Well here is the problem I was paying $135 mo for prek4. Which she knew and had no problem with. But this year he starts K and the school district I'm in is NOT good. So my dad said he would pay for the other 140 for me to send him to a private K this year. 140 on top of my 135.
I haven't told her. I want too but would you be upset? My dad views women diff. Example my brother went to private sch. I went to public. How do I handle this? I appreciate and love her and I don't want to hurt her or for her feel taken advantage of.
2007-08-02 15:38:44 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm willing to wager that she would be very happy for your little tyke and wants only the best for him. Be honest with this woman and watch. I certainly hope that I know humankind enough to have made the right judgment but feel certain that she will not be angry or hurt in the least. Best of luck to you and your friend. And don't forget to thank your dad for all the help also.
2007-08-02 15:43:34 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what you feel would be fair and equitable as a new arrangement... it would be best not to keep it from her in case she finds out some other way, then it would look like you were lying on purpose. Is private K $275? I'm sure if she knew your dad was just making up the difference, it wouldn't affect your current arrangement at all. How does your dad's view of women even factor in at all?
2007-08-02 22:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by SodaLicious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Despite your father's views on women, you need to think about what is best for your son. She may be upset, but if you explain to her that you need to do this in order to make a better life for your little guy - She should understand. If this upsets her, that can be understandable. If she is unwilling to see the bigger picture, or seems furious over the situation - Then she is not a good friend. It can be akward to come to this sort of a crossroads between friends, but if your relationship is strong you will get through it.
2007-08-02 22:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by Sam F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your dad is paying not you so nothing has changed your financial status. She has no bussiness being upset with you since you're not paying the extra money. It sounds like you have a fair arrangment. I don't see why this should affect it.
2007-08-02 22:44:29 · answer #4 · answered by spiffymo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋