well am getting married soon and well my man keeps changing his mind and the date he says that he is scared and i said of what. and well am not sure if we should if he has doubts. right help me plse somebody.
2007-08-02 15:22:58 · 12 answers · asked by Esther 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he is having doubts, then I would think about putting it off for a little while.
You need to really sit down and talk to him.
Ask him what is scaring him.
Then come up with a plan on how you guys will get through whatever it is that is giving him "cold feet".
That's the best way to get through it, is by talking it through.
Don't do it until you "both" are sure it's what you want without a doubt.
Good luck
2007-08-02 15:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, fear can be the devil himself.
if your fiance is scared but, he doesn't even know what of, you should postpone the wedding.
If you really love him, waiting for marriage is a good idea. Let him figure out what he needs. at least you are still together. Everyone says there is a high rate of divorce these days and that is scary in itself. Perhaps if you allow him the time to sort himself out, you will have a long lasting marriage when, it does happen.
I wish you the best of luck and all the patience you and he need.!
2007-08-02 22:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Rhonda Rabbit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married is a big step....guys take it as if they are giving up on some things that they might not get to do. Sounds like he has a case of cold feet. Simply ask him if he's sure he's ready for this. Then stand your ground on a date. Good Luck...
2007-08-02 22:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by D N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its either he is really scared or he is leading a double life...dont get married just because you feel its the right thing...do it because you both want it...when the time is right....not just for you but for him as well...there might be a hidden reason he is not willing to devulge at this time to you so keep an open mind as to what is going on with him and around you both
2007-08-02 22:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by brandypinkbtrfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the wedding off, now. There is a difference between cold feet and not being ready for marriage. It sounds like he is not ready and he needs to take more time.
2007-08-02 22:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He keeps changing his mind because he doesn't want to get married.
2007-08-03 00:48:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
doubts are never good i think you guys should wait until you truly love each other enough that you do not have doubts or thoughts about anyone else!!1
2007-08-02 22:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by Gippy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when in question don't do it! either yes or no better to get OUT before it gets complicated then to just hurt each other worse and have a failed marriage.
2007-08-02 22:28:00 · answer #8 · answered by golly geesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now before you waste anymore of your time. Better to know now.
2007-08-02 22:35:47 · answer #9 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the church you are required to do premarital counseling to answer doubts. get some. or dont get married
2007-08-02 22:33:51 · answer #10 · answered by jaded 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋