Why do people mess with people who are married?

Question

This stems from just being curious...

"Why do people mess with people who are married?"

Think about it?....

Answer 1

For the love of the game.

Answer 2

Because they enjoy the challenge and they do not have to worry about a commitment because they really don't want one anyway. People always want what they can't have especially the excitement from taking the forbidden fruit. It isn't a normal relationship because it has to stay hidden and the drama in itself can be a big turn on for some people. Your always looking over your shoulder hoping that no one recognizes you that knows your wife or husband because this could ruin everything that you have going on in your little world. How wonderfull to only connect with a person that you don't have to take home and fall into a boring life routine. You don't have to pay bills, find time between the kid's, cleaning the house , washing the dirty laundry,and listening to one another snore. You are in fantasy land where lovers meet with no worry about tomorrow, where lust and love draws a thin line , where you can be intimate with no emotions attached if that is the choice, be free to be who you want to be .......cry when you sit alone over the holidays and feel sorry for yourself. What can be be better than that except maybe the married person ruins it and falls in love and wants to bring all their baggage into your life now! The lover ends the game and now your fun is over because you won.........you get to keep the prize but, suddenly someone doesn't want to play anymore. That is why some people mess with people who are married because they can't resist the challenge.

Answer 3

Because the married person agrees to it. Personally, I would never hold the "other" accountable--it's the sole responsibility of the person in the relationship to remain faithful.

If my boyfriend had an affair, I would blame him. I don't think I'd want to get coffee with her or anything, but I wouldn't bear a grudge against the other woman either. He's the one who's supposed to love me, and respect me. HE failed at HIS responsibility.

If the cheating didn't happen because the other person said no, that doesn't mean your partner was faithful, it means they got turned down. Sure, they may not try again with someone else, but the fact that they wanted to cheat still remains. Somehow, it wouldn't be much consolation to me to know that my boyfriend didn't cheat simply because the other woman wasn't up for it. Still, that just may be the sort of woman I'd like to take for coffee.

Answer 4

People who mess with married people have issues. They want to feel like they have been chosen over someone else, over a complete family. Im sure many also do it for the excitement, and rush they get off it. I think that mes who mess with married women do it because they know they wont have to commit and they get exactly what they want out if it...sex.

Answer 5

Misery loves company if your not in that place in your life but your surrounded by people who are it sometimes appealing and they would like to experience this kind of relationship the fall back is this though if you are successfully able to invade this relationship the fantasy becomes corrupt and there is no room to believe that this will ever be a way into a successfull relationship most end abruptly or drag on and eventually end violently of course their is the rare occassion that it works but thats no way too look for love... I have had someone ruin my marrige it sucks because not only did I suffer but my children are and will probably continue to suffer from this...

Answer 6

Because the forbidden is always tempting. Also, people who continue in a long term relationship with a married person are convinced they are in love and that the other person will prove their love by leaving the spouse. This very rarely happens though, but some people believe the lie for years and years.

Answer 7

Because the people who are married instigate it or don't discourage it.

Doesn't make it right, but if married/committed people worked on fixing problems in their relationships instead of going outside them for comfort/fun, then the people who mess with them wouldn't have anyone to mess with.

Answer 8

They have the morals of a common alley cat.
They get a boost from being able to get someone who belongs to someone else.
They possess the highest form of selfishness.
They have no self respect.
They have no respect for the families that they are tearing apart.
They have no conscience.
They have very low self esteem.

...Quite frankly...they make me sick.

Answer 9

Don't have to think about it. Men are sick and perverted and think the getting married will open up the field of ladies just for them. thank god mine is okay. No one has a perfect marriage but We try.

Answer 10

Some people like the challenge of trying to get something they shouldn't be trying to get.

Essentially it comes down to a total lack of morals and being all-around selfish.

Answer 11

uhhh, yeah thats right. Why do they do that? I mean ..I meeean all im trying to do here is be married guy...and the other lady just wont stop messing around with me!