i have this friend who lives in texas and i live in minnesota. well anyway i found out that she is having a baby shower. i had asked her why didnt i get a invintation and she said its because she knew i could not make it becuse we are long distance she also said its because she dosent want me to feel like i have to send a gift. what should i do. im so mad at her for not inviting me. sh said im being upset for no reason. also is it rude to invite someone that lives out of state
2007-08-02 14:34:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If she had sent the invitation...would you be posting here that you thought she was fishing for gifts?
2007-08-02 14:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by Last Stand 2010 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it's not rude to invite someone that lives out of state. Instead, it is considerate. And I think she was being very thoughtful as a friend to not make you feel obligated to send a gift. I'm sure when the baby is born she will send an birth announcement. Then it will be the appropriate time to send a gift. Please don't take this so personal. Sounds like you have a good and thoughtful friend. It would be a shame if you allow this to come between you.
2007-08-02 21:40:01 · answer #2 · answered by Vida 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have been rude for her to invite you. But, obviously, you're not going to travel from Minnesota to Texas for a shower. Sending you an invitation would have seemed too much like begging for a gift. I believe she acted correctly and you have over reacted. You can still send a gift if you'd like.
2007-08-02 21:39:29 · answer #3 · answered by Tom K 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me once, too between me and a friend up north. You know what I did. I sent a gift anyway. And, the first chance I got, I went to see that baby. And, I bought my friend a local spa treatment.
Then, I went home back to Texas and well, never saw her again. Not because I don't want to, but I am just living a different life than her. I hope she enjoyed the spa gift.
2007-08-02 21:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your feelings are hurt, you feel left out. I'm sure she could have sent an invation at least giving you the option of sending a gift why not wouldn't you take a gift if you lived close enough to go to the shower. It's not rude noo not if your friends . I gave my daughter in law a baby shower over the internet. we MYself and family ours and hers. none of us could afford to go . so we set up web cams before the shower we sent all the gifts so she could open them the day of the shower we played games and had cake while a few friends she has made in montana did the same their . your friend is in the wrong
2007-08-02 21:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by melanie o 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hopefully she was being honest with you, and really does consider it rude to invite someone from out of state. If you trust her, take what she says at face value. It sounds like she was trying to save you some money, and although it would have been nice to receive an invitation (even if you had to refuse it) she gave you her reasons.
2007-08-02 21:38:46 · answer #6 · answered by SodaLicious 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend's reaction sounds very innocent. I believe she in her mind; took in consideration the distance and perhaps financial stands. It is imperative that your friendship not end or suffer at a time of celebration.
If you really want to be included; go out and buy a gift and send it to your friend. It will let her know you still love and cherish the friendship. In addition; it allows you to participate in the overall celebration; and shows that you care.
2007-08-02 21:41:26 · answer #7 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's just a baby shower. Sounds like she had good intentions.
Send a gift after the baby is born or go see it.
2007-08-02 21:38:39 · answer #8 · answered by KAT 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand both points, and they both are valid so I dont think you should be that mad at her.
2007-08-02 21:47:33 · answer #9 · answered by tamara s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋