I'me anti-social and want to improve on this, how?

Question

I can be very shy as well...

I just want to learn how to be more confident and to speak up when talking to people I dont know, Cause I get very nervous...

Any Help?

Maybe this is also why i dont have any freinds :(

Answer 1

At your age, one of the best things you can do is join your drama group at school, and take speech classes or other classes that require you to be in front of the class at some point.

I had problems with being shy as well. Now I am a trainer for law firms. On Monday, I have to go talk in front of several hundred attorneys -- if I can do this, you can learn to speak up too.

The best way to be confident is to have something to be confident about. Yahoo answers is a great way to get started. Share the wealth of your knowledge. You know about being a teenager - answer questions from your perspective in the group on parenting teens. You will soon see that you know a lot.

Also, it is obvious that you are fairly smart. I was very surprised when I saw your age -- your writing indicates better than that. Try writing for a school publication.

Also, you may want to try working with children in a community center. You know more than they do and even this little experience will help.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Baby steps. Set small goals for yourself. Maybe a good first step would be to look a stranger in the eye and nod or smile. Or practice walking tall. Progress from there to simple topics of conversation like weather. Ask non-intrusive questions like "have you seen the new Harry Potter movie?"

Above all, you don't need to be 'FASCINATING!' to be accepted. Generally speaking, if you are pleasant and well-meaning, people will think well of you.

Answer 3

as challanging as it will be. First take baby steps. Get involved in group activities so you can slowly step out of your comfort zone without jumping off the cliff so to speak. church functions are always great for that. If you are in a good one people will tend to extend more grace in patience as you work through this. the key is regardless of hard or miserable you are at first if you are dead serious about changing this you must be persistant.

Answer 4

It not something u can improve right away. just take a step a bit each by day by talking to more people and more confident. you have to push ur self a bit to. at may be hard to push but after a while it really easy cuz u get use to it.

Answer 5

Read the book by Dale Carnegie-

" How to Win friends and Influence People!!"

Its one of the best books available on teaching people how to better interact with others.

The title should really be "How To Improve our Social Skills"

Answer 6

don't read to much into it, just act like you have know them all your life but at the same time keep in mind that you may never see them again. it worked for me and I was super shy! oh and don't forget to be your self to people and always remember no matter what you do some people still wont like you but that's OK cause life go's on!

Answer 7

experience. at first it'll be hard going up to someone you dont know and introducing yourself but it will gradually get easier each time you do it. it's kinda like singing in front of an audience. at first it's very difficult but as you do it more and more it becomes 2nd nature. just set aside all your insecurities and push yourself to do it.

Answer 8

If you were anti-social you wouldn't want to improve. You're anxious--very different. Start with Toastmasters or a counselor.

Answer 9

Practice meditation and Yoga.

Answer 10

Join a JROTC or military type program. Stick with it, and you will be complety changed.