Does anybody else see the futility in marriage?
You go and make a vow to eachother and lets remember that this is a vow, not some buisness contract, and all you have to do is sign a bit of paper to have it dissolved. Has anyone ever thought this whole marriage thing is just a money makeing scheme? engagement ring, wedding ring, wedding reception,
children, divorce lawyers. It seems that everybody else makes money from your union and no-one is ever there to say "hey, lets work it out before you decide to part ways for free." Women in an abusive marriage should leave - that is a price no-one should have to pay.
2007-08-02 13:58:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i belive that marriage is a great thing as i am engaged. I think marriage is taken to lightly and that so many people profit from your union that it makes me sick. I for one will not sign the piece of paper, I have made my vow to my fiance and my integrity will shine through. thanks for the answers.
2007-08-02 15:02:27 · update #1
Marriage is a buisness now and people spend thousands of dollars on their ceremony and put no effort into the partnership. Everybody seems to want to re enact the hollywood glamour and pomp and rush headlong into a lifetime committment
2007-08-02 15:05:48 · update #2
Without getting into the religious debate that can go with this, marriage is indeed a business contract of sorts.
What a marriage does is create a formal partnership that may jointly own property and make decisions. Without a marriage, real estate would be owned severally instead of in the entirety - that would create a real problem sometimes.
Without the contract - each parent of a child would be separately responsible for maintenance - instead of jointly responsible.
It really is a business arrangement in the purest sense. :-)
I am however one of those that thinks traditional marriage is an institution of the past that has outlived any real utility. It serves no real purpose these days because most of the role requirements of earlier times have been replaced with equality. Whether that is good or bad, I don't know. But reality is that marriage of old is not the same as marriage of modernity.
There are plenty of examples of committed fidelity in couples who aren't married and plenty of examples of infidelity in couples that are. Marriage doesn't assure fidelity at all.
2007-08-02 14:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by CoachT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage shows committment and shows your partner the love is there and its there forever, its not just a piece of paper there should be meaning to it. A wedding doesnt have to be huge, you dont need to send lots of money, you could probably spend more money on a divorce than the wedding itself. It seems like your outlook on marriage is rather bleak and not so optimistic, why would anyone want to marry someone with that attitude?
2007-08-03 02:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, if you don't ever wish to marry, then don't... and have no children either...
Divorces are as well, easy.... go to the internet, or any office supply place, fill out the papers, both sign, the filing fee is usually $15. Lots of people after they have married, realize it is a bad match, and divorce as friends... no attorneys, or if they use one, they use a mediating attorney who represents both of them, and just makes sure each do such things as re doing wills etc.
And lots of people having been married once, find that they do not wish to get into an estate division thing again, even if it is civilly divided. People as well can sign pre-nups. But with children and property, living together for 8 years makes it common law anyway......................... so in your case, form no bond, live with no one, have no children, and do not share. You'll likely be much happier.
2007-08-02 21:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
vows are for those who really take marriage seriously. It means more to those who believe in God. You don't need to do the whole wedding thing or engagement party etc., Just go to the court house and do it. Those that don't get married still product kids. You want to have sex and except your girlfriend to clean up after you like she was your mama, well like everything in life as a price!
2007-08-02 21:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by honeybunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the abused women theory. Marriage is something that is sacred between two people. The trouble is that society has made it so easy to just walk away. What would people do if there were no divorce lawyers, divorce courts, no alimony, and were penalized for even wanting to leave their spouse? I think once you make that commitment, you are committed to staying in it provided there is no cheating, beating, stealing, and no other criminalizing in any way.
2007-08-02 21:10:26 · answer #5 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why bother getting married you ask? Well there are a few good reasons.
1) Fidelity (steadfast faithfulness, loyalty)
2) Tax advantages
3) Combined income
4) 2 parents in the home if offspring are involved
5) Partnership at building a life together
These are the reasons we married.
Mary
2007-08-02 21:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by maryannmccarthy2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for a long long time but i do understand what you say but the family minister does counsell for free
& the Governments made it too easy to divorce so lots of people dont bother to try to work it out now, where as before they cared enough about their kids to solve their problems so as not to destroy the kids happiness
& yes violence & adultry etc is a deal breaker & divorce for those should be free but it will never happen
2007-08-02 21:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I highly highly recommend that you do not get married.
And, since you've added more comment to your question, I still don't think you should get married. NOBODY is forcing you to pull money out of your pocket. Go to the justice of peace, elope somewhere if you are too cheap to let your bride to be (since you are apparently engaged) have the one day that she has dreamed of since she was a little girl. You have a corroded view of the entire doctrine of marriage. But hey, this is America, you are entitled to view it as you wish. But if I knew your fiance, I would tell her to run, and run fast.
2007-08-02 21:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by Smith S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband and I have been married 13 years, right now he is deployed and missed #13 anniversary and will miss # 14 too, our wedding was nice and simple cost all of about $300, the most important thing was that family and friends helped us celebrate our special day. Being married is not a business contract its a commitment to someone you love, its all about attitude my friend
2007-08-05 19:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by LB67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree about women in abusive relationships, but there are also men that are in abusive realtionship....and millions of people who are happily married and NOT in abusive relationships.
Marriage is not right for everyone, but it does have a point. I think marriage is great....when it's with the right person!
2007-08-02 21:02:09 · answer #10 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋