I tend to have moments of self confidence, however, I see others on a daily basis, that no matter what situation they are in, they are confident. How can I get that everyday, without worrying in every situation if I will measure up? Everything from my job, my kids, sports, school, my weight, the way I dress and look; I always feel someone is out-doing me, and I feel less than them.
2007-08-02 13:23:15 · 8 answers · asked by Linda S 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Comparisons are tedious. You shouldn't compare yourself to anybody but yourself. You should always try to be the best person you can be, which means being yourself and doing what you love to do. You should compare yourself from time to time to older versions of yourself, and ask questions such as these: "Am I a better person than I was a week ago?" "Am I doing what I like to do?" "Are you working harder towards a goal?"
Self confidence doesn't come easily to everybody. Nevertheless, in order to be truly self confident you have to trust yourself, trust who you are. You have to be confortable in your own skin. For instance, consider this hypothetical situation: You like classical music by Mozart, whereas most people today like rock/pop/rap/hip-hop/etc. You can either tell your friends you don't listen to the music they do, or you can lie and tell them you do listen to rock and pop. The first choice would show you are confident because you are confortable with who you are. You accept the fact you might be different with regards to your music taste, but you like that music and there's nothing wrong with that. The second choice shows you aren't confident because you like to give yourself a different image in front of your friends.
To be confident means you have to have trust-- trust in yourself. Just stop worrying about what other people do, how other people look, or how confident other people appear to be. Learn to trust you instincts, your personal choices, your personal tastes, etc. After all you are independent and unique, and you are responsible for yourself. Nobody can tell you what to do, and nobody can bring you down, unless you allow them to. Again, don't compare yourself to other people and just concentrate on being a happy and loving person, or whichever type of person you choose to be.
Good luck!
2007-08-02 14:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by cargentina0102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people will put up a facade of confidence to hide the insecurity they feel inside, so if I were you I wouldn't necessarily trust appearances. It seems to me that self-criticism is one of the bigger blocks you have toward gaining self-confidence - if you could stop judging yourself and comparing yourself to others (as the others above me have mentioned) you would probably be happier, but that's easier said than done. From a graphological standpoint (if you are the type to believe in handwriting analysis) raising your 't' bars could help you increase your confidence; there are also many self-help books for people with low confidence that you could buy or borrow from a library.
2007-08-02 20:41:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is your problem to begin with. Don't worry about other people and what they think of you. All that matters is that you believe in yourself.
Your confidence is based on how you think. Never dwell on the negative, always focus on the positive.
2007-08-02 20:46:40 · answer #3 · answered by afilmbuff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you got to learn to love yourself, and be youself, and read all the positive sources of positive information you can get your hands on, like books by Dr. wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Earl Nightingale and so on.........relax and be yourself, don't worry about what others think, live a life of love and love life, refuse all negativity in your life...now study on for good health.
2007-08-02 20:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by nocateman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think anyone is ever always confident, everyone has their moments of not feeling good enough, you just need to stop comparing yourself to other people
2007-08-02 20:48:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice meditation and Yoga.
2007-08-02 23:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by d_r_siva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop comparing yourself to others.
2007-08-02 20:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by sisco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe in yourself and believe in your dreams. someone will always be better than you. know your limitations and your shortcomings... love and accept yourself for what you are.
2007-08-03 01:06:12 · answer #8 · answered by Lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋