Why do they cheat on their wives emotionally..for example..they meet a woman and gets to know her..but doesnt do anything sexual..He just wants to hang out with her and talk...why is that?
2007-08-02 13:17:37 · 21 answers · asked by Shannon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's the forbidden fruit syndrome. Many guys gets turned on with something that isn't theirs. Remember they are cavemen at heart and love to conquer at will.
What he is doing is dangerous. I'd really hate for you to just pretend it didn't exist and find out at a later date that they actually were doing something. That would break your heart.
And my personal thought on this is that it is not as innocent as he tried hard to make you believe. Besides... if she is a friend of his, there is NO REASON why she can't be a friend of yours also.
What my husband and I agreed is to steer clear from the perception of compromising situations. We just don't put ourselves in a place that anyone can question our motives.
So If he has a friend, it will be OUR friend, and visa versa. It's honest. It's fair, and it holds you both accountable.
Trust me. This has nothing to do with you. It is in a man's genes. There just needs to be a mutual (key word: mutual) understanding about the "boundaries" that need to be in place.
Good luck, sweetheart. I've been in your shoes. It's not comfortable.
2007-08-02 13:25:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
A man usually cheats emotionally because he isn't getting his emotional needs met at home. Now, don't get me wrong, this does not excuse his behavior or choices.
When a marriage has problems there isn't any answers to be found outside the marriage. Anytime a person turns outside of the marriage only more problems will grow.
If a person is unhappy in a marriage s/he should communicate that unhappiness to the spouse. They should discuss their needs and really communicate. Communication is key to any relationship. However, if two people are not communicating then emotional needs are not going to get met. We can't read minds so we need our partners to tell us when we are not providing what they need. If they don't and then turn outside the marriage, well, that is rather unfair. It doesn't give us our rightful opportunity to make things right.
But the bottom line in answering this question is men cheat emotionally because they are not getting their emotional needs met at home.
2007-08-02 13:44:59 · answer #2 · answered by Serenity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak for all men. Furthermore I believe that almost all questions of the form "why do men [or women] do X" are NOT asked properly to get realistically answered.
Here's why. There's no one reason for most of these things. When it comes to intentions, actions, language, thoughts and feelings, usually they are parts of a complex matrix including variables in all those areas.
Also, your question assumes that getting to know and talk with women who are not their wives constitutes some kind of cheating, in fact what you call emotional cheating.
Well, there are many people in the world. Billions. Through life almost all people must interact with -- how many? To eat with. To talk with. To [play music with. To learn from. To wink at. To have sex with. To work with. To look at the sunset with. To carpool with. To do business with. To have lunch with. To do all sorts of things with.
But there are only two genders, male and female. This means that roughly half the world's population is one of two genders. If marriage meant that a person of either gender should no longer get to know and talk with any member of the other gender except the spouse, it would be impossible, and it would fly dead into the face of reality, and anybody who thought otherwise would be ridiculous.
When did talking become emotional cheating? IT'S NOT. And I thought sexual cheating had to involve sex. I've heard of mentally cheating, which almost everybody does. Whether it's cheating is up for grabs. Imagining a house is not the same as a house. It's not even considered construction.
But "emotional cheating?" What is that? Feeling close to someone who is not your spouse? That's what it would mean, if it meant anything at all. Certainly it has nothing to do with talking. Having something to do with talking would be "talking cheating." Regardless, what is wrong with feeling close to someone who is not your spouse?" Feelings of closeness with male and female people [plural], whether you are married or not, BETTER be the case, or your life is extremely empty.
This is too much talk about cheating!
If anybody tries to keep you from getting to know and talk to other people solely because of those other people's gender, they are hurting you, and you should feel disrespected. You should see that the other person is attempting to control your behavior, and even your mind, to satisfy their outrageous insecurity and inappropriate jealousy
Best,
TQRP
2007-08-02 13:38:00 · answer #3 · answered by Theron Q. Ramacharaka Panchadasi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Emotional cheating? Say what? If a man or a woman meets someone and their talking to that person more than they're talking to you then you're doing something wrong.
2007-08-02 13:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by Iron What? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not call it cheating. Being married does not mean that you are not allowed to communicate your feelings to others. It is okay as long as it is honest communication. You don't have to want to sleep with someone just because you are talking to them. I think it's okay even if there is a little attraction as long as both people are smart enough to respect the marriage(s) and not cross the line.
2007-08-02 13:28:40 · answer #5 · answered by Lady J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men hardly ever cheat emotionally thats just the one you with emotionally cheating is a female characteristic
2007-08-02 15:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by anthentherwasi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing is that make the relationship more interesting and sweet so that men would not hang out to more sweet women
2007-08-02 22:28:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some might call that making friends. I have women friends who I can confide many personal things. I enjoy hanging out with them and running with them. No different from hanging with male friends.
2007-08-02 13:36:49 · answer #8 · answered by Big Red 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
because there is nothing wrong with making friends no matter what their sex is..if you connect with someone...cherish it. Love and good friends is extremely hard to find so why would you ask him to give that up. He isn't cheating on you....so trust him. Maybe you could be friends with her too
2007-08-02 13:23:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
some men do but not the way of nature
2007-08-02 17:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋