My boyfriend is WAY too close to his mom. Hes a nice guy, but unemployed and still lives with her (he's 39). He cant sit still for 5 mins and does everything for her.
She treats him like a child. Neither of them have a social life so he even goes shopping with her to keep her company - yet he doesnt think its odd. He wanted to spend xmas with her cause if he didnt 'shed be mad at him'. She doesnt get mad thou -shes stern, emotionless and COLD. And I dont think shed care if he was there for xmas or not!
Its hard to know what she thinks of him but he wont hear a bad word against her, even though shes a *****! When I go round she is unable to use my name. She knows it - she just can't say it! I know she doesn't think much of me.
I dont understand it. Its like he never rebelled as a teen. He never left the nest - even though he is independent - his LIFE isnt independent. Is that weird? What is this strange invisible hold that she has on him?
2007-08-02 13:11:33 · 7 answers · asked by light star girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
His condition and situation is not uncommon. There are myriad men who have never truly matured enough to become independent of their moms. What seems weirder to me is the fact that you are going out with a man like this? Should you not be asking yourself why? What is it that attracted you to this man? Do you feel you can somehow pull him from the grips of mommy? No offense, but... What strange, invisible hold does he have on YOU?
2007-08-02 13:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by SexRexRx 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is definitely way too close to his mom. It could be that he is too worried about her, it could be that he doesn't want to support himself, and the list goes on and on.
I know of a man who lived with his mom his whole life. When she passed away, he was in his 60's. He was totally lost because he didn't know how to live on his own without her.
How can he be independent when he is INTERDEPENDENT on his mom? If he doesn't have a job, no money, no interests, no hobbies...how is there independence?
You are not going to get this guy to leave his mom alone.
My suggestion: end the relationship with him. it's not going anywhere until she dies. and even then, it may be too, too late.
2007-08-02 13:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read all of the above answers, then RUN RUN RUN. Make him your ex unless you want to be his mother after she dies. My son married a woman like that and there are 3 people in that marriage. He loves his wife, but they can't go out with friends or to a movie without her coming along.
2007-08-02 13:50:07 · answer #3 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him
2007-08-02 13:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by BClovis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about you dump him, and go find yourself a MAN.
2007-08-02 13:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by I Have Parasites 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow. He is a true "mama's boy", as he "feels safe".
2007-08-02 13:20:08 · answer #6 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to take you with him to see his mother.
2007-08-02 13:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by firewall 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋