Depression problems?

Question

ANYBODY GOT ANY SUGGESTIONS ON HOW I CAN HELP MY MUCH YOUNGER FRIEND WHO SWORE ME TO SECRECY TO NOT TELL ANYONE THIS.BUT THIS IS HER STORY:SHE HAS A FATHER THAT HAS ANGER MANAGEMENT PROBLEMS,WHO IS A BULLY THAT ALWAS BROWBEATS ALL OF THEM.THEN SHE HAS WILD YOUNGER SIBLINGS.SHE IS SHUNNED AT SCHOOL.THE TEACHERS PICK ON HER AND LAUGH AT HER,BECAUSE SHE WANTS TO BECOME AN ACTRESS.APPARENTLY NOBODY SUPPORTS HER.SHE IS REALLY DEPRESSED!HER MOTHER IS ALWAYS BITCHING AT HER FOR NO APPARENT REASON.SHE IS SHUNNED BY THE WHOLE WORLD IT SEEMS.APPARENTLY SHE WANTS TO BECOME AN ACTRESS DESPITE ALL THE ODDS AND HER PARENTS COMPLETELY DISAGREE.SHE IS UNSURE ABOUT WHETHER TO FOLLOW HER HEART OR HER PARENTS'.EVERYTHING IS A BATTLE FOR HER.

IT'S NOT AS SIMPLE AS IT SEEMS.SHE HAS SPOKEN TO THE GUIDANCE COUNSELER ALREADY ABOUT THE BULLYING,ALL THEY CAN BASICALLY DO IS TELL THEM NOT TO BOTHER HER.AS YOU CAN SEE,IT TRULY PAINS ME TO SEE HER LIKE THIS AND IN SUCH A SITUATION LIKE THIS.AND JUST SITTING THERE AND WATCHING....IT'S UNBEARABLE THE WAY SHE'S TREATED.WELL HER PARENTS TEND TO HAVE A "FAVORITE".SHE IS A FIRST GENERATION BENGALI MUSLIM.SHE IS KIND OF DEVOUT.DON'T WORRY SHE'S NOT THE VEIL ANTI-AMERICAN STUFF.SHE HAS A YOUNGER SISTER WHO IS A SPOILED BRAT AND "DADDY'S LITTLE GIRL".AND SO IS HER YOUNGER BROTHER WHO HAPPENS TO BE "MOMMA'S BOY".SHE REALLY DOES'NT WANT TO OPEN UP AN ACS CASE AND IT'S KILLING ME EVEN MORE BECAUSE SHE LOST HER TRUST AFTER ALL THE BETRAYAL,PAIN AND HURT SHE WENT THROUGH.SHE'S VERY TALENTED AND BEAUTIFUL,IT WOULD BE A SHAME IF SHE DID'NT GET TO DO SOMETHING WITH IT.

I THINK THAT IT IS WRONG OF HER PARENTS.OH YES SHE IS A VERY STRONG AND COURAGEOUS PERSON.IN FACT SHE HAS'NT SHED A TEAR THROUGH ALL OF THIS (NOT THAT I KNOW OF ANYWAY).

I AM THE ADULT THAT SHE COMES TO TO TALK.UNFORTUNATELY LIKE I MENTIONED EARLIER,SHE SWORE ME TO SECRECY.

Answer 1

she being abused?

sounds to me that she needs to get out of that emotionally abusive household before thinking about being an actress...

Answer 2

First off, what she is going through will make her an even stronger actress - IF she persists and follows her dream.

Many people have dreams and goals and those are shattered by mindsucking vampires around them.

The only way to deal with this is to dissociate oneself from those vampires.

Translation: she needs to move on as quickly as she can. Her parents seem useless at this point, so is everyone who tries to rip her dream apart.

She needs to get out as soon as she can.

By the way, in terms of depression there is a big difference between "being depressed" and "having depression".

If she still has a depressed state of mind after she gets out she may have depression, which is an imbalance of chemicals such as norepinephrine, dopamine and serotin in the brain.

Depending on the severity of depression ("clinical depression") this depressed state of mind could continue even once she is a famous actress with all the fans, love and money in the world. It won't go away, it's a physical thing.

SOLUTION: either way, antidepressants can do wonders. She should discuss this option with her doctor. There are many fine drugs such as Effexor, Paxil, Zoloft, Welbutrin and others that can help tremendously. Since all these medications have a good amount of potential side effects it's important that she discusses this thoroughly with her doctor.

Answer 3

I am worrried here, your friend who has a father with an anger management problem. I hate to say this but this for her protection she should be removed from her parents before they do harm. A father with anger management problem and a mother who constantly picking on their daughter for no reason. Can she not talk to the counsellor at school because she is also being bullied.

She should get out of the family situation and how would the world know she would not make a good actress? Give your friend the support she needs. I think she would make an excellant actress. Please have her to someone who cares before its too late. I can see you are worried too.

Answer 4

There are many effective ways to overcome depression. Fortunately, we can control our thoughts and feelings much more than most people realize. With enough work and effort, you can change habitual thoughts and feelings. First, however, if you are on any medicines, check with your doctor to see if a medicine may be causing your depression. A surprising number of medicines can do this, including many tranquilizers or sleeping pills, many high blood pressure medicines, hormones such as oral contraceptives, some anti-inflammatory or anti-infection drugs, some ulcer medicines, etc. Changing your prescribed medications may be all you need to eliminate depression.

Develop Interests, Participate in Activites

Keep A Positive Attitude

Get to Work on Personal Problems

Tackle Your Bad Habits

Develop Friendships and Relationships

Balance in Your Life

Quit Rewarding Passive or Dependent Behaviors

http://healthyplace.com/Communities/depression/treatment/therapy/article_overcoming_depression.asp

http://www.overcome-depression-now.com

http://www.overcomedepression.co.uk

http://www.coping.org/anger/depress.htm

http://www.kpchr.org/feelbetter

http://www.search.com/search?q=overcome+depression&respell=1

Answer 5

I'm so sorry to hear about this. It's really unfortunate some of the ways children are raised in their families. You seem to really be a great friend in trying to help her out. I'm sorry to hear about what is going on in your school that she can't even go to her teachers for encouragement or validation. You should be able to trust and confide in your mentors.

Now I'm not completely familiar with all of the laws.. But I'm pretty sure there is not much anyone can do about her family, as sad as it is, to protect her right now. She has to have been physically abused to press charges. And if that ever happens she needs to go directly to the police with any evidenciary support she can get. But hopefullly it never gets to that severity.

What you really should do is try to find some sort of a safe house for her. An adult, just somewhere she can go if she needs immediate attention. Whether it be emotional or physical. Maybe your parents, or you can go down to the police station or look online for some big brothers big sisters thing. There are a lot of adults out there that want to be there for kids.. Anyone..

It sounds to me, that your friend is looking for someone to save (rescue) her. Deep down in many womens soul they have a urning to be rescued or swept away by a knight in shining armor.. They fantisize. They all wish to be someones princess. Well, I think that your friends dream of becoming an actress may be your friends princess fantasy. It's her time to shine. And I think that is definitely her escape. That is probably one of the things that will help her to get through this is that dream. And you can be there for her by just helping her with that. Sometimes fantasies do come true.. And with as tough as she is going to be after this awful childhood.. I wouldn't be surprised for one minute if she doesn't live out her dream.

So, that would be my advice. Just do everything you can possibly do to just keep her happy and distracted from her life at home.. As awful as it is, it seems that's probably the best thing. But I do think it is really important you search for one adult that she can go to and trust.

Good luck. Email me anytime if you have any questions or you need any help. :-)

Answer 6

ur helping her so much right now by being her friend. she may have ppl who doubt her abilities, but if she really considers the opinions of anyone that is shunning her or putting her down, let her kno that all those ppl that are saying this to her are doing nuthin special for their life just because they suck doesn't mean she has to be like them. u keep telling her she can do it and that should be enough, ur her close friend and she will take great appreciation from ur positive opinion.
she is a courageous girl for going after her dream despite all the put down. let her kno through a storm there is always a rainbow waiting at the end. I kno she will achieve her goal its just gonna take sum time.^_^

Answer 7

I feel she has been neglected and abused by her family. It bothers me that even the teachers pick on her, what's wrong if she has her dream to become an actress, and I have a feeling she will, because she will turn her anger into accomplish her dreams. I feel sorry about the situation she is in right now but tell her to follow her dreams! She will accomplish them!

Answer 8

the first thing she needs to do is get out of that household try staying at a relatives house. she should follow her dreams and say f**k her parents wishes it's not their life. when she does make it as an actress everybody will be kissing her *** then.

Answer 9

She needs to wait until she is economically independent, by the time she can move out and live alone and do whatever she wants. That day, she will not have take all the nonsense.

Answer 10

you should refer your friend to counseling, there is more to her problems than meets the eye,it sounds like she is in an abusive situation, verbally,physically and perhaps sexually,she is walking with a low self esteem of herself.