her awful boyfriend is in prison and has changed all my funeral arrangements.my mothers wishes were to be cremated not buried.he is not notifying me of anything, the funeral has been put on hold and i have no say. she was only with him 4 years and he was awful to her
2007-08-02 12:39:03 · 21 answers · asked by christine x 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I doubt he has any say if he's in prison! Why has the funeral been put on hold? I'd see a solicitor PDQ!!!!!
2007-08-02 12:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by Pixxxie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally he's not the next of kin & the responsibility of funeral lies with the next of kin...if you have siblings or surviving grandparents you are all equal (unless 1 or more of you were estranged, in which case the estranged relatives have no rights).
As the arrangements were made by you the funeral director is completely out of order to take changes from anyone other than you...If you're taking responsibility for arranging (& presumably paying for) the funeral it is a legal contract between you & the funeral director so if they've changed it without your say so its technically illegal.
See a solicitor or the CAB who will sort everything out for you.
2007-08-02 14:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How is he able to do any of this from prison??
Contact the funeral home or the county where her body is, and claim it, period. If that doesn't work, you might need a lawyer to help you claim it.
You might also need to hire a lawyer and find out what her will says and who, if anyone, is named in her will (if there even was one). In just about every state, he has no rights unless they were married or he was named as the beneficiary or the decision-maker on a legal document. As the next of kin, you are the one who should be deferred to legally -- especially since he's incapacitated at the moment.
And I'm still shocked he can do any of this from jail.
2007-08-02 12:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by Hillary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not next of kin and has no rights whatsoever, there are laws governing this, call a funberal director - they will be able ttell you. There are laws - they don't have to be enforced too often, governing who actually has the right to travel in the first car - I was informed of that when my first hubby died and my mother-in-law expected me sand my son to travel in the second car, she also tried to get the headstone inscribed with 'inappropriate' wording, which the crematorium notified me of, as she actually had no say on that either - they wouldn't have erected it without my agreement. Go to a solicitor for a free 1/2 hour consult. UK
2007-08-03 05:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by groovymaude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is just a boyfriend, and unless you mother made specific arrangements that he could make her funeral arrangements, I would think that this has to be attended to by next of kin. However, if he lived with her, I'm not sure what the legal position is on co-habitees in this respect.
2007-08-06 11:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriend?? If they were not married, he needs a signed Power of Attorney to have any say whatsoever. Is it that he's paying for it and is, therefore, negotiating the contract with the funeral home? He can do that, but you don't have to go along with it. If her child (children) agree that she's to be cremated, there's nothing he can do about it.
I'm hoping you or a sibling is over 18. If not, you may need a guardian appointed to ensure your rights are observed. Funeral homes are just businesses out to make money--you may have to threaten them with legal action if they try to ignore you.
2007-08-02 12:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by Pepper 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
aww sorry hun. I think you have a say in something. My grandfather just past away and wished to be cremated and have a small funeral. He got cremated thankfully :D. But he had a huge funeral, which was not what he wanted. My dad and I tried to tell his sister but she wouldn't listen. I wish you the best of luck, i tried to have a say and couldn't but maybe yours will be different :D
2007-08-02 12:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by Chantel C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As far as I know , the arrangements are down to the next of kin . Which whould mean the boyfreind had no saying in the matter
Take advise from your local CAB , as I am quite sure I am right.
I feel so sorry for you , as you do not need all this , at such a sad time
2007-08-03 13:29:49 · answer #8 · answered by Stephen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your mum. Unless the boyfriend is specifically appointed to deal with the arrangements he has no rights at all. The undertaker will normally take instructions from the next of kin, but it may be difficult if you are a minor.
Please speak to the undertaker to discuss your concerns.
2007-08-02 20:41:02 · answer #9 · answered by champer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was only the boyfriend unless your mother wrote a will or last testament giving him all the rights. You are the daughter you have all the rights, get him out of the picture and notify all the people involved with your mom that you and only you have the rights. If they do not then you will have to get the police or lawyers involved. I am sorry that you lost your mom and have to deal with this ingrate.
2007-08-02 12:45:08 · answer #10 · answered by Feline05 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋